What can I do about him?

[Pink86]

I started talking to this guy about a month ago. I told him up front I was interested in friends with benefits and he said awesome. Well, we got to talking and later he starts telling me he’s never met a girl like me before and thinks he may be falling for me and all this other gushy stuff. We never had sex yet but I told him one day that If we did have sex then I would be fine to not have feelings after. We were talking everyday then all the sudden one day 2 weeks after I said that to him he randomly brings it up that I said I could have sex and not feel anything and then stops talking to me. I did nothing to make him mad. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing is wrong but yet before he told me I made his day better when we talked. Now nothing at all. I am not even texting him right now because I don’t know what he’s mad about. I made it clear from the beginning. If we talk I usually have to initiate first now. Do you think he’s mad at me cuz he likes me or do u think he doesn’t like me anymore? Will he come around? I apologized for saying that too. I need help!

[2BGoodAgain]

I think you're trying to protect your feelings/heart and wanted benefits only with friendship and his idea of "friendship" is love/sex.

 

that's the problem. 

 

if you want a relationship with friendship/sex, he's the one to stay away from... also, never trust a person who tells you he's fallen for you less than a month after meeting you.

 

red flags all around.

[mark clemson]

Perhaps what you're offering isn't what he's actually looking for but with the prospect of NSA sex dangled in front of him it took him some time to figure that out. That can be a BIG motivator for many men.

 

Or possibly he is looking elsewhere, playing hot/cold games to attempt to get you more interested and needy, or simply a bit of a jerk.

[schlumpy]

At first he was intrigued with the idea of sex without responsibility but after the idea finally made it to his frontal lobes he realized that you were saying that sex for you was meaningless and that anyone could fill that space. That means he would just be one of many. Not a very special place.

 

If this isn't your relationship philosophy and you really wanted an emotional connection but for some odd reason stated the opposite, then somehow you have to walk this back.

 

Stop telling him about how you can sleep with anyone without emotion. That's first thing to do.

 

The second thing is to reset. Do all the things the women do to interest men and let him pursue you. Dress nicely, compliment him when you have a chance and invade his personal space at every given opportunity. See if you can get him to start conversations with you. Then hope you haven't blown it too badly.