angel eyes Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 I had a date with my boyfriend last night afterwards we went to his place to cuddle and end up making love then we cuddle and around midnight i got up grab my clothes and said i have to go, he was surprised and wanted to hold me a little more but i didn't let him because i had just gotten my period. i couldn't explain to him what was going on cause i didn't think i guy would like to hear that his girlfriend is on her period. i said that i had to get up early in the morning because i had things to do. needless to say he was surprised and in shock and told me that i was being distant i just replied that i was tired. I know he probably think that something was wrong and that it had to do with him but that's not true i just panicked and if i had stayed a little longer i would have been very worried of staining my clothes. should i tell him why i was in a hurry? most guys don't like to hear about this so i'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
me Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 umm i'm not sure about most guys, but my bf for example is just fine with knowing about my period ... i don't think u really should have to hide it once u'r at the stage when u both get naked & stuff ... while all the clothes stay on - yes, I wdn't mention it either ... if he asks u about it - just say it (say u got a headache if u RLLY dont feel comfy telling the truth) ... if he doesn't - just smoothen it out by being nice n affectionate next time u see him so he is sure nothing's wrong ... good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 You don't owe him any explanation whatsoever. He doesn't own you or your time and you have every right for whatever reason to leave his place when you want. Don't change that. Don't get in a situation where you have to give him an explanation everytime you move your feet. Your business is your business. How he reacts is a matter of his own sensitivity and maturity. You've simply got to train him to respect your ability to be free. If he doesn't forget this episode in a day or two, you can assume he has some serious psychological problems that need to be addressed by a competent therapist. Remember, his responses to you are HIS problem, not yours. Train him to NOT demand that you act in certain ways and to be more respectful and understanding of your actions. When he sees that you are back to normal and nothing has changed in your relationship, he should be just fine. At some point in the relationship, I'm sure you'll be supplying him with up to date data on your periods and the effects thereof. But you don't need to just yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Boomerang Posted June 8, 2001 Share Posted June 8, 2001 How long have you guys been dating? Doesn't sound like you know eachother all that well. I'm asking because if sleeping together is new to you two, then if I were him I'd be wondering whether you have some closeness issue. You are right, Tony, you don't owe anyone an explanation, you're free to do anything you like, and so on, but if this is a new relationship he may take this as a sign she doesn't want a serious involvement and that they should keep things very light and casual. And that's his business to know too, I think. Tony, what do you think? You don't owe him any explanation whatsoever. He doesn't own you or your time and you have every right for whatever reason to leave his place when you want. Don't change that. Don't get in a situation where you have to give him an explanation everytime you move your feet. Your business is your business. How he reacts is a matter of his own sensitivity and maturity. You've simply got to train him to respect your ability to be free. If he doesn't forget this episode in a day or two, you can assume he has some serious psychological problems that need to be addressed by a competent therapist. Remember, his responses to you are HIS problem, not yours. Train him to NOT demand that you act in certain ways and to be more respectful and understanding of your actions. When he sees that you are back to normal and nothing has changed in your relationship, he should be just fine. At some point in the relationship, I'm sure you'll be supplying him with up to date data on your periods and the effects thereof. But you don't need to just yet. Link to post Share on other sites
sarah Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 Whoa! What happened to being open and honest here? He was being sensitive with you after making love and you respond by leaving. If you are comfortable enough sharing your body sexually what is wrong with telling him that you started your period? You don't owe him an explanation but it is at the cost of his feelings. I had a date with my boyfriend last night afterwards we went to his place to cuddle and end up making love then we cuddle and around midnight i got up grab my clothes and said i have to go, he was surprised and wanted to hold me a little more but i didn't let him because i had just gotten my period. i couldn't explain to him what was going on cause i didn't think i guy would like to hear that his girlfriend is on her period. i said that i had to get up early in the morning because i had things to do. needless to say he was surprised and in shock and told me that i was being distant i just replied that i was tired. I know he probably think that something was wrong and that it had to do with him but that's not true i just panicked and if i had stayed a little longer i would have been very worried of staining my clothes. should i tell him why i was in a hurry? most guys don't like to hear about this so i'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 You may have a point. But I think if she shows him this was an isolated incident, he really shouldn't give it more thought. I'm not a woman but if I were I'd be damned if I'd tell some new guy I was acting weird because I was started my period and had to get home quickly before I spotted my dress. That's the way I see it. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 YOU WRITE: "You don't owe him an explanation but it is at the cost of his feelings." A good point. But if this guy is THAT sensitive, maybe he's the wrong guy for her. Guys who get wimpish and sensitive so quickly are not all that attractive to many females. Furthermore, what she did will make her far more desireable to him in the longrun. Trust me. Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 "! What happened to being open and honest here? He was being sensitive with you after making love and you respond by leaving. If you are comfortable enough sharing your body sexually what is wrong with telling him that you started your period? You don't owe him an explanation but it is at the cost of his feelings." For women, having their period is just a natural part of life. It's nothing to be ashamed of at all and any kind, decent, mature guy who cares about you will not be 'grossed out' if you have to tell them you're having your period. They'll just appreciate your honesty :-) Much better to be honest then have your poor guy think you had to screw-and-run for other reasons..like: a) you just didn't to be with him...b) sex was lousy and you had to leave....c) etc. Next time you see him, just explain to him that the reason you wanted to leave was due to having your period and you weren't prepared (didn't have tampon/pad, etc with you). I'm sure he'll be very relieved to know the truth.....instead of worrying that it was something he said/did that caused you to rush out. Oh, and...count your lucky stars that you have a loving man who wants to cuddle/hold each other after sex. Sounds like you have a great guy there. Most guys just roll over and go to sleep. Laurynn Link to post Share on other sites
Laurynn Posted June 9, 2001 Share Posted June 9, 2001 I don't think the guy would be construed as 'oversensitive' to be concerned why his gal rushed out of there after they made love. I don't really consider myself an insecure person...but if I was in a relationship with someone, and we'd just made love and he suddenly had a fire under his ass to get up and leave, I'd naturally think that maybe there was something else going on......I think that's only human nature. L Link to post Share on other sites
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