Can anyone explain this?

[Envy123]

12 minutes ago, an0nym0us123 said:

Looks wise i think some of them are above me but not in any other way have i felt out classed by the women i have been on dates with. I honestly dont think im coming across in a way that would be off putting. And im not clingy between dates either. Im assuming if a woman wants a second date then she is into you at that point, so im not really sure where things go wrong

 

My main point was body language which can tell the woman what you really feel about the whole situation.

 

It's not what you say, but how you say it.

[an0nym0us123]

I get you but i dont see what i could be doing wrong, i look into her eyes as i talk to her and and happy to flirt with her when with her of via message after. 

 

I met one who was quiet pretty. First thing she said was i was well hot, we were walking for about 10min and she kept giving me the look so i wasted no more time and went in for the kiss. Then i couldnt keep her off me haha

[mark clemson]

4 hours ago, an0nym0us123 said:

I dont think this has anything to do with penis size, its either looks or my ability to engage with women or a combination of both. 

 

I suspect it's something to do with your ability, maybe not to engage but something happening as she starts to get to know you. Not at all sure what it would be. Different women no doubt look for somewhat different things, so presumably you'll eventually find one who sticks.

 

My thought would be that if you consistently come across as an energetic go-getter but not as a player or insincere that would be ideal. But again, not really able to fully understand what the issue is from the info available.

[an0nym0us123]

Im not able to understand the issue from the info available either. Ive clearly been enough to have women after me in my life, to get a few dates, even several with the same one. But nothing seems to stick despite everything appearing to go really well

 

The girl i had most success with even told me after date 1 how awesome it was to finally meet someone normal and so easy to talk to. I mean surely praise doesnt come higher than that?

Edited December 11, 2019 by an0nym0us123

[an0nym0us123]

5 hours ago, chillii said:

Always all about looks in these places , l'm not surprised at all then if that's still all you think it's about.

Most half decent women your age now are looking for some depth, yaknow., at least some., personality, and actual compatibility and connection , long term relationship material

No its not, but to dismiss looks as unimportant is wrong. Plenty people struggling in dating because they dont cut it. Even myself i want to feel physical attraction for someone as well as feeling a connection. Ive never felt attracted towards a woman who doesnt have these two things. I suspect most people including women are similar even though they are older

 

 

[Inspire]

Attraction and connection are two different things, don't conflate the two. If you're getting a lot of dates then generating some level of attraction because of your looks isn't necessarily your problem. Obviously these women are picking up on something that isn't clicking with them. Perhaps you're too hungry and women pick up on that instinctively.

Most people that come on this forum seeking advice tell the same story, ("We had this amazing connection, They seemed so interested" etc) but the reality is that is just your perception of it. Most people that communicate poorly never think its because of anything they've said. It's just human nature to point the finger and blame anyone else besides ourselves. Look inward and stop thinking its because of your looks.