I (21F) met a guy (22M) with whom I really get along but who lives 600 km away. I'm unsure about what to do.

[CryingLightning]

First, a little bit of context. Before him, I had literally zero experience with all this stuff.

 

He was my first kiss, at age 21.

We met in September this year in a weekend event of a student association we are both members of. We are from the same country but different regions. The event took place in another town which is at a middle point between my city and his. I already knew from before a few people in the event, but there were over 100 people, so I had no idea of who were most of them. He is a new member, and he only knew one or two people from before. We were divided into smaller groups to do some activities, and he was in my group. After finishing with those activities, we had a party. I was talking to many people that night, but he was the one to whom I spoke the most since we were in a similar situation. At one point of the night, when the two of us were talking outside, he told me "let's go there", pointing to a more more private place behind the building. We went there and we sat in the kerb, next to each other. No one else was there. Then, he suddenly asked me if I had ever made out with someone. I thought it was an odd question since at my age it's assumed that everyone has done it. Mind you, he was a bit drunk, and although I wasn't drunk, I wasn't completely sober either. I told him that I hadn't, due to a mix of lack of interest in the past and lack of opportunities. Among other things that we talked, he finally asked if I was interested about having something with someone in the present. I told him that yes, and then he kissed me.

 

We kept on kissing and talking for a while, but then I started feeling cold because it was very late and I was just wearing a dress. Then he hold my hand and led me to his bedroom. We continue making out there for a while, there was some petting but nothing that involved taking off any clothes. Then we just cuddled in bed, caressing each other. He told me to sleep over, but I told him that I couldn't since all my stuff was in the other building. He led me to the door and we kissed one last time. The following day we talked a lot since we were in the same group, but we didn't talk about what happened last night since we didn't have much time to be the two of us alone. Finally, at night, when the party was about to begin, he told me to go for a stroll. We went to a private place and sat there. The night before hadn't been awkward at any moment, and we weren't awkward while we talked during the day, but we were a bit awkward at that moment. After a bit of small talk, he kissed me again, and after that, the ice was broken. We spent a lot of time there, we heavily made out, but we also talked a lot. It was very easy talking to him, and I could tell that there was chemistry. That night, we slept in the same bed (no sex, we didn't even talked about that topic at any moment). 

 

After the event, we stayed in contact, but in a casual way. We didn't talk about what happened, we talked about stuff like our daily life in a friendly way. We didn't text every day, but weekly. The maximum period of time we were without texting each other was two weeks. Most of the times it was me the one who iniciated the conversation, although sometimes it was him. He's not very a very talkative person on WhatsApp. I wanted to meet him again, but since there is a 600 kilometres distance between my city and his, it's difficult. I didn't know him enough to ask him to come visit or to go to his place, so I thought about asking him to apply for another event, this way we could meet in a neutral environment with other people and it didn't sound like something serious.

 

There was an interesting weekend event in another city in December, so at the end of September I told him about it. He said it seemed interesting and asked me several times about how and when to apply for the event. After we knew we both were attending the event in late November, we started texting more frequently. The event finally took place last weekend, exactly three months after the one where we met. I was nervous about meeting him again, and since we hadn't talked about what happened between us, I didn't know what to expect. Many things can happen in three months, what if he had met someone else? What if he wasn't interested anymore? Fortunately, everything went smooth. When we met again, we started talking and joking like if we had seen each other the day before. We sat by each other during dinner and the conversation went amazing. Although subtle, there was a flirting undertone. At night we all went to a club to party. A few minutes after arriving in the club, I sat in a sofa and he sat beside me. We were talking and laughing a lot. Then, he suddenly kissed me. That first kiss was like a few minutes long. After that, we had a pretty long make out session. We also talked a lot, among other things I told him that I didn't know how to bring up "the topic" and that I was unsure about what to do because many things can happen in three months. He said that three months is nothing. I told him that I hadn't had anything with anyone since him, he said that he hadn't either. He told me as well that he really liked me. One of the reasons why I was reluctant to make the first move was that for me what we had when we met was a big deal since he was my first kiss and the first person with whom I had something romantic, but he had already some experience from before. However, he says that he doesn't have much experience, and I think that he has never been in a relationship. 

 

During the weekend, we were almost all the time together and I know that some of the people I met there thought that we were a couple. After this event, I know that we really get along and that it wasn't just a one time thing (btw, we haven't had sex yet) . If we lived near each other we would already be dating, but the problem is the distance. Now that we know each other better I feel like visiting him or asking him to come, but I will be extremely busy until the end of January since I have exams, so I can't make plans. So I thought that since I can't go out somewhere else on Christmas, I could ask him to meet one of these days in a city which is at a middle point between mine and his. It would be a three hour drive/three hours and a half bus ride for both of us. The thing is that I really can't stay more than one day out because I have to study a lot, so we would go and return the same day. I'm unsure about suggesting him this plan since maybe he thinks that it's not worth to drive three hours to return the same day. Besides, I don't know if he's willing to try to have a relationship with me. He insisted about keeping in contact and meeting again when we said goodbye last week, but we haven't talked about what kind of relationship we have. When we talked about meeting again, I told him about my exams, but we haven't talked about a particular date or place. This week we have texted, but not very much, and I don't want to be too annoying and demanding since we have only spent two weekends together after all. I told my friends about what happened and they say that he seems very sweet and that I should try something with him. What do you think I should do? Is it a good idea to suggest him to meet in this middle point before the year ends? 

 

Thanks for reading!

[Foxhall]

I dont think the day trip option is feasible and I doubt he will go for that

 

you need to be prepared to stay over, spend at least the best part of two days together,

 

not implying solely from a sexual point of view- but in terms of bring the relationship forward, need to spend a bit of solid time together.