How did I end up in this mess

[lftbehind]

12 hours ago, Unhappy fool said:

Thank you for this.  I wish I was as ‘together’ as others are.  I’m shocked at how badly I’m handling this.  This is going to sound childish and naive but I genuinely thought he was going to be my knight in shining armour. He said as much himself. Let me into your life and heart, let’s knock those walls down.  Over time he did and now this ?!! 
 

Shall try repeating a phrase . Will use yours if that’s ok until maybe something more personal comes to mind.  

You're welcome. You shouldn't feel bad for the way that you're handling things. I can see how you would want a knight in shining armour, with your situation at home. It's must be stressful with your marriage being platonic. You deserve to be treated better than he's treating you. You've given him your love and treated him well. If you do end it with him, you'll get over him in time. You will probably wonder why you got upset over him. With some distance, you'll see things more clearly. Think about how things really are with MM, not how you romanticize them to be. I have a tendency to romanticize men, when I shouldn't. It may hurt to face the truth, but it might help you get away from him. 

I hope repeating the phrase helps you, it helped me get over someone. Hang in there, it will get better. 

[JimmyNorth]

On 1/20/2020 at 1:20 PM, Unhappy fool said:

Ok guess this will make people roll their eyes and be for goodness sake woman, wake up and smell the coffee and accept you wrecked it but...... why on Earth didn’t he fight why didn’t he say oh wow do  didn’t know you felt like that let’s fix it .  Why was it gosh you’ve made me feel bad and I can’t live with hurting you so seeya 

I was a former MM that was in a similar situation. If your MM was in the same mindset as myself, then he is really missing you and is probably torn.

has he contacted you at all?

Edited March 15, 2020 by JimmyNorth
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