Did anyone here seek revenge on their ex?

[CaptnNotSoObvious]

Did anyone here seek revenge on their ex post breakup?

And if so, what did you do? What was the outcomes? and how did taking revenge make you feel?


For my part, I never took revenge on an ex, but this one, I am really thinking  about being karma's right-hand man and do it.

 

in a nutshell, I have been broken up with almost 6 months ago. My ex told me that she is seeing someone that she met after we broke up..and then led me to believe she dumped him a month later for me, and we even made plans to get married, when in fact, 3 weeks ago, I discovered that not only she is still with him, and using me as a "backup" but that she had cheated on me with him, and a couple of years ago, with another dude.

I am thinking of contacting her current BF to tell him what happened and send him proof that she was basically cheating on him with me for the last 5 months.

 

 

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Edited December 17, 2019 by CaptnNotSoObvious

[ajequals]

It not worth the stress it will cause you.  just move on find someone better

[CaptnNotSoObvious]

What if instead of stress I get relief?

[stillafool]

Well now you know women can be just as bad as men when it comes to cheating.

[K.K.]

I usually just take the high road and let karma sort it out. 

 

It always does. What goes around always comes around. Bad thing is that you may not be able to witness it. But that’s ok because you can still feel good for being the bigger person. 

 

Save that proof you have for if and when you may really need it -only if they try to involve you down the line. 

[The Outlaw]

No. She wasn't ever worth it. 

[preraph]

You should probably be thanking him for being the vehicle that showed you who she really was before you hauled off and married her.  

 

Exes have no credibility.  Everyone knows they're all bitter and usually have ulterior motives, so unless it's something provable, like you found out she's on the public sex offender registry and want to warn them, it's a waste of time and only going to be frustrating.  

[Piddy]

Decades ago I contemplated taking revenge by calling my cheating girlfriends - boyfriends wife (they had kids also).  He was a cop and I also thought about telling his chief.  He very well could've lost his job and his family.  In the end I didn't. 

 

There's a line in Robert Palmer's song Every Kinda People that says, ' honest men know that revenge does not taste sweet.'   Not sure I thought about it then, but looking back my revenge could've destroyed a family.  It might have felt good at the time, but it would've been a very selfish thing to do on my part.

 

 

[K.K.]

1 hour ago, Piddy said:

Decades ago I contemplated taking revenge by calling my cheating girlfriends - boyfriends wife (they had kids also).  He was a cop and I also thought about telling his chief.  He very well could've lost his job and his family.  In the end I didn't. 

 

There's a line in Robert Palmer's song Every Kinda People that says, ' honest men know that revenge does not taste sweet.'   Not sure I thought about it then, but looking back my revenge could've destroyed a family.  It might have felt good at the time, but it would've been a very selfish thing to do on my part.

 

 

 

That made my eyes well up. For real. You could’ve ruined them and you didn’t. Shows what kind of person you are. ❤️

 

Robert Palmer was right. Revenge does not taste sweet. It doesn’t. 

 

It just makes you look at yourself in the mirror and shake your head with disappointment. If you can even look. 

[Happy Lemming]

Nope... never did the revenge thing... just moved on and lived well.

 

Similar to K.K., I just let karma sort it out.

[major_merrick]

Yep.  I tend to be a vindictive little viper.  Years ago I was seriously in love with a girl.  I had moved to a different state for her, and we were living together and going to marry.  She had a traveling job, and I found out that she had other girlfriends that she was spending time with in other cities.  I can't state the exact details, but I made sure that her life and career were effectively ruined.  I did it with complete relish, and I am still kinda glad that I did it.  I hate letting someone get away with hurting me.  While I've learned a bit about forgiveness since getting religion, I still think it is "bad for business" to have a reputation that you're a fool.  If I were you, OP, I'd send the proof.  That's the least you can do so that others in your life and vicinity don't think you're a chump. 

[basil67]

No, I haven't done it.   Besides, getting revenge shows how much you've been affected by it.  

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I've had women send other guys after me, steal my money, trash my house, damage my vehicle, steal s*** from me... One chick even stole my childhood stuffed animal from me and apparently did some voodoo spell on it, her best friend was telling me how the stuffy had needles and knives in it and she seemed like the most normal one of them all. I used to live in a small town and my ex banged all my friends after I told her I had been seeing other women basically the entire time we were together, I was 19 at the time, definitely a bad move, I told her I didn't care if she banged them or not and me and my buddies ended up giving each other high-fives about it later.

 

When I was in college a chick I didn't even sleep with told her dad I tried to rape her or something to this effect... She told me that he said he was gonna kill me, so then he came to the campus to help her move all her stuff out and I called him out in front of everyone and he didn't do anything, neither did she.

 

I have never cared enough to take revenge, I don't know if that is a good or bad thing lmao.

[trw1972]

Nope, i have had 2 very long relationships- both fizzled out to the point where we were more like mates than a couple and were amicable splits.

 

I guess i have been lucky in that regard- but i certainly never felt like revenge.

[d0nnivain]

I never sought revenge.   I always figured I would let karma take care of things & I am not a pot stirrer. 

 

Go ahead & tell this guy whatever you want but understand he won't believe you even with proof.  He will think you are a bitter jealous jilted EX.  Even if you successfully break them up, it won't bring her back to you or make you happier.  

 

You dodged a bullet & didn't marry her.  Yes she hurt you but that is life.   

 

What's that saying about people like you who can't move on?  You are giving the other person free rent in your head.  

Edited December 18, 2019 by d0nnivain

[Mrin]

No. Has not ever crossed my mind. Even with the long term girlfriend in undergrad that cheated on me multiple times. 

 

All that being said - I will confess that when I found out 20 years later that she was thrice divorced and miserable, I did feel a little bit of satisfaction.