GuitarGuy7 Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 Iv'e come up with a strategy on how to meet girls for the upcoming semester and the next 6 months. In the past, I would take a of shotgun approach of trying to meet women. I would likely come on too strong and be too friendly too quickly and I think this scared many girls off, hence why I got so many girls acting cold towards me. Also the fact that I would ask out girls pretty quickly, even if I didn't think they were going to say yes. All of this is why I think I made many of the girls I pursued fairly uncomfortable with me. I'm sure some of it has to do with my looks as well, i'm not really a "Chad" so I doubt cold approach would really work all too well. So instead, im going to take a different approach. I'm going to join college clubs related to my interests and im going to simply try to befriend as many people as I can, and try to befriend as many girls as I can, not to necessarily get in their pants, but to simply enjoy their company. I want to be friends and get to the point where they're comfortable with me. Then at the end of the semester, if one particular girl is single and she shows signs that she might be interested, then i'll ask her out. If not, then it's no big deal, at least I have a female friend. One club I was in last semester, I didn't really talk to any girls there or try to pursue them. But this semester, there are a couple of girls who I kinda think are cute and I might talk to them for a little bit and gauge their reaction towards me. But this probably wont be my outlet for meeting girls since I have nothing in common with many of the girls there, but one girl seems nice (but she likely has a boyfriend) As for the other club, i'm pretty new and this was the same club where the two women in charge acted cold and rude towards me. (I talked about it in another thread) My plan is to try and be friendly with them one more time and if they're still cold and rude towards me, then i'll just leave them alone. My plans for this club is to simply be as friendly to as many people as possible and hope that one girl is friendly to me in return. The advantage of this club is that theres many girls around and we all have the same interests. Obviously i'll dress nice, get my haircut once a month, wear lifts to make me appear taller. I WANT to meet girls, but it's kind of hard when you keep getting rejected over a period of 4 years, and meanwhile your hot female cousin can date 3 guy in 10 months. But then again, life isn't fair sometimes... Wish me luck... Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 Iv'e come up with a strategy on how to meet girls for the upcoming semester and the next 6 months. In the past, I would take a of shotgun approach of trying to meet women. I would likely come on too strong and be too friendly too quickly and I think this scared many girls off, hence why I got so many girls acting cold towards me. Also the fact that I would ask out girls pretty quickly, even if I didn't think they were going to say yes. All of this is why I think I made many of the girls I pursued fairly uncomfortable with me. I'm sure some of it has to do with my looks as well, i'm not really a "Chad" so I doubt cold approach would really work all too well. So instead, im going to take a different approach. I'm going to join college clubs related to my interests and im going to simply try to befriend as many people as I can, and try to befriend as many girls as I can, not to necessarily get in their pants, but to simply enjoy their company. I want to be friends and get to the point where they're comfortable with me. Then at the end of the semester, if one particular girl is single and she shows signs that she might be interested, then i'll ask her out. If not, then it's no big deal, at least I have a female friend. One club I was in last semester, I didn't really talk to any girls there or try to pursue them. But this semester, there are a couple of girls who I kinda think are cute and I might talk to them for a little bit and gauge their reaction towards me. But this probably wont be my outlet for meeting girls since I have nothing in common with many of the girls there, but one girl seems nice (but she likely has a boyfriend) As for the other club, i'm pretty new and this was the same club where the two women in charge acted cold and rude towards me. (I talked about it in another thread) My plan is to try and be friendly with them one more time and if they're still cold and rude towards me, then i'll just leave them alone. My plans for this club is to simply be as friendly to as many people as possible and hope that one girl is friendly to me in return. The advantage of this club is that theres many girls around and we all have the same interests. Obviously i'll dress nice, get my haircut once a month, wear lifts to make me appear taller. I WANT to meet girls, but it's kind of hard when you keep getting rejected over a period of 4 years, and meanwhile your hot female cousin can date 3 guy in 10 months. But then again, life isn't fair sometimes... Wish me luck... This doesn't sound like the same GuitarGuy7 but this is much healthier than what you did before. I indeed wish you the best of luck. Women's choice is so fickle sometimes but I struggled for 7 years to get to where I was today, and I started from no dating whatsoever. Even successful professionals sometimes don't have what it takes to win the dating game. Go ye upon this journey with your head held high, and let us help you every step of the way. Journal your experiences if it helps. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 Sounds like a good start. Getting very comfortable talking to and befriending women, so that they feel comfortable around you, is a bit of a longer game but ultimately IME works a lot better. Esp if your goal is a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 Good plan, GG. Be sure to befriend men as well! Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 I think this is a terrific idea. Suggestion - as you meet men and women in these clubs/organizations, ask them out for coffee or something similar. E.g. "hey, that was a really good point you made. I'd love to hear more. Want to grab a coffee?" Or just simply saying, "OMG I'm starving. Who wants to go get something to eat?" Even if you're not attracted to them (if they are women). First, it will make you more sociable and at ease when you do want to ask a woman you fancy out to coffee. But second, as with much in life it isn't who you know, it is who you're going to meet next. Having a casual coffee with someone might lead you to someone you really fancy. Best of luck! Mrin Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 good plan, wishing you success with it, admirable with you is that you are not hiding away from the world, you are putting yourself out there and not letting a few setbacks put you off, keep reading up on things, be tuned into whats going on and give your opinions in conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 3, 2019 Share Posted December 3, 2019 you are in college, worry about your courses and grades. you have plenty of time for chicks in the future. and remember that the higher your salary the better looking girls will be into you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GuitarGuy7 Posted December 3, 2019 Author Share Posted December 3, 2019 you are in college, worry about your courses and grades. you have plenty of time for chicks in the future. and remember that the higher your salary the better looking girls will be into you. Well I want to be able to date and have sex while i'm still in my physical prime. I mean yeah sure, I can start dating when i'm 40 but by that time, i'll be past my prime and probably won't look as good. And let's be honest, I doubt most 25 year old women want to date 40 year old men. You start getting fat, losing hair, and just don't look as good. Also, as a 40 year old man, the majority of your options will be single moms with a kid or two, which is not ideal for me considering that I won't have any relationship experience whatsoever... Thats why I want to start dating now while im still young and in my physical prime, and im at an age where pretty twenty something year old women won't mistake me for being their dad. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 I mean yeah sure, I can start dating when i'm 40 but by that time, i'll be past my prime and probably won't look as good. And let's be honest, I doubt most 25 year old women want to date 40 year old men. Believe it or not: A. You won't always want to date just 25 year olds. As you mature your preferences will/should change. B. Some men over 40 are sexy as hell! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 Well I want to be able to date and have sex while i'm still in my physical prime. I mean yeah sure, I can start dating when i'm 40 but by that time, i'll be past my prime and probably won't look as good. And let's be honest, I doubt most 25 year old women want to date 40 year old men. You start getting fat, losing hair, and just don't look as good. Also, as a 40 year old man, the majority of your options will be single moms with a kid or two, which is not ideal for me considering that I won't have any relationship experience whatsoever... Thats why I want to start dating now while im still young and in my physical prime, and im at an age where pretty twenty something year old women won't mistake me for being their dad. out of the mouth of babes you don't know it but for many life gets better the older you get 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 I mean yeah sure, I can start dating when i'm 40 but by that time, i'll be past my prime and probably won't look as good. And let's be honest, I doubt most 25 year old women want to date 40 year old men. Thats why I want to start dating now while im still young and in my physical prime, and im at an age where pretty twenty something year old women won't mistake me for being their dad. You'd be shocked at how many 20 something, most attractive women you've ever seen come after you in your mid 30s and 40s. I've had more mid 20s woman come after me in my 40s than my 20s or 30s. You'll probably also be shocked at how many women in their 30s and 40s actually look way better with age, like waayy hotter and way more attractive, so don't knock it. I think your approach sounds ok, except for two things.: 1. Don't wear lifts. Be 100% you or you are wasting your time. If you aren't comfortable just being you and whatever height you are it will drive women away. If you can't be confident and not bothered by something you have 0 control over, the lack of confidence will ooze out of you. 2. You sound to me like you are running a game to get laid still. You said you would go to befriend women and not get in their pants but if it is just a flimsy front for getting laid, it's not going to work. If you actually take the getting laid part out of it, it's a good plan. If it's just a front like it sounds, it will blow up in your face. That's what desperation does, it makes a plan that women will sense from a mile away seem like it might just work. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysterio Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 I keep saying that you should just take a break from the dating game. GG7 are you just looking for action or a LTR. If its Action then your game plan is stated well. If its a LTR. Then I think you have to chill out and take a break. Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 Well I want to be able to date and have sex while i'm still in my physical prime. I mean yeah sure, I can start dating when i'm 40 but by that time, i'll be past my prime and probably won't look as good. And let's be honest, I doubt most 25 year old women want to date 40 year old men. You start getting fat, losing hair, and just don't look as good. Also, as a 40 year old man, the majority of your options will be single moms with a kid or two, which is not ideal for me considering that I won't have any relationship experience whatsoever... Thats why I want to start dating now while im still young and in my physical prime, and im at an age where pretty twenty something year old women won't mistake me for being their dad. Im nearly 40 and I still consider myself in my prime, hmmn your post does make me think though, I guess some of what you say is true. Link to post Share on other sites
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