Geminifeed Posted November 15, 2019 Share Posted November 15, 2019 My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for 10 months and I eventually moved away because it was a very bad breakup and he got into a new relationship immediately with a coworker. He continues to this day to post things on social media aimed at me (passive aggressive, negative quotes about relationships etc.) or things directly in competition to the things I post. He was the one who left and has been in a relationship since 2 weeks after we broke up and is "in love and happy with his soulmate". What could this mean? To clarify, by negative things I mean things about previous relationships (I was his only other relationship) and by competition for example, if I post a picture of a flower he will view my story then post something with a flower. If I post a picture of me out with a friend (not even male) or family member at dinner he will post a picture of his girlfriend at dinner etc. I'm just looking for some input on why he is acting this way. I know I should do the whole block and delete option, I am aware that it is the best route it's just very hard for me to cut him out of my life since we were engaged and together for 14 years (I'm 32). Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
rjc149 Posted November 15, 2019 Share Posted November 15, 2019 After 14 years and getting engaged, and only having been in 1 other relationship, he probably had some grass-is-greener-syndrome (GIGS) and got cold feet. Then after leaving you, he rebounded with the co-worker. I imagine he has a LOT of unresolved feelings and baggage from your 14 years together. If he was totally over you and moving on, he wouldn't be reacting to your social media posts. There may also be a chance, if you introspect and be totally honest with yourself, that you are interpreting his social media behavior as a reaction to you, when it's actually not. Something to consider. Link to post Share on other sites
Silver_star Posted November 15, 2019 Share Posted November 15, 2019 I know I should do the whole block and delete option, I am aware that it is the best route it's just very hard for me to cut him out of my life since we were engaged and together for 14 years (I'm 32). Thank you! It is hard to remove someone from social media, but if it causing you this distress/confusion I think it is for the best. Right now you are overly worried about what THEY will think or feel about you removing them vs. how YOU will feel. You won't have to think about their posts anymore, and that will liberate you. I think you should remove him and refuse to participate in the game playing. The relationship ended and you are not friends therefore they are already "cut from your life". You are not okay seeing his posts...you are on a forum right now asking people to analyze his behavior/posts. We cant possible know for sure what he is intending or thinking... The only logical option to help with your feelings of confusion when it comes to HIS social media posts/viewing your stories is to remove him completely. You arent actually interacting on these mediums as friends...so unfriend him from facebook, and unfollow from instagram. Go one further and block if you can..if you arent ready for that you can simply "hide your story" from him, so he will remain a follower if he wants, but nothing you post to your stories will be seen by him. Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 It takes a very small man - human being - to act that way. Be happy this childish loser decided to pull the plug. Things could be much worse, like if you found yourself married to him. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 Block him. There is no good reason to follow your ex's posts if they upset you Link to post Share on other sites
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