Lack of chemistry breakup

[jbc]

Mid 20s female here. Broke up with a girl a few weeks ago and having trouble moving on. We were together for only a couple months and there was a lot of things about her I loved but ultimately at the end of the day I felt like there was something missing. On paper it felt like everything I wanted because we were very similar. Attractive, sweet, smart. I'm having trouble moving on even though I ended it. I feel a lot of grief and sadness because I felt like I had something pretty good but it was just a gut feeling that prevented me from continuing. So I felt like it had to end. "Lack of chemistry" I feel like sums it up. It just never clicked that well (except for the sex). How do I find closure in myself? I have never experienced something so close to "great" but not quite there. So many parts of me saying it's me, maybe needed more time, etc and maybe I'm missing something and I can't get that voice out of my head.

[Soak]

You're probably just missing her as a friend at this point. Then again, choosing somebody purely on chemistry is not all that reliable either, depending on how you define chemistry.

 

If you feel that this was not right somehow, then you need to keep going with the breakup, but as i said, it might be loneliness more than anything that is making you feel this way.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Your gut is never wrong.

 

You need to get busy, distract yourself with other things rather than sit there and dwell on the "what if...".

 

You ended it for a reason, even if you're not completely sure what that reason is. It came from you core - don't ignore that.

 

Sometimes closure isn't packaged up nice and pretty and tied up with a beautiful bow. Many times closure doesn't come at all. And sometimes WE make the closure by trusting our instincts and moving on from there.

[Berteau]

Well the same things happened to me multiple times and the chemistry never grew and I ended the relationships. It always sucks, but you did the right thing. Closure will come with time.