Interesting article on casual relationships

[Ellener]

I signed up for the emails from this website and have found some of the articles interesting or useful. Today's is 'Casual Relationships:types, benefits and Risks'.

 

Liked the ending-'If you are not interested in a long-term, committed relationship, for now, casual relationships can help fulfill your need for intimacy and sexual pleasure. Enter with your eyes open, communicate with your partner(s), and engage with a spirit of compassion and care for the people around you.'

[chillii]

Thing is though, like 90% of the so called articles all over the net, who are they actually written by and what is their expertise in whatever they're covering.

 

Well , in this case , her only expertise from what l can gather , is in home decor.

[Ellener]

you don't like it? I found it good insight chillii, I was married for many years and things had changed such a lot since I was last single. I did try to 'go with the flow' and 'play it casual' for a while but ran into the same issues as the writer talks about with the double standards and the man wanting to call me never the other way around, plus I don't like blurring the boundaries of friendships. I have no extended family here so my frends are my family. I didn't know the writer is an expert on interior design, but her blurb says she has a doctorate in philosophy, a Master's degree in public health, and a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from the University of Victoria. She seems to be well-known as a writer in BC for non mainstream views of womanhood and relationships.

 

I'm quite interested in all this stuff because I don't like the online dating at all, searching so far I have managed to accidentally become enamoured of a dear friend, and I'm pretty certain I don't want to remarry myself, but I don't want to be alone either! Still working it out...

 

Happy Thanksgiving today

[chillii]

Hey ellener

Nah wasn't having a dig at ya in any way , l'm always pointing stuff out with articles people find , bad habit haha. But hey ahwell then l'm glad at least this one has some kinda quals then , didn't bother going past the home decor shyt. lt's just there's so much crap all over the net these days .

 

But yeah l hear ya , it is hard to know after being married . Personally l stayed single nearly 4yrs, felt so discouraged about even bothering with someone else anymore.

l'm not into anything casual myself either so that was out. But l know what you mean.

Me , later on l started to realize and admit to myself though l do prefer life as two and met some good people that had started over remarried later on or whatever and life was good for them. So it all sorta got me thinking again and slowly bringing me round to if the right person was to show up, who knows.

l swore l'd never remarry earlier though , but these days, l might l think, if everything was right. But on the other hand l'd also be quite happy just living together and leaving things that way too, pretty easy either way really.

 

Good luck anyway with whatever you do.

Edited November 28, 2019 by chillii

[Ellener]

No worries

 

Remarrying for me also has practical considerations at my age- my husband earned so much more money than me I would be way better off claiming my social security based on his contributions, which I would not be entitled to if I remarried then things did not work out.

 

I think having been married ( twice ) if I meet someone special to spend my life with I'd like to come up with our own idea of commitment ceremony etc plus it would be easier on our adult children maybe, my life insurance/property etc I'd like to go to my son...

 

Just feels different than marrying decades ago

 

Good luck to you too chillii.