oldschoolromantic Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 I met Becky nearly 4 years ago at our gym and as our daily workout schedules coincide we quickly became friends. We see each other 3-4, sometimes 5 days a week. We share so many great conversations, laugh a lot, and have so much fun. But I found out earlier this week that her husband is being relocated and they moving in a few months. I am devastated!!! I’m going to miss her so much. She’s been a constant in my life for these 4 years and out of nowhere, she’s being ripped out of it. What hurts more is the fact that she’s excited about the move! What does that say about OUR friendship?? Do I mean anything to her? Will she miss me? Will she think twice about our friendship once she moves? I don’t know what to do with the rest of our time together when she’s looking forward to leaving, and I’m devastated by her leaving. HELP! Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 2 minutes ago, oldschoolromantic said: I met Becky nearly 4 years ago at our gym and as our daily workout schedules coincide we quickly became friends. We see each other 3-4, sometimes 5 days a week. We share so many great conversations, laugh a lot, and have so much fun. But I found out earlier this week that her husband is being relocated and they moving in a few months. I am devastated!!! I’m going to miss her so much. She’s been a constant in my life for these 4 years and out of nowhere, she’s being ripped out of it. What hurts more is the fact that she’s excited about the move! What does that say about OUR friendship?? Do I mean anything to her? Will she miss me? Will she think twice about our friendship once she moves? I don’t know what to do with the rest of our time together when she’s looking forward to leaving, and I’m devastated by her leaving. HELP! I looked at your other threads. You’re a man. You’re going to miss her and are devastated because ... you love her. 💔 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Outlaw Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 Some people are only in our lives for a lifetime and some are only around for a season but this doesn't necessarily mean it's the end of anything. Don't fret it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 36 minutes ago, K.K. said: I looked at your other threads. You’re a man. You’re going to miss her and are devastated because ... you love her. 💔 Oh good lord. I was about to chime in about how I understood because my twin sister moved across the country a couple of years ago, but..... Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 Yep. I thought why is this woman getting so upset over this. The desperation. The hurt. He’s a man. It all makes sense now. I feel for him though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oldschoolromantic Posted December 21, 2019 Author Share Posted December 21, 2019 15 minutes ago, K.K. said: Yep. I thought why is this woman getting so upset over this. The desperation. The hurt. He’s a man. It all makes sense now. I feel for him though. Do you? Or are you judging? I never went looking for this and am perfectly content with the platonic friendship. Just not happy with it ending. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 Just now, oldschoolromantic said: Do you? Or are you judging? I never went looking for this and am perfectly content with the platonic friendship. Just not happy with it ending. Nah I’m not judging one single bit. I feel horrible for you. You can talk about the platonic stuff all you want to. But you’re not fooling me. I’ve been all over these boards in the past saying the exact same thing about my ‘friend’. I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. These people here made me face what I was trying to downplay. I loved the man. I was in love with the man. I called him my ‘friend’ just like you. I lost my ‘friend’ too. It hurt like holy hell. So yea, you’re not fooling me one bit. I feel horrible for you. And I mean it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 K.K. nailed it. And your posting history supports what she surmised. I understand being sad about someone moving away, but 'heartbroken' is a whole different level which doesn't sit in the 'just friends' area. Like K.K., I'd be a hypocrite to judge you. But perhaps you can look at her leaving as a stabilising influence to help you focus what's going on in your marriage. Sort it out one way or another. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 21, 2019 Share Posted December 21, 2019 What it says about her feelings for you is that they are very minimal compared to her feelings for her husband and that you are in a whole other category that isn't a priority. It sounds like she just likes you in a casual friendship way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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