Life is such a bloody battle field?

[ajequals]

yes your a winer and have self pity. grow up...everything in life you have to work for or you don't appreciate it oh and take more motorcycle classes they will teach you more of what you need to know to be out there

[Blind-Sided]

I guess those are my problems. I can't fake. I am too emotional and too straight forward. I don't play games. I am people stupid. I don't wriggle. I am humble. I am an idealist and pacifist.

As others have already said... change that. I'm straight forward, don't pull punches, and don't play games and lie either. BUT... in this world... you have to put on a happy face and just take it somtimes. My first real job out of college... I HATED my boss. He was a total D-bag, and he was protecting his brother-in-law was a complete A-hole. But, I knew I was smarter than both of them. It took a few years, but eventually I was in a position where I could usurp his authority. And I did. It's how it works sometimes.

 

 

On the point of the motorcycles... Well, I don't think you gave the entire story to make it sound not as bad. But I have buddies who teach the local classes, and day one of that class... they say that if you drop a bike... you are out. And why is that??????? Because you should be aware of what you are doing to be safe to the people around you !!!

 

 

OK... I've been on 2 wheels my entire life. I had mini-bikes as a kid, and learned how to ride a real motorcycle when I was 8/9 years old. (Shifting and a clutch) The morning I turned 16, I got my car driver's license, (in a manual pick-up truck) and the morning after that, I got my motorcycle license. The only reason I didn't get both the same day was in SoCal, in the 80's... you could only take one test per day. (actually made my mom mad since she had to bring me back the next day) I got them both my first try. Why? Because I busted my butt, and I took it seriously. I studied, and was ready to take the test.

 

 

My life has gone relatively smooth... but that's because I worked hard when that was the expectation. And I have no pity for the people who think socialism is the right concept. (like participation trophies, common core, no kid left behind, affirmative action, and not keeping score) The smart, hard working people get mad when lesser people are awarded, and eventually society as a whole loses because the people who care, eventually stop caring.

Edited November 19, 2019 by Blind-Sided

[Happy Lemming]

But I have buddies who teach the local classes, and day one of that class... they say that if you drop a bike... you are out.

 

Come to think of it, I think that was the first thing the instructor said to us, after Good Morning. Its probably a universal rule/requirement.

[BaileyB]

Now, come to think of it, I shouldn't have just let the instructor got off without any consequence. I am too nice/weak, I guess.

 

Exactly. I have to kick back. am kicking back now.

 

With wisdom and maturity, you learn when to hold your ground and when to fold your cards. If you fight ever battle, you are going to exhaust yourself and become bitter. This is probably one of those things that you have to accept that you were in the wrong, and you need to let this go.

 

Time to move on. But, I’m sure you can always reregister if you still want to take the class.

[basil67]

I agree with Bailey. Fighting every fight is mentally exhausting and does have the habit of turning one into an angry, unpleasant type of person.

 

We all have struggles in our life and a healthy person works out which battles to fight. Start with "how important is this battle?" "did I contribute to the issue?" "Is it really worth the time and effort?" "Will I be happier if I just let it go?"

 

Honestly, I think that learning to 'let it go' is equally as important to learning what to fight. And when I say 'let it go' I mean really, truly letting it go and not rehashing it later adding to all the bad things which have happened to us.

[Springsummer]

When I was a kid in middle and high schools, my family had no lunch money to give me. What they did have was pride, too much pride to take advantage of the free lunch program. This means I had no money for lunch and no free lunch waiting for me at school. I learned how to hustle for money at an early age.

 

Seriously, how can that be? can't they at least pack some lunch for you? a bag of potato just cost a few bucks.

 

I grew up in a poor environment even my family was relatively ok, but we were not hungry in my home country.

 

Our family was really dirt poor compare with other people in town when we moved to Canada, even then we have heat and food though.

[Springsummer]

With wisdom and maturity, you learn when to hold your ground and when to fold your cards. If you fight ever battle, you are going to exhaust yourself and become bitter. This is probably one of those things that you have to accept that you were in the wrong, and you need to let this go.

 

Time to move on. But, I’m sure you can always reregister if you still want to take the class.

 

people don't read my post before they reply.

[basil67]

I grew up in a poor environment even my family was relatively ok, but we were not hungry in my home country.

 

And this is the point where you start to count your blessings instead of seeing only the bad things in your life.

[chillii]

Lots of battles too but around 30s l started noticing things went better for me when l didn't try too hard.

You might try too hard on every turn , which seems to just invite bs for me.

Times we have to try hard work hard but for me it all depends too, gotta know your areas and patterns and yep, when to hold em.

[Springsummer]

We almost never had any food at home to pack. My family literally never once packed anything to eat for me. I started selling candy for profit in middle school and in high school, I usually had some girl with a crush on me that would buy my lunch for me. I stopped even bothering to ask for lunch around high school.

 

There are levels of poor. We did not have any real money for food...or really much else when I was a kid. I have still seen people that had it much worse than I did.

 

Life is a struggle. If you want something, you should have to work for it. Everything you want isn't going to just fall into your lap. Do what you have to do to get it and you might even appreciate it more if you had to work for it.

 

How old are you? aka, which era? where did you grow up? because even 3rd world kids have lunch, I think.

 

In Canada, even immigrant family who speak no English can still live by, at least that is what seems to me.

 

even though I grew up in a poor environment, but life was simple and my family was fine comparatively. so I basically just went to school and came back home, spent time reading novel and day dreaming. didn't really deal with people and life. Guess that is why I am an idealist. and find life so damn hard now.

 

Have had confrontation with boss and boss's boss for a while. It's soul crushing. but my motorcycle incident taught me to let authority to tell me who I am and that one must fight. I am not in the private sector, so there is recourse, at least that's what it seems. I won't just rollover and play death.

[Springsummer]

In regards to the motorcycle class incident, the instructors have a duty to protect potential riders from themselves. They can't just hand out endorsements to anyone who can write a check for the class.

 

You didn't really read my post. You can't just fail people before they even really try, just because you think/believe other people can't. I proved her wrong. I passed the course.

[Happy Lemming]

I passed the course.

 

So what motorcycle did you buy?? Are you still riding??

[Springsummer]

So what motorcycle did you buy?? Are you still riding??

 

no. tried a few, but they all seemed too tall and big for me. I have short legs so hard to put my feet flat on the ground. so I lost my nerve.

 

I am pretty good with balance. I can bike without using my hands for a while.

 

I am going to Aspen to snowboard and ski this winter, so that's exciting... except if I don't have to think about the people at work and my perpetual single-hood.

[Springsummer]

I am 40 years old and live in the USA. There have always been programs for families like mine here, so we could get on welfare or food stamps but my dad was too proud for any of that, so we just did without. I grew up in an infamous neighborhood in my area, so everyone around here knew about the kids from there.

 

I remember I had a date with a pretty girl in high school and I had to get a buddy of mine to drive us. I had fun with her anyway and she seemed to like me...until her brother told her parents where I was from and I wasn't allowed to call her house anymore.

 

One girl in my neighborhood had a phone. One person. All of us used to go to her house to use her phone if we ever had to call anyone. Any girls I met in school, I had to go to my friend's house to call them, and I told them to always let me call them, they couldn't call me.

 

Sorry to hear that you had such a rough childhood. but what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. You are that much stronger than most people, so you can really proud of yourself of that.

[todreaminblue]

i feel challenges are what make us who we are and challenges and how we deal with them affect the way we see the world and how we view others.....challenges define us...show our true metal.....in turn we develop skills and a mindset of empathy for others going through similar situations and are able to make others lives easier through our own struggles....we struggle through challenges and gain experience know how and wisdom....this is what i tell myself when i face challenges im going to be a better person because of this horror....i still beat myself up...i still fail....but...sometimes my failure is someone elses success...so by proxy....i win...suck that satan.....kidding...or maybe not.....how i know i win is at the end of the day someone can say or do something funny and i can still smile through tears....that to me ....is life.....that smile...and of course youtube videos of animals being jerks...

 

am i struggling right now ...heck yes...family full of dangerous drug addictions...my daughter got beat up pretty badly by another woman in front of my granddaughter...my son is mentally damaged from an ice addiction and isnt capable of working at all..and im really quite blue because i cant find a young homeless family anywhere to stay other than my place....and my mum is really unwell ...but...im still breathing so is my my whole family....and the the sky is blue..

 

and tomorrow is another day that i have a chance of having something beautiful come my way...and im waiting for that beautiful to come...my metal is true.....

 

 

springsummer do you believe god has a plan when you face challenges....that the greater good can come from challenges and knockbacks.......deb

Edited November 21, 2019 by todreaminblue

[Happy Lemming]

so I lost my nerve.

 

So you dropped a bike, then whined, pissed a fit, made a scene & begged to stay in the class... to obtain a motorcycle endorsement you didn't even use.

 

The instructors also know who is going to ride (upon completing the class) and who isn't.

 

For the record, there are a number of motorcycles (600cc and under) that can be lowered to fit any person. The dealerships have access to lowering kits. I knew one woman who was 4' 10" and rode a Honda Rebel.

Edited November 21, 2019 by Happy Lemming

[Springsummer]

So you dropped a bike, then whined, pissed a fit, made a scene & begged to stay in the class... to obtain a motorcycle endorsement you didn't even use.

 

The instructors also know who is going to ride (upon completing the class) and who isn't.

 

For the record, there are a number of motorcycles (600cc and under) that can be lowered to fit any person. The dealerships have access to lowering kits. I knew one woman who was 4' 10" and rode a Honda Rebel.

 

man, what's your problem? for the nth times, I didn't drop a bike. and what scene did I make? gosh, you have a problem. you didn't read. You are like the instructor, bias and judgemental.

 

oh, by the way, when handed out the certification, the instructor can't stop saying high praises to me. but I turned a deaf ear to her and just ignored and walked pass.

 

she thought I am small and short and therefore can not handle a bike and just kicked me out for no factual reason except her own bias in her own mind...well I proved her wrong. Guess what, an authority can be wronged.

 

when I passed I passed. when they can't find any fault, they must pass me. whether I use my license or not is my business.

 

I just proved my boss's boss wrong too. He used a reason to refuse to promote me. and I just found evidence to prove the 'reason' is wronged. ha. authority? tough luck. they can't just hire whoever they want over me. they have to justify it, but they can't.

Edited November 21, 2019 by Springsummer

[Happy Lemming]

man, what's your problem? for the nth times, I didn't drop a bike. and what scene did I make? gosh, you have a problem. you didn't read. You are like the instructor, bias and judgemental.

 

When you put a bike on the ground, it is called a "drop". Unless you put the kickstand down after dismounting and left the motorcycle upright on its tires, its called a "drop".

 

Begging the instructor to stay in the class, throwing a fit and forcing them to put you in another class is "causing a scene".

 

I did read your opening post and I read between the lines, as well.

[Springsummer]

When you put a bike on the ground, it is called a "drop". Unless you put the kickstand down after dismounting and left the motorcycle upright on its tires, its called a "drop".

 

Begging the instructor to stay in the class, throwing a fit and forcing them to put you in another class is "causing a scene".

 

I did read your opening post and I read between the lines, as well.

 

right...after I touched a bike for 15 minutes for the first time in my life and put it on the ground then I am supposed to go home quietly and forfeit my $550 dollars willingly. and never touch a bike again just because the instructor thought I can not. tough luck.

 

and drop means damaged the bike. FYI

 

does it mean the same thing if you drop your plate/bowl on the kitchen floor and put your cat's bowl on the kitchen floor. One will break, one won't.

Edited November 21, 2019 by Springsummer

[Els]

If you are able to even post on LS on a regular basis, you are better off than the majority of the world's population. You have a mobile phone or a computer, internet, regular electricity, and a roof over your head... and all the other things that this implies (i.e. I hope you would pick food over internet).

 

 

I think it's fine and even healthy to vent sometimes. Of course you can be annoyed about the bike and the job and everything else. But when you frame it in such a "woe is me, nobody knows my sorrows!!" manner, it shows a lack of perspective and appreciation.

 

 

This doesn't mean that you're a horrible person. In fact, never being satisfied and constantly wishing for more is a common homo sapiens fallacy - which can be a good thing if you use it in a productive manner (i.e. to innovate or to improve your life), but a bad thing if all you do about it is complain.

[Els]

because even 3rd world kids have lunch, I think.

 

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In Canada, even immigrant family who speak no English can still live by, at least that is what seems to me.

 

even though I grew up in a poor environment, but life was simple and my family was fine comparatively. so I basically just went to school and came back home, spent time reading novel and day dreaming.

 

 

LOL, no, they don't. And they certainly don't have new novels to read at home every day, or the luxury of spending all their time at home reading and daydreaming. Most of the not-so-fortunate "3rd world kids" I knew would come back from school and go straight to work, either at their parents' business or a relative's. The lucky ones would be able to stop for dinner and have a couple of hours to finish their homework and sleep. The not-so-lucky ones would have barely any dinner, work straight through to bedtime, and then get beaten at school the next day for not finishing their homework.

 

 

Posts like yours are why I think that global community service should be a requirement for every first-world kid.

[Happy Lemming]

and drop means damaged the bike. FYI

 

does it mean the same thing if you drop your plate/bowl on the kitchen floor and put your cat's bowl on the kitchen floor. One will break, one won't.

 

FYI, I've owned quite a few motorcycles and ridden many years. I know what I'm talking about.

 

You've never owned a motorcycle, didn't ride on the road and now you're an expert on the terminology & the damage done when you drop it.

 

A cat bowl is not a motorcycle.

[Springsummer]

I don't know much about motorbike terminology. but I do know the difference in meaning of drop something and put something down on the floor in the English language.

 

maybe just forget about bike and just look up the dictionary for the meanings of the words?

 

or try drop your phone or put your phone down to see if they are the same thing?

[Happy Lemming]

..$550 dollars

 

So you paid $550 to obtain a motorcycle endorsement, never purchased a motorcycle and never rode.

 

No words...

[Springsummer]

Guess we are not really enemies?

 

I didn't know what to expect after some 'fiery' email exchanges/confrontations/rebuttals with boss's boss (cc'd boss, because he was the devil's advocate) about promotion and hiring, and we had a team meeting with him this afternoon(boss videoed remotely). maybe he hates me and pisses at me? yes, I 'hate' him and 'piss' at him too. how the hell he could do that to me?

 

nope, nothing like that happen. at least he didn't appear anything like that. business as usual or maybe even a bit better. after a couple months of absent from training, the guy seems to be visibly older. maybe he is under a lot of stress too? too be honest he is a good looking guy. but too bad he has a whole nine yard. sigh...I guess it's hard to hate him after all? even I went through all this mental hell in the last 2 months.

 

I guess it's OK to prove authority wrong too. people respect strength. have to fight for every little things, even with a good looking guy.

Edited November 22, 2019 by Springsummer