NightRogue Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 Ok, so I was wondering about something that happened at a halloween party I was it. I was dressed like Miles Morales and this girl who is a friend of a friend of mine who I thought was really cute was dressed like the Bride from Kill Bill even with a sword, which I thought was pretty cool and showed approval of my costume. I later got the chance ask her more about her costume and managed to introduce myself and some small info between each other a little later. After that, since it was halloween, I asked if I could take a photo with her and her sword and me in my suit cuz I thought Spider-Man and the Bride would look cool. After that, she smiled and was silent for a while and then suddenly, I was thinking "Oh crap, was that wrong/too soon to say" but she said sure but I still got a vibe I might have made it weird. Later by chance, I encountered her with my friend and her other friends in my friends room and I took some photos with my friend, which she photobombed. My friend then asked her after she became a part of our photo. "Hey, do you know X and she replied in a joking(?)."Yeah, he asked me to take a f*cking photo a million times" and I was thinking "Oh crap I did make it weird" but I replied jokingly "It was only once" and she responded "true". Anyway, we did take the photo afterwards but I wonder if I came across too strong and made it weird based on her responses. I mean, I took photos with strangers at the party and a mutual friend of my friend I just met, granted he was a guy though. To see how she felt, I sent her a FB request but she didn't respond to it, so I'm sure she thinks I'm weird or something. So was I in the wrong for asking? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 Would I be right to think she'd been drinking? If so, think nothing of it. Ships that pass in the night and all that.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 It wasn't like you asked for her hand in marriage, you only asked for a photo. It's no big deal and you weren't wrong about anything, especially if everyone was taking photos. Link to post Share on other sites
lurker74 Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 I don't mean to be flippant, but who cares? You were into her, you took a mild shot, and she may or may not have been interested. Sounds like she wasn't, since if she was, she would have been more responsive. There is nothing wrong with someone not being into you and a lot more wrong with missed opportunities if you are into someone, as long as you are respectful. If she doesn't like it, it's her loss (or at least, that's how you should view it). Just remember that last part about being respectful. Also, next time, do the same thing and then make sure your phone doesn't work. Then ask her to take it and after she does, ask her to send it to you (phone number). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 You didn't do anything wrong. But, if there is anything weird, is the FB friend request. You just met her, right? Why did you think she would be friends with a stranger? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 20, 2019 Share Posted December 20, 2019 The only way it would have been weird is if you had been flirting with her beforehand and maybe she wasn't interested. Otherwise, seems like a Halloween Party should be no objections to photos. Link to post Share on other sites
VIOLET EDEN Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 I do know some girls are hesitant to get a picture with a stranger, but if she was truly weirded out, she would have said no outright. It was just a harmless instant hesitant reflex us girls have. But I do not think you did anything wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightRogue Posted December 23, 2019 Author Share Posted December 23, 2019 On 12/21/2019 at 3:38 PM, VIOLET EDEN said: I do know some girls are hesitant to get a picture with a stranger, but if she was truly weirded out, she would have said no outright. It was just a harmless instant hesitant reflex us girls have. But I do not think you did anything wrong. What about the fact that she made fun of the photo, saying I asked her a million times when I only did it once and denied my request. Link to post Share on other sites
VIOLET EDEN Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 10 hours ago, NightRogue said: What about the fact that she made fun of the photo, saying I asked her a million times when I only did it once and denied my request. I think this is her just making light of the situation or trying to deflect off of her Link to post Share on other sites
PinkFlamingo Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 Judging from your overanalysing a harmless picture at a party, I'd say you are probably under 20 years? Meaning, you belong the generation that follows and sends friendships request to anyone with a pulse. That should also be the age where people are more open to meeting people and making new friends. So, don't worry too much. And even if you were older, nothing in your posts suggest anything wrong. But if she doesn't accept your friendship request, drop it and do not pursue her any further or ask her what is wrong. In life, not everyone will be into you and has nothing to do with you, but it becomes creepy if you obsess about them and struggle for your approval. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightRogue Posted December 25, 2019 Author Share Posted December 25, 2019 16 hours ago, PinkFlamingo said: Judging from your overanalysing a harmless picture at a party, I'd say you are probably under 20 years? Meaning, you belong the generation that follows and sends friendships request to anyone with a pulse. That should also be the age where people are more open to meeting people and making new friends. So, don't worry too much. And even if you were older, nothing in your posts suggest anything wrong. But if she doesn't accept your friendship request, drop it and do not pursue her any further or ask her what is wrong. In life, not everyone will be into you and has nothing to do with you, but it becomes creepy if you obsess about them and struggle for your approval. I'm 21 and in uni. Yeah, after she didn't accept my request, I haven't talked to her online or in person and have decided to just leave her alone, haven't asked her why. I'm certain she probably dislikes me anyway as one time she was sitting with my friend, who I talked too and she glanced me at twice, with looks I'm certain where like "Eww/Urgh, why is this guy here?'. I was wondering, though if this is wrong, i'm not pursuing her, but part of me is kinda hoping I might get a chance to organically speak to her maybe to like make a better impression Link to post Share on other sites
PinkFlamingo Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 9 hours ago, NightRogue said: I was wondering, though if this is wrong, i'm not pursuing her, but part of me is kinda hoping I might get a chance to organically speak to her maybe to like make a better impression No, drop it, that's too much work for someone you don't know and who is not treating you particularly well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightRogue Posted December 25, 2019 Author Share Posted December 25, 2019 2 hours ago, PinkFlamingo said: No, drop it, that's too much work for someone you don't know and who is not treating you particularly well. Do you mean in regards to the look, or also the photo interaction in general Link to post Share on other sites
PinkFlamingo Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 3 hours ago, NightRogue said: Do you mean in regards to the look, or also the photo interaction in general Do not contact her and her ask her if you have behaved in a weird way or offer any kind of talks to clear the air. That will enforce your mind to be believe that you did something wrong and it will look to her as if you did something wrong. If she contacts you - fine, but if not, just do your own thing and ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author NightRogue Posted December 25, 2019 Author Share Posted December 25, 2019 23 minutes ago, PinkFlamingo said: Do not contact her and her ask her if you have behaved in a weird way or offer any kind of talks to clear the air. That will enforce your mind to be believe that you did something wrong and it will look to her as if you did something wrong. If she contacts you - fine, but if not, just do your own thing and ignore her. Oh yeah, ofc, I have no plans to do that and am doing my own thing. I mean, you said she wasn't treating me well and what I meant was, like how she acted during the photo. With the glances, it could just be me overthinking Link to post Share on other sites
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