Savannah2 Posted November 11, 2019 Share Posted November 11, 2019 (edited) Well I saw a post to his wife proclaiming his love to her so I messaged him telling to go f@&$ all the way off and I deleted the app we use to communicate So that’s that After almost 10 years of this crap I do wish I would have been a little less colorful in my word selection and left him with dignity and grace instead of telling him to eff off but this man has used me for years venting to me almost daily about how his wife makes him so crazy and then turns around and posts how much he loves her on social media. Be The nerve!!!!! He is and always will be a coward living a lie i know I won’t be his last affair Edited November 11, 2019 by Savannah2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 11, 2019 Share Posted November 11, 2019 Now block him and stay off of social media and get past it. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Starswillshine Posted November 11, 2019 Share Posted November 11, 2019 It's been 10 years, and many years of the same. He loves his wife, wants to stay married. Many years of lovey, gushy facebook posts to his wife. Many years of vacationing with his wife. All which have hurt you many times. When will you stop this self torture. I haven't gone back through all the posts, but did you ever divorce? Or still married, too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ABernie Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 I ended similarly. Harsh words. No matter what BW threw at me, I acted civilly, but she texted me a few weeks ago and I went off on her this time. So much was built up. This is the way I see it. If I had ended up with him, he very well could have cheated again. (Although highly unlikely as he isn't aging well, isn't well read/educated, and has a mediocre job.) But I don't think he will ever cheat on her again, b/c he has seen the consequence. If he didn't leave when he had the chance, I'm not sure he would risk what he went through again. Maybe I'm wrong, but I'm hopeful for BW. Although maybe I shouldn't be hopeful for her...She's stuck with him. Link to post Share on other sites
HadMeOverABarrel Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 The triangulation is real! BS and OW/OM need to focus less on each other and more on the truth of who the WW really is. Being focused on the wrong leg of the triangle, seeing things from a skewed angle, keeps you in it and powerless. Easier said than done when caught up in it I realize. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bittersweetie Posted November 12, 2019 Share Posted November 12, 2019 Here is proof that you cannot control him or his actions. You only have control over you, your actions, your reactions. May I suggest in the future, if you feel like telling him off, write it all down on paper. Then rip the paper in a thousand pieces and throw it away. Then you are getting your emotions out, but maintaining NC. And also sign off of social media for a while, there's no need for you to see posts like that. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 So that’s that No doubt that's for the best. Be glad it's over. Link to post Share on other sites
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