LeojDon Posted November 29, 2019 Share Posted November 29, 2019 So long-story short: We met in Thailand in March '19, I'm living at home in UK whilst she lives in Rome, Italy. We travelled together during April/Part of May and grew really close but stayed cautious. Once we returned home we evaluated everything and missed each other so much. We then met in another part of Italy for week in June, then the Netherlands and then Croatia for a week in July (where we both first told eachother we loved one another) In September she moved to my city in England from September - January for her masters degree; things are going amazing. I've never felt so close to someone in my life, the love and feelings really intensified and we love having each other in our day-to-day life. I'm about to meet her parents/sister/grandma who are flying here to see her in December! Now this is where I get a little scared. We're both 23. In January 2020 as part of her course she moves to Copenhagen for 5 months. We went long-distance in the summer for 4 months which we managed, however we didn't have much else going on since we were back from our travels so had the time to talk all the time etc. Now it'll be different with her doing her studies etc. I'm worried we'll become distanced, and I fear for what we do after she completes her studies in June 2020. The ideal is to get a job in the same city however it's easier said than done. I can honestly see myself marrying her but I'm a little scared that I'm so deep into it that when it comes to this time next year we'll still be apart and not have a plan (or not be able to create a plan) which closes the distance. Am I being stupid to overthink the future when it's not even here yet? I feel its clouding my thoughts when I should be totally enjoying our time together living in the same city right now 24/7. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2019 Share Posted November 29, 2019 Yes you are jumping the gun. Stay in the now. Enjoy what you have. You also have an end date for the distance, next June which is not that far off & certainly not indeterminant. She appears willing to look for a job near you so just work on that panning out. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 29, 2019 Share Posted November 29, 2019 Well you certainly shouldn't throw in the towel because you're afraid of the future, nor should you waste the present with worry. Just take it day by day and know that if it's meant to be you'll look back on this phase of your lives as just a little blip in time. Right now it seems huge, naturally, but all you can do is go through it and see if you have what it takes. Good luck! <3 Link to post Share on other sites
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