The Type of Woman for Mysterio

[RecentChange]

YOU HAVEN'T EVEN MET ANYONE YET

 

But you are thinking about how you should date, and how long you should date etc before getting married.

 

YOU HAVEN'T MET ANY ONE YET

 

Think about those things AFTER you meet someone special. Talk about goals, thoughts on marriage, children (clocks ticking on that one) with the woman you have met that you think you could spend the rest of your life with. 

 

Going over it in your head again and again and again will not make some magical woman appear who is happy to follow your guidelines. 

 

For instance, once upon a time I didn't ever consider getting married. I didn't think I even wanted a serious relationship.

 

But then I met someone and that all changed! We moved in together 6 months after meeting - that was over 18 years ago.

 

Sometimes you don't know where life is taking you. And adding all the variables sharing your life with another human being brings can be a joy.

 

Perhaps put all this ruminating, this energy into writing a fiction novel - because it seems like you need an outlet for it - but I honestly think it's really holding your love life back. 

 

Reality is never going to follow your imagination.

 

And keep in mind, what has worked or not worked for other couples you know has absolutely no barring on what will work for you, and a woman you hopefully meet. 

[chillii]

23 hours ago, Envy123 said:

I concur.

 

In fact, I am very dissatisfied with the type of woman I attract, coming to think of it. They look pretty but I feel bored easily with them. I think it's time for me to change focus, or I'll constantly spend the rest of my life with women who bore me to tears.

 

 

of course they do , the only thing you mention is they look pretty .

[basil67]

On 12/25/2019 at 2:09 PM, Mysterio said:

 

(sorry about the non-quote - can't get it to format correctly)

 

Anyway, I concur with Recent Change:  I was absolutely firm that I was never going to have kids.   Now have two kids.    Had I ditched my partner when I found out that he wanted kids, I wouldn't be in the happy life that I now have.

[Envy123]

16 hours ago, chillii said:

 

 

of course they do , the only thing you mention is they look pretty .

 

There must be something to how I come across to other people, which always attracts the same type of woman each time. The sort that looks pretty, but doesn't have a whole lot else going on. I give it a shot when she shows interest and I try to find some sort of way to be emotionally attracted to her, but I simply can't. I end up ending the relationship due to "no spark" and then the cycle happens again, some time later with a new girl.

 

The trouble is that they appreciate my best qualities and appreciate me for who I am, belly and all. And it is tempting to wait forever for such a girl to appear, but honestly, the situation of the OP has proved that waiting goes nowhere but changing the approach does.

[Mysterio]

This year.  I am going to be chill.  I won't be enforcing anything major on any woman that I meet.  I just feel that all my picks are wrong.  If the woman comes towards me.  For a little while it works.  When I go for it.  Which is basically asking them out to Lunch/Dinner.  Then there is some mishap in going out.  

I guess I don't want to wind up in a situation that does not work for me.  I feel because certain male friends did not Vet their So.  they wound up having trouble that would have not been there.  If they had Vetted their SO.  

I do have a lot to give.   I can give what I want.  Interesting Conversations and Laughs.  Up for Social and Recreational activities.  Lots of Physical Affection.