Does my high school sweetheart still like me?

[ashlmae9]

*sorry in advance for the long post.

 

Him & I started dating 5 years ago, and we dated for two years throughout high school. We were each other’s first boyfriend/girlfriend and we were bestfriends, We broke up before we went our separate ways for university, our break up was messy because we were both extremely jealous about what one another was doing in our single lives, I believe that neither one of us actually wanted to break up in the first place, but we were arguing a lot near the end of our relationship. I moved to another province, and we lost contact. Fast forward a year, I ended up moving back and moved into the same university residence building as him. I saw him every now and then, we shared mutual friends, and I wanted him back. He showed practically no interest, I think it’s because I was partying a lot and I needed to grow up. We madeout once when we were drunk and we never discussed it after that. We also went for breakfast together one time to catch up, He knew I wanted to get back together, but I could tell that he didn’t. I left it at that and we lost contact again for another 2 years. I’ve been in several relationships since, my previous one was serious and we lived together. He hasn’t been in a serious relationship since me, I’m not even sure if he has actually dated anyone. He lives in a different province now, and coincidentally I was in the same city visiting family. I reached out to him and he was happy to meet with me. We spent 12 hours together, and it was like nothing had changed. There was no awkward silences, or uncomfortable moments. We talked about everything that’s happened in our lives since, and we also reminisced on old memories. He told me he wants to move back home because he’s lonely, and he told me he’s not looking for a relationship right now because he “doesn’t want to take the time to get to know someone new”. He invited me over to his place, and we talked for hours. He kissed me (this took me by surprise) and then we hooked up (double surprise). I feel like I’ve been waiting for this moment for a long time, but I’m not expecting anything to come out of it. except for disappointment. I still have strong feelings for him and I always have, do you think he feels the same? Because I honestly can’t tell. He’s always been pretty shy and reserved, he wasn’t shy around me. However, he is a horrible texter and I feel like I won’t ever hear from him.

[basil67]

Hi ashlmae9, it sounds like a case of sex-with-the-ex to me. There's really nothing here to indicate that he wants to get back together. However, if he should come at you with a conversation of "I miss you" or "I'd like to try again", then you've got reason to think he wants something more.

[schlumpy]

He told you flat out he doesn't want a relationship. I think you should listen to him.

[preraph]

I don't know. him saying that he didn't want to take time for a relationship because of getting to know someone new was a strange thing to say. I suspect this is just sex, he probably outgrew his shyness. If I were you I would see if he contacts you without any prompting. And soon. And if he doesn't it was just sex.

[Piddy]

Why not ask him? You have enough history between you two. I'd ask and then you'll know for sure, instead of waiting and wondering.

[ExpatInItaly]

Not hearing from him again isn't related to him being a horrible texter. It would be because the desire to keep in touch isn't there.

 

I think this was just a hook-up for him. He's shown almost no initiative in the time you've been broken up. To be sure, though, I would take your hands off the steering wheel and see what he does of his own volition. If you don't hear anything within the next couple weeks, you have your answer.