newbby Posted February 1, 2006 Share Posted February 1, 2006 if you really want to stay with your bf and feel that temptation is too great with the other guy, then yes stay away. Link to post Share on other sites
PYT Posted March 3, 2006 Share Posted March 3, 2006 How are you doing. Hopefully things have worked out one way or the other for you by now Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toni_no12002 Posted March 3, 2006 Author Share Posted March 3, 2006 not exactly.I just dont feel the same way with my boyfriend as i used to.I went out with my sisters bf the other day(i used to work with him).We went to some clubs and his nephew was there.Who i like.My sisters bfs 40 btw.After the clubs we went back to my mums me, my sisters bf and his nephew.We was talking and listening to music.My sisters bf went upstairs to my sister and it was just me and him.I really like him and i know he likes me because hes told me before.We talked about things.He told me if im unhappy to leave but it isnt as easy as that.We have a house and a kid.But why is this happenening i feel so confused about what to do! Im not sure if im in love with my bf anymore.Im not really sure what love is!Was i in love in the first place?I feel so nasty for all of this.But i just dont know what to do! Link to post Share on other sites
PYT Posted March 17, 2006 Share Posted March 17, 2006 Not sure what to advise you at this point but it sounds like time is helping you come to grips to a certain extent with how you are feeling. Most of all try not to beat yourself up for feeling conflicted and I'd be a little wary of your si's bf's ulterior motives. Keep in touch. Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted March 20, 2006 Share Posted March 20, 2006 I agree with what others have said. Focus your mind on other things then yourself. Maybe you don't think of yourself that much, but put yourself in positions to get your mind off of your mental and physical stuff for accouple minutes. Take advantage of helping others, finding stuff that you find interesting, take classes in art etc. This will help you and help others in the process. Don't dwell on things you can't change about yourself, but find ways to better improve your attitude. Like attending different activities etc. Meet people, and I find this to help alot. If you meet people, surround yourself with positive people. Negitive ones bring people down and it seems like you don't need any of that. Do things or find things you might enjoy and in the process you will meet all kinds of people, ones who will be positive, compliment etc. You need that I think. Hi well you all probably know my problems already i blag on about em enough!I need some things to try to make myself think more positivley about myself phsyical and mental stuff!Help.I dont know where to bloody start. I look in the mirror and ask myself without comparing myself to others" am i pretty" The answer is always bloody no!My stupid brain lol Its suposed to say YES.But i dont feel it. I am a nice person.Well im not nasty to people i always put others first.Im not bossy etc. But i need somewhere to start! What can i do i want to feel pretty on the outside as well as in!People never compliment me.Probably because i always have a face like a smacked arse lol So help in anyway you can please maybe then ill stop bloody moaning! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toni_no12002 Posted March 20, 2006 Author Share Posted March 20, 2006 Thanks im trying sort things out and get more confidence and stuff.I do feel a little better about myself than i used to hopefully ill get there in the end Link to post Share on other sites
PYT Posted March 28, 2006 Share Posted March 28, 2006 Just keep plugging and you'll get there before the end Toni. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toni_no12002 Posted April 3, 2006 Author Share Posted April 3, 2006 Thanks everyone for your help At the moment i feel as though im stuck in a rut.I keep thinking about everything in my life thats gone wrong At the moment i cant get my head around things alots gone wrong in my life and i want to feel happy but i just dont know how to get there!One minute im ok but just latley ive been feeling more and more down.Everything seems so hopeless!I keep thinking about things that have gone on in my life and why they happened. My ex for example.I was with him 2 and a half years and year a half into the relationship he decided to well take advantage of me.Why me?I feel totally messed up.Some people think what he did was normal but to me it hurt a hell of a lot!And for it to happen for that long it cant of been a mistake! I dont understand why im not happy.I have a bf who loves me and a baby,a house .what more could i ask for?I feel theres something missing and i always have done but i dont know what!It doesnt help that the past keeps coming up! I really dont know what to do ?!?!?! Link to post Share on other sites
PYT Posted April 21, 2006 Share Posted April 21, 2006 You gotta feel good about yourself inside before any of the other stuff can make a difference. I still think the way you are thinking about things is getting you down and hope you can find a cbt group to join:cool: Link to post Share on other sites
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