Strange dealbreakers

[K.K.]

Ok, I just want to know if I’m the only one who will completely lose respect over somebody’s weird habits or ignorance basically. It’s not because I think I’m better than anybody else either. It’s just what it is. Once my brain says no, that’s it. These people could be the best looking things on earth, millionaires, the kindest human being etc.

 

For instance- ok... I have two power strips plugged into two wall outlets. One power strip per outlet. This guy is fumbling around with my tv and **** like that, I’m like no problem. So he leaves and I realize WEEKS later that he had plugged one of the power strips into the OTHER power strip - instead of the wall. LIKE HELLO! Wtf. You trying to burn my house down? Just too idiotic to me. I could never trust him.

 

Another time, I ask my neighbor to help me jump my car. I knew how to do it, but we were friendly and he was standing there so I said hook it up and I was gonna gas it. He had no idea how to hook up the charger cables. He didn’t even know which color end went to what. I never trusted him after that. Looked like a little girl to me.

 

It’s the same I guess as the people will say smokers are dealbreakers or things like that.

 

Did you ever lose respect or see somebody totally different by one weird little thing they did?

[mark clemson]

Overall I'd say no. Not just weird little minor things. Everyone has idiosyncrasies.

 

Dealbreakers in my past have included: LDR (won't do it), self-harm (banging her own head on a doorknob), bulimia, and bad sexual compatibility.

 

I always check the manual or internet before hooking up the cables. Just to be sure. I don't give jump starts that frequently.

Edited November 24, 2019 by mark clemson
fix LDR

[preraph]

I draw a distinction between someone who does something stupid who ought to know better and someone who just has no experience at it. I mean, at one time, we all didn't know what to do, right? But yeah, if someone is 50 years old and still doesn't know how to do something, you can draw some conclusions, though not necessarily despise them for it.

[Foxhall]

I am quite tolerant personally, so no real bugbears,

 

One of my cousins dealbreakers for men sticks in mind however,

 

she cannot stand men with long or dirty fingernails.

[ajequals]

lol. you do know. (I guess you don't ). the receptacle only allows so many amps. a power strip over exceeds that rating and you have two? and I'd love to see your version of jumping a car. I've shown my daughter three times , she still doesn't hook it up how I showed her.. he was trying to save your life trying to pop the breaker. lol.

 

 

 

 

 

I'm just teasing you. somewhat. the facts are real

[K.K.]

Wait ... what?

 

Is this true?

 

Hey... I still think having two separate power strips plugged into two separate wall outlets is probably safer than plugging one power strip into another. Least that’s what Google says. I’m not an electrician by any means though.

 

I still think he’s an idiot plugging one into another.

 

But besides that point, maaaan let me tell you how pathetic I’ve become.

 

This power strip thing had me so irritated that I dug up my old password for this place after two years of not posting, just so I could make this thread! And if that isn’t pathetic enough, I have spent the last little while reading my old posts from 9 YEARS ago. and realizing that I made this exact same thread in the past.

 

Everything has changed. Nothing has changed.

 

.. Here I am still talking about dealbreakers.

 

My apologies.

 

It’s not you. It’s me.

[Happy Lemming]

Reminds of a funny story...

 

My girlfriend was moving some electronics around her apartment, she had various items plugged into the power strip but could not get anything to work. So I went over (to her apartment) and found she had plugged the power strip plug into itself and not the wall socket. I imagine people just have a brain fart now and then.

 

I don't sweat the small stuff... (as far as deal breakers)

[todreaminblue]

i accept weird habits i have them myself....if i was annoyed by someone doing something i would say "hey can you not do that" its bigger things i guess that would turn me off....maybe a guy picking his nose and eating it or trying to suffocate me with fluffies and dutch oven me i hate those sort or things...are they little things...the things that would make me vomit.....yeah they are turn offs...anything that makes me retch and gag or a guy who constantly touches me in public..i mean not sweet little touches.....or holding hands...or a quick peck.....i would be creeped out....i need a little space to breathe and dont require or want scrutiny from others with pda........deb

Edited November 25, 2019 by todreaminblue

[SumGuy]

I’m pretty easy going, so no real strange deal breakers...although if someone is judgey in that way it is kind of a deal breaker for me.

 

I especially hate people who react as if you are only as good as your last mistake (especially for reasonable mistakes). They can cloak it all they want in they are emotional and just let things out; alas I don’t care to deal with the time between the emotional response and when they can discuss like a reasonable adult.

 

I like drama on the screen but not in my bedroom so to speak.

[Shining One]

I'd probably still be a virgin if I rejected every woman who didn't know how to connect jumper cables or plugged power strips into other power strips.

[mark clemson]

... she had plugged the power strip plug into itself and not the wall socket.

 

 

Genius! The solution to all our energy woes...

[mark clemson]

So, KK, perhaps the issue is that at some level you don't want to commit yourself fully and so you find "excuses"? Or perhaps this is your way of ending a relationship that isn't working for you?

 

Thoughts?

 

(Note: if you find this off-topic or an uncomfortable line of discussion, feel free to ask a mod to delete my post.)

[Mr. Lucky]

I still think he’s an idiot plugging one into another.

 

I'm afraid from the standpoint of electrical demand and/or safety, there's no difference. Both outlets in a receptacle are on the same circuit and breaker.

 

And I might argue, when plugging one power strip into the other, the cascading internal breakers on the strips might provide some small measure of additional safety. The real answer is avoiding an overload of the circuit in the first place.

 

He might be owed some credit for thinking outside the box...

 

Mr. Lucky

[preraph]

Reminds of a funny story...

 

...and found she had plugged the power strip plug into itself and not the wall socket. I imagine people just have a brain fart now and then.

 

You must have gotten a hernia trying not to laugh out loud.

[K.K.]

I'm afraid from the standpoint of electrical demand and/or safety, there's no difference. Both outlets in a receptacle are on the same circuit and breaker.

 

And I might argue, when plugging one power strip into the other, the cascading internal breakers on the strips might provide some small measure of additional safety. The real answer is avoiding an overload of the circuit in the first place.

 

He might be owed some credit for thinking outside the box...

 

Mr. Lucky

 

No, but it was two different wall outlets. Not one wall outlet. 4 receptacles. There was already a power strip plugged into one wall outlet. Why skip the other empty wall outlet to plug everything together into one outlet. Then piggyback the one power strip into another. Fire hazard all the way. I’m not an electrician like I said, but any man that is 45 years old should know better. If I’m wrong, I’m sorry I was just startled by this idiocy. You don’t piggyback powerstrips.

 

As far as jumping the car, ok he was older too. I’m a country girl. I’m just not used to girly men. He didn’t even try. Just held up his hands like he’d seen a mouse. Lord help us if I had a flat tire.

 

A woman wants a man. Just my opinion. Maybe I’m wrong about that too. I usually am. ?

[K.K.]

Reminds of a funny story...

 

My girlfriend was moving some electronics around her apartment, she had various items plugged into the power strip but could not get anything to work. So I went over (to her apartment) and found she had plugged the power strip plug into itself and not the wall socket. I imagine people just have a brain fart now and then.

 

I don't sweat the small stuff... (as far as deal breakers)

 

See that’s different though. That’s adorable! I don’t know why but it is. ❤️

[Shining One]

I’m a country girl. I’m just not used to girly men.

A woman wants a man. Just my opinion.

Would you be "okay" with a man rejecting a woman for not knowing something a woman should know, like how to properly prepare red beans?

[K.K.]

So, KK, perhaps the issue is that at some level you don't want to commit yourself fully and so you find "excuses"? Or perhaps this is your way of ending a relationship that isn't working for you?

 

Thoughts?

 

(Note: if you find this off-topic or an uncomfortable line of discussion, feel free to ask a mod to delete my post.)

 

Not uncomfortable at all. I like real talk. I need real talk.

 

Yes maybe they are excuses. I don’t know. Probably more like I gave up even trying anymore to find anybody that appreciates or understands me. I don’t even understand myself. I’m weird. Very weird. Neurotic. But it’s who I am. I have to be with somebody I can respect in every way. Someone who gets me. Someone who isn’t going to burn my house down. ?

 

My track record for picking men is not good. So I don’t bother trying. It’s all good. There’s a certain happiness and blanket of content that accompanies being alone and not having anybody to piss me off or hurt me.

[K.K.]

Would you be "okay" with a man rejecting a woman for not knowing something a woman should know, like how to properly prepare red beans?

 

Hey! I tried with the damned beans lol ! I didn’t realize they could poison me!

 

If I was a man I would probably be highly disappointed if she didn’t know how to cook the simplest thing. Like an egg. I don’t know if I would reject her .. depends on how big her breasts were.

[SumGuy]

....

 

As far as jumping the car, ok he was older too. I’m a country girl. I’m just not used to girly men. He didn’t even try. Just held up his hands like he’d seen a mouse. Lord help us if I had a flat tire.

 

A woman wants a man. Just my opinion. Maybe I’m wrong about that too. I usually am. ?

 

Well you do know the colors don't make any difference on the cables, you just need to make sure you don't attach the + on one battery to the - on another.

 

I get you though. Although the women I date couldn't care less about "traditional" gender roles they do like that I'm handy, not just only can change a tire but can do it in like 5 minutes...well unless you have those anemic jacks they provide and seems most of the time these days is finding where they've hidden the spare.

 

I'm also impressed by a woman who can do the same. Not so much gender roles but we are both fully functional adults able to fix things, build things, cook things, clean things, etc. Add us together and we are invincible

[K.K.]

I don’t know how to change a tire. that’s where I was hoping the man would come in. It’s not that I don’t know how. I just don’t want to get dirty.

[K.K.]

I knew about the positive and negative though! I just call them black and red cause they have the tips on them.

 

I’m a hypocrite aren’t I?

 

I’m going to just say the guy with the power strip was having a bad day. Maybe he was distracted. I feel better. there was no chemistry anyway. But he was sweet I guess.

[nospam99]

Disclaimer: I am a trained 'electrical/electronic technician', not a licensed electrician. I do my own wiring in my house on the theory that I'm the only person whose life I'm risking ... and I'm VERY careful and diligent. I'm aware of the 'power' (measured in watts) used by everything in the house and I don't overload my circuits. (current in amperes = power in watts divided by voltage. So, for example, a 100 watt light bulb on a 120 volt circuit draws 100/120 = .83 amps.)

 

Re: cascading power strips ... it only matters if you plug enough appliances into the daisy chain to exceed the safe current of the first power strip. Every appliance added to a circuit, increases the total current drawn. Current produces heat in the circuit i.e. the circuit's wiring can heat up. But a properly (according to code) installed circuit, 'should' not overheat - shouldn't even get warm. A lot (maybe most?) household circuits (in the US) are rated for 15 amps (20 amps in kitchen circuits, 40 amps in 240 volt circuits dedicated to electric dryers or through-wall air conditioners). If there is an overcurrent condition on the circuit, the breaker will trip or, on older installations, the fuse will burn out. This is your 'warning' that either there is a short in the circuit (time to call an electrician) or, most likely, you've put too many appliances on the circuit. Tell-tale circumstance is you've just plugged in another appliance - the straw that broke the camel's back.

 

When you plug a power strip into the circuit, the 'danger point' is the power strip's cord to the outlet. That cord is also rated for a particular current. If the cord is rated less than the circuit, or even the same rating, and you add enough appliances to raise the current through the cord, the cord will heat up. The risk of the daisy chain is you've got more receptacles to load up with appliances to raise the current through that first cord in the chain. FWIW there is also a risk plugging even ONE high-current appliance into one power strip. The good news is the only high-current appliances I can think of that would draw anywhere near 15 amps are the previously mentioned dryers and air conditioners which 'should' be on dedicated circuits anyway. Outside the home (we hope), other high-current loads are LARGE electric motors. Last 'warning' - be careful with electric heaters. Not only might they draw a large current, they also produce a lot of heat from their elements.

[K.K.]

Disclaimer: I am a trained 'electrical/electronic technician', not a licensed electrician. I do my own wiring in my house on the theory that I'm the only person whose life I'm risking ... and I'm VERY careful and diligent. I'm aware of the 'power' (measured in watts) used by everything in the house and I don't overload my circuits. (current in amperes = power in watts divided by voltage. So, for example, a 100 watt light bulb on a 120 volt circuit draws 100/120 = .83 amps.)

 

Re: cascading power strips ... it only matters if you plug enough appliances into the daisy chain to exceed the safe current of the first power strip. Every appliance added to a circuit, increases the total current drawn. Current produces heat in the circuit i.e. the circuit's wiring can heat up. But a properly (according to code) installed circuit, 'should' not overheat - shouldn't even get warm. A lot (maybe most?) household circuits (in the US) are rated for 15 amps (20 amps in kitchen circuits, 40 amps in 240 volt circuits dedicated to electric dryers or through-wall air conditioners). If there is an overcurrent condition on the circuit, the breaker will trip or, on older installations, the fuse will burn out. This is your 'warning' that either there is a short in the circuit (time to call an electrician) or, most likely, you've put too many appliances on the circuit. Tell-tale circumstance is you've just plugged in another appliance - the straw that broke the camel's back.

 

When you plug a power strip into the circuit, the 'danger point' is the power strip's cord to the outlet. That cord is also rated for a particular current. If the cord is rated less than the circuit, or even the same rating, and you add enough appliances to raise the current through the cord, the cord will heat up. The risk of the daisy chain is you've got more receptacles to load up with appliances to raise the current through that first cord in the chain. FWIW there is also a risk plugging even ONE high-current appliance into one power strip. The good news is the only high-current appliances I can think of that would draw anywhere near 15 amps are the previously mentioned dryers and air conditioners which 'should' be on dedicated circuits anyway. Outside the home (we hope), other high-current loads are LARGE electric motors. Last 'warning' - be careful with electric heaters. Not only might they draw a large current, they also produce a lot of heat from their elements.

 

Thank you for taking the time to write all that and actually explain this! Thank you so much! Thank you thank you!! :)

[Mr. Lucky]

The good news is the only high-current appliances I can think of that would draw anywhere near 15 amps are the previously mentioned dryers and air conditioners which 'should' be on dedicated circuits anyway. Outside the home (we hope), other high-current loads are LARGE electric motors.

 

I'd add many of the hair appliances women use. An 1800 W hair dryer draws close to 15 amps...

 

Mr. Lucky