Thank You to all the Strong People

[Pleasant-Sage]

This is my first post here but I wanted to start by extending out a thanks to all the folks who have displayed strength and courage throughout their relationship battles.

 

Some will immediately know I am talking about them. If that's you, THANK YOU! Give yourself a pat on the back because your strength and story is or has inspired someone else to also become strong.

 

If you are simply unsure, you may come to know that I'm talking about you as well with the passing of time.

 

I've had many relationship problems of my own. Been divorced once and now things are incredibly rocky once more.

 

My situation sucks just like everyone else.  I am now fighting vigorously for my second marriage. 

 

Why stay in a bad relationship? We all have our own excuses for doing so. I believe my wife is mentally ill but ultimately it's because I love her.

 

When you marry someone, you do so for better or for worse. Most people don't get the worse part and just throw their hands up and say "I quit". Sometimes that's the right thing to do but it's not always the answer.

 

At some point, I might determine that my relationship is a lost cause but that day is not today.

 

I've learned a lot over the years and heard a lot too. I hope to continue to learn from everyone here and possibly share my own advice.

[K.K.]

People stay in bad relationships a lot of times simply because change isn’t fun and staying seems the lesser of the two evils. 

 

Nobody likes change. If they did, why do we all pick the same spot at work everyday to park in if they aren’t assigned and there’s hundreds of them. Hmm? 

 

People finally change because they are finally able to see their own self worth and the dead end that’s in store for them if they stay. 

 

Plus the addiction factor. I think personally (just my experience) that love is about as much of a drug and as addicting as heroin.  That’s why once you’re in love, you feel hopeless to get out. But once you’re out, it’s like the drug. You occasionally think about it, but it no longer has any strength to hurt you.