Guy is being very friendly/flirty but seems to have a girlfriend.. (???)

[Optimystic]

So this guy came into my work a couple of weeks ago, and we started chatting and had a really nice exchange, nothing too flirty just friendly.. yet there was still.. something in the air. You know when you get a vibe that the chemistry is mutual and while innocent, there's attraction.

 

Anyway, I was definitely smitten with him, and it seemed like he was with me, lingering for a while, staying to chat for a good 15/20 min. We were keeping it light, just talking about languages while practicing Spanish together (his first language is Portuguese, mine English). I actually had to politely cut him off to help someone else, when he asked me what my name was before he left.

 

I couldn't get him off my mind, so I found his name through our computer system and friended him on FB. He added me back soon after, and I messaged him to trigger his memory of our nice conversation, saying it was a pleasure to meet him, etc.

 

He replied back that the pleasure was his, and that he'd come back by to practice with me! He was being more ~flirtatious in the messages than in person.. using "haha" a lot and said it will be good to see me again. He even mentioned that he's currently in Florida and told me the day he gets back in town..

 

Well... after looking at his pictures on FB, I came across photos with him and a woman who had to be his girlfriend.. from April being the most recent. However he tagged this same woman in a wall post as recent as this month.

 

SOOOO.. my question is, is he just being friendly or prepping me to be his side chick? I'm not sure I feel comfortable seeing him again if that's the case.. even though I'd be fine with friendship. Or did he break up with said woman but they're still close? I'm probably overthinking things.. but this is odd.

 

Any thoughts?

[d0nnivain]

I think he's just being friendly & is happy to have somebody to speak Spanish with. You are the one who sought him out on social media. Unless he actually asks you on a date or makes a move, just go with the flow. If he does ask, confirm he is actually single.

[mark clemson]

SOOOO.. my question is, is he just being friendly or prepping me to be his side chick?

 

 

I don't know the answer BUT:

 

- Agree with the wise Dalmation you should ask about that if this goes further

- Be aware that IF he's prepping you for cheating, he's unlikely to be fully honest about his main GF. This is NOT saying that you shouldn't believe what he says. Believe him, but just be alert for any discrepancies or red flags, just in case that's the situation.

 

Good luck, I hope it does progress and goes great.

[Optimystic]

I think I'm just going to go with it's him being friendly, and unless he makes it VERY obvious he's not, just let it be a casual friendship if that's what it wants to be. I know people from other cultures (in this case, Brazil) can seem flirtatious here in the US when it really just is what's normal friendless for them. So.. I may have jumped the gun a bit and read into things too much. Only time will tell..as I get to know him better.. if I even do.

 

But thank you for your well wishes! I would enjoy a fun light friendship with someone I can practice my Spanish with! haha

Edited November 25, 2019 by Optimystic