How do I confront her?

[Tempocontour316]

I would think that if her husband (ct3498) tell her it's wrong or uncomfortable for her to drive a male coworker home, wife should agree and tell the coworker to Uber it. There are many ways for people to get rides. Wife has driven this male coworker home before and wife didn't even say anything to ct3498. That doesn't sound good if she didn't say anything to ct3498. I'm surprised that ct3498 would even say that if his daughter wasn't in the car he was ok with that. Umm...no. That would also be just as bad. With no daughter in the car would mean a better chance for wife and coworker to start something (EA to PA). With wife's reaction all of a sudden saying maybe they should separate because of some little disagreements about finance doesn't sound right. If I told my wife I was uncomfortable with her driving a guy home and she said thinks there's nothing wrong with it, I'd have a serious talk with her. I've read soo many stories here where spouses say coworker is just a coworker/friend and come to find out later that it blossomed to an affair.  ct3498, you need to have a serious talk with your wife and tell her how you feel about this. Something just doesn't seem right.

Edited December 15, 2019 by Tempocontour316
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[elaine567]

If she is going to have an EA/PA with a coworker then a "serious talk" will not stop it, in fact it may promote it,
Her: "My husband is a controlling jerk, I am not even "allowed" to give anyone a ride home any more..."
Him: "Let's go out for lunch."
Her: "Thanks...that's a great idea..."

[kendahke]

Seeing this guy every working day for the last 2 months is roughly 40 days--consecutive, not meeting once a week for a social drink.  Working.

 

Were they making a habit of this, you'd have a point. But giving him a lift home before an appointment?  You really want to think back on this reason for tanking your marriage when you're old and alone?

[usa1ah]

If that is the case Elaine then OP’s wife is worthless.