My little sister knew that my EX was cheating but didnt tell ME ?

[Winterwonderboyman]

Break-ups can be tough on people but when you find out that your EX was cheating on you during the relationship AFTER the break up sucks ass.

 

 

I've been dating and living with my girlfriend since I was 19. We met when we were 17.

My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago for unrelated reasons.

So today my [23] little sister Amanda [16] who lives with me came and told me out of the blue that my NOW ex gf Ruby [22] was cheating on me with my childhood best friend Brice for the last 2 years. Me my gf and him went to the same high school.

When I asked her why she never said anything she said that she sees and hears about this stuff on TV or Facebook and thought it was 
the "norm" these days and that its gonna play out in the end.

She's NOT the brightest teenager around.

I asked her about how much she knew and she said that sometimes he would come to the apt while I was at my night shift job. When I asked her if he would spend the night she said "yes".

She said she would mostly just stay in her room while he was there.

I haven't confronted either of them yet but should I ?

We've been broken up for a month now ?

Should I stay mad at my sister or talk to her more ? 

[K.K.]

Bruh ... ouch. ☹️

 

I’m sorry that happened to you. 

[Winterwonderboyman]

21 minutes ago, K.K. said:

Bruh ... ouch. ☹️

 

I’m sorry that happened to you. 

Yeah me too.

 

I guess it takes a while while to get replies 

[K.K.]

No, someone will have good advice. I’m just more of a hit it and quit it kind of poster. 

 

Off the cuff though, I would say that you should forgive your sister this time. She’s young and was in a tough spot. Teach her that next time you need to know these kinds of things. 

 

Keep this information in your back pocket until juuust the right time to throw it in your ex’s face. 

 

You're already broken up. Why let her laugh twice. 

Edited December 22, 2019 by K.K.

[PinkFlamingo]

3 hours ago, Winterwonderboyman said:

Break-ups can be tough on people but when you find out that your EX was cheating on you during the relationship AFTER the break up sucks ass.

 

 

I've been dating and living with my girlfriend since I was 19. We met when we were 17.

My girlfriend and I broke up a month ago for unrelated reasons.

So today my [23] little sister Amanda [16] who lives with me came and told me out of the blue that my NOW ex gf Ruby [22] was cheating on me with my childhood best friend Brice for the last 2 years. Me my gf and him went to the same high school.

When I asked her why she never said anything she said that she sees and hears about this stuff on TV or Facebook and thought it was 
the "norm" these days and that its gonna play out in the end.

She's NOT the brightest teenager around.

I asked her about how much she knew and she said that sometimes he would come to the apt while I was at my night shift job. When I asked her if he would spend the night she said "yes".

She said she would mostly just stay in her room while he was there.

I haven't confronted either of them yet but should I ?

We've been broken up for a month now ?

Should I stay mad at my sister or talk to her more ? 

 

She is only 16 and you already said it, she is not the brightest teenager.

 

I would ask your friend and your ex-girlfriend for confirmation and then block them FOREVER (I'm always a bit reluctant to do anything without confirmation, it is second hand information after all, and I like to be transparent about the reasons I do things and blocking is quite harsh).

[preraph]

She was probably afraid of retaliation from one or both of them and didn't want anyone to be mad at her being she's so young.  Also, she was likely unsure what was going on until it went on awhile.  Don't be mad, but just ask her if anything happens like that in the future, please come to you.  

 

So obviously this male friend of yours isn't a friend, so I'm sorry you lost him and hope you haven't known him for 17 years like I had the one that did it to me.  I never regretted blocking her out of my life forever.  They'll just keep doing stuff like that if you show you tolerate it.  Her, I wouldn't bother with.  Block.  

Edited December 22, 2019 by preraph

[Blind-Sided]

This one sucks.  I know... I was you.

 

When I was younger, and around the same age... I was with a girl for close to 5 years. So... when I was 19 to around 24.  I was buddies with her brother, and would ride motorcycles together... and I worked for her dad, and was one of his best employees at the time. As you can see, I was very close to her family.   Anyway... She broke up with me for a bunch of bogus reasons, and it hurt. (Her father asked me to please not leave his company after)  I really though she would have been the girl I married.

 

Anyway... after a few weeks, her brother came to me and said she had been fooling around with one of our common friends  WELL before she broke it off with me.   When I heard that... I was crushed in a totally new way.

 

Now... spin the clock forward 25 years or so... and I had a 20 year relationship with my wife (now ex).  Built a life and family... but she was cruel at th end, and it was easy for me to just not care about her.  BUT... my GF from all those years ago wanted to say "Hi" after my divorce as her brother told her about it.   When I allowed her to reach out... the pain, and anger was all there again, and I just had to not talk with her.

 

So... I wish I could give you some insight, and advice... but the reality is... time and new relationships will help you forget... but the sting of the betrayal of your first true, strong love will be with you for a very long time.

 

All I can do is wish you the best while moving forward.

Edited December 26, 2019 by Blind-Sided