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there's an old proverb.. something along the lines of...

 

big things often start small....

 

all major infractions start off small... and the more you indulge it, the bigger it'll become.

 

just a thought... it's easier to stop it when it's small, then when it's large and looming and overpowering your common sense.

 

So "micro" cheating..... where do you think this often leads? :)

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Maybe instead of a microanalysis of micro-cheating,  a couple should get on the same page with regard to mutually agreed upon boundaries that comprise fidelity within the relationship. 

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On 12/10/2019 at 11:53 PM, Frozen22 said:

I’m just wondering what people’s thoughts are on micro-cheating. Specifically if your significant other is searching old flames on Facebook and hiding it from you? There has been no communication just looking at their profiles to see how their life is. 

I don't consider that cheating by any stretch of the imagination or definition.  That's curiosity.

 

Cheating would be if they contacted that person and began an emotional entanglement with them and withheld that information from you.

 

Looking at pictures isn't cheating, unless one is just exceedingly controlling.

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IMO, it's not even worth analyzing the merits of this "micro-cheating" in this situation given that his (hopefully ex) partner called and texted him 5 million times during the dead of the night and broke into his house to snoop when she thought he would be gone for work. She's revealed all he needs to know, she is jealous, controlling, insecure....

 

However, I think OP should figure out why he took on so much blame and quit all his social media accounts for looking at a Facebook profile every now and then. She had him feeling like he was a horrible human being, bad partner, deserved to be punished, etc. Giving up that level of power and walking on that many eggshells is not healthy and in this case not justified.

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I dont think you are ready to date, that's the first thing. 

 

More importantly,  this lady is "off". 

 

Be careful that your not getting stuck on a few positive things you've been getting that was absent in your marriage.  Example,  not having much sex in your marriage now having a woman being very sexual. This can give you a false sense of completeness and cause you to over look the obvious red flags.  This is something very common in affairs but also in rebound situations. 

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