major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 My GF#1 just hit me with this line tonight when we went out for some food. I asked her to explain, but she couldn't really go into details. I know better than to push for an explanation because words aren't always her thing. I know she finds me attractive, for whatever reason. I don't think I'm all that great, but she likes to look at me. Ever since our relationship started, she's been fascinated by the fact that I have D-cups. But I don't dress sexy, it just isn't who I am. I wear jeans and a simple, buttoned-up work shirt with a jacket over that. I never wear skirts, dresses, or thin fabric. While I love sex and I have no problem taking my clothes off with my partners, I just don't want to show skin when I'm out. After several years together, is it possible she could be getting bored with me? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 you went out to eat? wtf? I thought you'd be out shooting deer! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Author Share Posted November 16, 2019 Yes, we have a small cafe a few minutes down the road. Deer shooting was actually this morning. I really wanted a hamburger and fries for dinner instead of venison, beans, and rice. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 Unless she's acting differently with you, I wouldn't worry. Maybe it was just a thought for that moment that it was too bad you weren't showing off your assets a little more. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 I have an assumption that all you guys do is walk around naked and have orgies all day so why does she care if you're not showing your boobs while ordering takeout? Does she want you to be an exhibitionist on top of everything else? 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Author Share Posted November 16, 2019 C-O, we're actually pretty buttoned up outside the bedroom. I get dragged back to the bedroom by my partners quite a bit, but the majority of my day is spent doing chores. You know...feeding kids, doing laundry, and working outdoors. I spent about 4 hours today processing meat and packaging it, and that was just one job I did. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 Ahhh, ok... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 Ahhh, ok... :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Author Share Posted November 16, 2019 Hmmm....I just had a thought. Maybe GF#1 thinks I'm looking too much like a housewife? I don't have that frumpy sweatpants look, but perhaps me being at home (and pregnant) all the time isn't quite the "bad girl" image that I used to have? I thought that back when I partied, drank, and drove way too fast that my bad habits drove her crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 It must be really stressful to try to remain sexually appealing to so many different people. Especially while post-partum AND pregnant. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Author Share Posted November 16, 2019 I'm actually surprised sometimes at how appealing I end up being. I'd consider myself a solid 5 on a good day. IDK why my GFs (10's) would be all that interested. I have put some effort into not gaining weight. I refuse to gain more than 15 pounds or so while pregnant, so I go back to my pre-pregnancy appearance pretty quickly. And pumping a bunch of breastmilk helps a lot too. Link to post Share on other sites
ajequals Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 just my opinion but a well endowed lady with a button up shirt is quite sexy to me I once had a girlfriend that I was doing my best to show her I was a gentleman ,while walking her home with my arm around her I started undoing some buttons ,she stopped me and said you should have thought about that when we were at your home. of course I attempted to turn her around but nothing doing. lol.. maybe she feels the same way about buttons 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 Perhaps she wants to "show you off" a bit MM? Some men are like this and want other men to know how hot their wife is. I can't speak for your Wife/GF's thinking on this, but possibly something similar is going on. Of course you must also decide how comfortable you are with this. Stray cleavage tends to attract stray male interest and you've made it pretty clear you're not interested in attn like that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 16, 2019 Author Share Posted November 16, 2019 I guess that's what it is - she wants to let others know that I belong to her. She can be kind of possessive like that. She likes to get up close to me, get in my lap, run her fingers in my hair....I guess she'd put her hand down my shirt if she had the opportunity. I used not to mind that, but I've grown out of it the last couple of years. I'm a mom now, not a horny teenager. I definitely do not want the stray male interest, which is one reason that I dress the way I do. If I want attention from others, I'd rather it be based on what I drive than on how I look. Still, I'm definitely aware that for a relationship to last, you can't let your partner get bored. IDK if I should find a way to accommodate her interest if this is something that matters? Link to post Share on other sites
Beendaredonedat Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 After several years together, is it possible she could be getting bored with me? Yes it is possible. If you don't make an effort then the attraction could die. If she asked you simply and honestly to sometimes where cleavage in order to excite her then why wouldn't you? You are obviously a pleaser so, please! You are not a shy person, going by your many sharings on your sexual life so why not experiment with your look? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 buy a couple of t-shirts that have cleavage printed on the front, that should keep her happy for a while 2 Link to post Share on other sites
pepperbird Posted November 16, 2019 Share Posted November 16, 2019 buy a couple of t-shirts that have cleavage printed on the front, What, Just the word "cleavage" in big, bold block style letters? That could actually be pretty funny. Good joke gifts- MM's wife might have quite a chuckle. It's a good way of addressing a situation she's not sure about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 17, 2019 Share Posted November 17, 2019 What, Just the word "cleavage" in big, bold block style letters? no, a picture of two boobs with cleavage in between Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 17, 2019 Share Posted November 17, 2019 no, a picture of two boobs with cleavage in between Like this? https://www.amazon.com/Miss-America-Bikini-Cover-Up-T-Shirt/dp/B00KY554DE/ref=asc_df_B00KY554DE/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=245369089410&hvpos=1o2&hvnetw=g&hvrand=8341328264289720454&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9007393&hvtargid=pla-569669306609&psc=1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 17, 2019 Share Posted November 17, 2019 exactly CO! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 17, 2019 Author Share Posted November 17, 2019 I think either one could be pretty funny. Having the word "cleavage" in print might almost be better... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 19, 2019 Author Share Posted November 19, 2019 So I unbuttoned 3 buttons for my GF today, and didn't wear a T shirt under my shirt. I had to remind her "my eyes are up here." Since my role in my relationships is often to be a pleaser, I might as well do what I do best. Perhaps she's not bored, but just has a breast fetish. I can deal with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 So I unbuttoned 3 buttons for my GF today, and didn't wear a T shirt under my shirt. I had to remind her "my eyes are up here." Since my role in my relationships is often to be a pleaser, I might as well do what I do best. Perhaps she's not bored, but just has a breast fetish. I can deal with that. maybe she's got smallish breasts and is envious Link to post Share on other sites
Author major_merrick Posted November 19, 2019 Author Share Posted November 19, 2019 She isn't just small, she's washboard flat. Which I find extremely attractive! I'm the only girl in the house who's got larger than a very small-ish size B. I guess we all want what we don't have, but if anything, I envy them. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 I guess we all want what we don't have, but if anything, I envy them. Hear, Hear. Big jugs are not all they are cracked up to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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