Piddy Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 (edited) Great Todd Rundgren song from 1978 BTW. Just curious how many are still friends with their exes? I'm not friends with any of my exes (all four). My wife isn't either. I have a cousin 4 years older than me (68) and he's friends with two of his ex girlfriends. One from high school even. He's also been married for 32 years. When you think about it, (it) does seem odd that you go from a euphoric / cloud nine feeling early on to one of either hate or indifference when you breakup. You not only lose your lover, but your best friend as well. I think I could've remained friends with the girls I lost feelings for, but if you still have feelings for a girl, it would be hard to be friends and see her with another guy. Edited November 13, 2019 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 Odd but it does happen. Two of my friends were in a relationship with each other and are good friends now. She has been dating someone else for 2 years now, and he is dating on and off but is mostly happily single. I tried to be friends with my last ex but that eventually failed. Not because of unresolved feelings, but we just stopped having things in common so it was pointless to continue making effort. I think it's definitely possible for exes to remain friends in the case where romantic feelings are gone for both people, but there is still some social compatibility between them, and they still care for each other. But normally one still has feelings for the other, and/or is wounded by the breakup in such a way that a friendship isn't possible. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 I'm not friends per se with any EX. However if I bump into someone I used to date I can manage a pleasant civil conversation for a few minutes, ask after their family etc. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted November 13, 2019 Share Posted November 13, 2019 I think it takes a LOT of emotional maturity to do this. The only cases I've done this successfully in were with high school GFs, where we broke up but then I would see them (as friends) when returning from college. So we weren't seeing very much of the other and the BFs/GFs were out of sight, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
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