alphamale Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 Remember when you were young and thought you knew it all and your parents guided you and told you what to do? We didn't understand at the time but hopefully most of us eventually grew up and started to understand life and its ups and downs and limitations. In that process of coming to terms with life did you tell your parents or guardians that they were right about everything? How did you feel after you told them? When I was 26 I drank 10 beers and drove 15 miles (not recommended) to see my parents where I proceeded to let it all out and tell them I was glad they were around and that they gave me a lot of good advice that I didn't understand back then. Link to post Share on other sites
ajequals Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 actually had them as an adult. moral to the story. listen to your parents. lol Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 No, I've never had the discussion with them. And they weren't right about everything - just most things Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted November 19, 2019 Author Share Posted November 19, 2019 And they weren't right about everything - just most things Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 (edited) Gah you went DRINKING AND DRIVING to tell your parents that they had given you good advice? I understand that's not the point of your thread but holy moly! I guess they didn't pound into not to drink and drive? (Sorry I am kinda crazy when it comes to drinking and driving) I didn't butt heads with my dad (main parent) much growing up. There was the usual getting too wild and he would have to rein me back in, but I never really disagreed with what he had to say - sometimes even wild horses realize they must be tamed But as I got older. As I saw what how important father daughter relationships are, how much can they affect who you become, and who you share your life with. As I got older, I became much more appreciative of the man he is, the incredible father he is, and how I have so much, including much of what I am proud of today, to thank him for. So I tell him these things. I tell him how I know I am lucky to have him. How appreciate the huge sacrifices he made for me. About how I am proud of who I am, and I am so thankful that he raised me to be independent and confident. Yep, my dad rocks. He became the surrogate dad for so many. Legally adopted my half siblings. In high school had two different friends from broken homes come live with us. When my best friend's dad died he stepped up - and now is grandpa for a whole gaggle of grand kids. We are all so lucky to have him ❤️ Edited November 19, 2019 by RecentChange 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 I'd be much more likely to say that to my dad than my mom, but my dad died almost 13 years ago. And I think I probably did say that to him, although I never would have argued growing up that he was wrong about stuff anyway. I was not a rebellious kid and his advice was always spot on and not overbearing. My mom....honestly my sis and I often just shake our heads and wonder how she brought us to adulthood alive. She was not neglectful or abusive (unless you count her screachy/emotional menopause years), but she's just not bright and oh so ditzy. She means well, but.....not a lot of common sense and I really don't know how we turned out so smart lol. . Guess it was my dad. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 Nah.... I was right more than they were...Practically everything I did was criticized or looked down upon, but at the end of the day, it all worked out better for me than it ever would have been if I had listened to them... I only have 2 major regrets in my life....but neither involved anything they would have had anything to do with... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 I was right more than they were... Same here... Honestly when I was at a cross roads about a major financial decision, I would ask my mother her opinion and do the exact opposite. That strategy served me well all of my life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 Yes and no. I was never a "Rebellious" kid... and my folks were kind of open to letting me make mistakes. Why? Because that's how people actually learn. My mom found alcohol on my breath as a teen... so we had the talk of "you know that's not the right choice." My mom caught me fooling around with my GF... and we had the talk about being safe. She was never the person to be mad, and say... "Don't do that". Her advice was always to think, and be safe. Since I was a smart kid... I normally agreed. With that said... after my divorce, I was sick as a dog, and both my kids needed to get off to school. Well, I had to suck it up, and make them breakfast, and pack lunches when all I wanted to do was get back into bed. Sure, there was bad mornings, but when you had someone else in the house to pick up the slack when you don't feel good, that really helps. So, After they got on the bus... I called my mom, and told her "Thanks". That day, I knew exactly what she had been telling me for all those years about how hard it was to raise good kids. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Rockdad Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 Can't recall having that convo with my parents. Highly doubt it? The older our kids get the more they mention that to us. We had a 17 yr old son once sit the wife and I down for a talk explaining how we didn't understand the ways of the world. We listened intently to what he had on his mind all the while actually holding back a laugh that would be hard enough to bust a spleen. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 19, 2019 Share Posted November 19, 2019 After they got on the bus... I called my mom, and told her "Thanks". That day, I knew exactly what she had been telling me for all those years about how hard it was to raise good kids. Awwwww. That's sweet. And so true! Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 20, 2019 Share Posted November 20, 2019 No, because they legit weren't. They are loving parents and they had the best of intentions... but if I'd done what they wanted me to with my life, I'd be miserable. I love my life the way it is, and almost every big decision that has led to my life being the way it is, was in opposition to what my parents wanted. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author alphamale Posted November 20, 2019 Author Share Posted November 20, 2019 Can't recall having that convo with my parents. Highly doubt it? The older our kids get the more they mention that to us. We had a 17 yr old son once sit the wife and I down for a talk explaining how we didn't understand the ways of the world. We listened intently to what he had on his mind all the while actually holding back a laugh that would be hard enough to bust a spleen. that is HILARIOUS Rockdad Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted November 20, 2019 Share Posted November 20, 2019 No, I never had that discussion with my parents. My father beat me and drank himself to death. My mother just died in prison. Safe to say that my way of doing life is having much better results. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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