hmmhmmm2 Posted December 9, 2019 Share Posted December 9, 2019 (edited) I had a pretty huge falling out with this girl--she was the pastor's daughter. the thing is, I'm not really sure what to think. We had been friends for 5 years or so and never had any issues that I was aware of. Then one day randomly she ignored me and her brother approached me and said I was barely tolerable. I should mention there were more events after this but I'm having a very hard time piecing together everything that happened, but will discuss what I do know. So, for those who don't know, the phrase "barely tolerable" I knew to be a direct reference to one of her favorite books, Pride & Prejudice--in particular the scene where Elizabeth Bennett overhears him say it to Bingley, and then when Darcy mentions dancing as an act of affection, Bennett replies, "only if one's partner is barely tolerable." All I know is the girl ignored me and her brother said the words...she never gave me a reason and blocked me on Facebook. At first glance I assumed this meant she was annoyed by me...but without her telling me it was very hard to know for sure. Some time later I wondered if the father had a part in all this, perhaps not approving of us being close with each other (close only in the sense of friends), and decided to end it. Sometimes I wonder if she had a crush on me and I never realized it...there are plenty of occurrences that could have suggested this...but again...I will never know. Sometimes I wonder if her dad said no more and she said barely tolerable to get me to know the reference to Pride & Prejudice? This whole ordeal has confused me so much, and the only person who really knows the truth is her, and she has not spoken to me at all since the incident. Edited December 29, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fixed formatting Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted December 9, 2019 Share Posted December 9, 2019 Ask her. Or ask her brother what the problem is since he apparently decided to insert himself into the situation. As for "barely tolerable" - I love Jane Austen, but I'm a 54 year old woman. I wouldn't expect a guy - especially a younger one - to have any clue about that phrase. If it was something the two of you had specifically discussed, then yes, she was probably trying to get some kind of message across to you. But since obviously the message isn't coming through - ask. Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted December 10, 2019 Share Posted December 10, 2019 Since she's blocked you on FB, that should speak volumes loud and clear. People are fickle these days and can change their mind on a dime with little or no reason given. It's tough, sure, but just steer clear of her. Her loss. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hmmhmmm2 Posted December 10, 2019 Author Share Posted December 10, 2019 2 hours ago, Finding my way said: Ask her. Or ask her brother what the problem is since he apparently decided to insert himself into the situation. As for "barely tolerable" - I love Jane Austen, but I'm a 54 year old woman. I wouldn't expect a guy - especially a younger one - to have any clue about that phrase. If it was something the two of you had specifically discussed, then yes, she was probably trying to get some kind of message across to you. But since obviously the message isn't coming through - ask. Oh I knew the phrase, we had talked about P&P before....I just didn't know how to interpret it. My guess was she thought I was annoying...but considering her personality I would find that extremely hypocritical...but perhaps she had another meaning behind it. I just hate playing this guessing game as to why. I've played with the notion she crushed on me but her dad found out and nixed it. A couple nuances here--within a week after the comment...I saw her at the bookstore behind my workplace...maybe coincidence, maybe not..but she for sure knew I worked there...she did say Hi, how are you, but I was a bit taken aback as how to respond since at this point this were our first interaction since the comment...but I went to a mental episode following this event...which I'm sure made everything far far worse. Really, more than anything, is I just want her to explain what was going on. Even if nothing gets reconciled...at least I would have peace about knowing why. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 10, 2019 Share Posted December 10, 2019 A little while ago you wrote a topic on wanting to get a much younger conservative girl into bed. While it may not have been pastor's daughter you were thinking of, I would make an educated guess and say that you have a vibe of creeping on younger women in church and trying to take advantage of them being naive. Likewise, a more recent reference to 'goody goody Christian girls' was beyond disrespectful. My guess is that they do indeed find you barely tolerable. She was not giving a Jane Austin reference and you sir, are no Mr Darcy. 4 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted December 11, 2019 Share Posted December 11, 2019 When I read the title of this thread, for some reason I thought of the movie Footloose. Maybe you could organize a barn dance and invite your class to it, and then when she comes, you can dance with her and make up. Link to post Share on other sites
VIOLET EDEN Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 On 12/11/2019 at 9:30 AM, Watercolors said: When I read the title of this thread, for some reason I thought of the movie Footloose. Maybe you could organize a barn dance and invite your class to it, and then when she comes, you can dance with her and make up. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Watercolors Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 4 minutes ago, VIOLET EDEN said: lol Finally, someone else gets my sense of humor! 😁 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 On 12/9/2019 at 9:21 PM, basil67 said: A little while ago you wrote a topic on wanting to get a much younger conservative girl into bed. While it may not have been pastor's daughter you were thinking of, I would make an educated guess and say that you have a vibe of creeping on younger women in church and trying to take advantage of them being naive. Likewise, a more recent reference to 'goody goody Christian girls' was beyond disrespectful. My guess is that they do indeed find you barely tolerable. She was not giving a Jane Austin reference and you sir, are no Mr Darcy. That was eye opening. Lol. I have zero words. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PinkFlamingo Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 On 12/10/2019 at 3:21 AM, basil67 said: A little while ago you wrote a topic on wanting to get a much younger conservative girl into bed. While it may not have been pastor's daughter you were thinking of, I would make an educated guess and say that you have a vibe of creeping on younger women in church and trying to take advantage of them being naive. Likewise, a more recent reference to 'goody goody Christian girls' was beyond disrespectful. My guess is that they do indeed find you barely tolerable. She was not giving a Jane Austin reference and you sir, are no Mr Darcy. EWWWWWWWWWW!! YUCK!!! ICK!! 🤮 He is 35 and he tried to get it on with a young girl who was barely out of legal age in his church like a good Christian predator. 🤢 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 And he didn't even offer her father a goat. Bad form. Link to post Share on other sites
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