mortensorchid Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 Last night I called my mom to ask if she had any celery for a recipe that I was making. I then asked if she had heard from my sister she hadn't told me what she wanted for Christmas yet. Mom said her surgery is on the 23rd, I asked surgery for what? Mom then tells me that my sister has cancer. I was blown away. Not just because of how she told me but I felt like this was shocking. I think I am still in shock. She went to the doctor because she had blood in her s***, the doctor said it was probably roids. They did a colonoscopy and found that it wasn't. Now she's having surgery in a few weeks. I don't know what stage it's in or what's involved. Chemo and radiation will follow no doubt. She's younger than me (age 41), she's a doctor herself. She was the perfect one - smarter than me, achiever, better grades, med school, etc. I was the problematic one in that I put myself through a lot more abuse than she did with chemical abuse and smoking. I am not feeling like it should've been me, but this is stupid as hell. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 I would urge you to consider have a colonoscopy yourself. I think the target date to start getting them is 50 but I would take your sister's condition as a warning and act upon it. There is genetic susceptibility to certain types of cancer. Noticing blood in your stool is not a good way to find out. It's curable by surgery if caught early. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 (edited) Wow I’m sorry, mortensorchid Sure you’re in shock, who wouldn’t be? Your mom’s feeling it too no doubt, so that probably explains her just blurting it out over a normal everyday style phone call. I think she’s trying to keep herself as normal as she can. Making the whole thing seem like just another something to check off on to do list. Like it’s anything but cancer. She’s scared, like you and in shock. She doesn’t want to show how big of a deal this is -to you- or to herself. I hope everything will ultimately be ok for your family. Edited December 13, 2019 by K.K. . Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 Sorry to hear that. Hopefully it's early enough to be easily excisable and treatable. She is a doctor and will probably also know how to work the system to her advantage a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 are you and your sister close mortensorchid? Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted December 13, 2019 Author Share Posted December 13, 2019 4 hours ago, alphamale said: are you and your sister close mortensorchid? Not really. We are kind of cold towards one another because we are such different people. We don't share things like you would with friends, it's kind of a business relationship more than a friendship. Kind of like distant relatives who are friendly / polite strangers to one another. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted December 13, 2019 Share Posted December 13, 2019 I feel for you, but as schlumpy said, you should schedule a colonoscopy yourself. It's always better safe than sorry and hopefully everything will be ok. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted December 14, 2019 Author Share Posted December 14, 2019 5 hours ago, The Outlaw said: I feel for you, but as schlumpy said, you should schedule a colonoscopy yourself. It's always better safe than sorry and hopefully everything will be ok. Yes I will. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 14, 2019 Share Posted December 14, 2019 So sorry for this news about your sis!! Link to post Share on other sites
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