Shauna26 Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 (edited) Okay about 3 weeks ago me and my boyfriend had to come stay with his cousin for a few weeks tell we find a house so one day i am sitting in the front from and i could just feel somebody looking at me so i look my boyfriend cousin husband looking at me like i was a box of chocolate i am like why is he looking at me so one day we start having a conversation and i ask him why he keep looking at me he told me he looking at me because he like what he see so i gave him my number he started texting me and stuff and then we started kiss and hugging okay he told me that his wife my boyfriend cousin don't love him no more and don't want him no more and she don't cause she told me she don't love him no more dis man do everything to make her happy and she unappreciative of the things he do for her i would be happy to be with a man that do everything in his power and go out his way for me my boyfriend is married to but he don't have the money for the divorce they been separated for 4 years but in 2020 he get his divorce for taxes but his cousin and her husband still live together but after Christmas she living him and he said he fall for divorce cause she don't want him no more i heard her she said it in front of my boyfriend and me okay but i feel like my boyfriend cousin husband only want sex from me because she not giving it to him he barley text me he only text me when he want something from me like sex are a kiss are hug he talking about she keep looking at him to see who he texting him and that she be looking through his phone i feel like he using me and i feel so stupid he told to wait tell she move out to tell my boyfriend that i cheated on him with Nathan thats my boyfriend cousin husband name i really like him but i feel like he don't feel the same way he want me to move with him when she move out at first i was cool about it cause my boyfriend was going to leave me when he finds out about us so i was like cool now i am starting to rethink things like for really i am starting to get jealous because he don't show me no attention only when he want something please tell me what to do my anexity and depression and emotions getting involve please tell me what to do i am so confused at dis point Edited December 23, 2019 by Shauna26 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 All cheating married men tell you their wife is crap or their marriage is crap . They never tell you THEY are crap, though, and anyone cheating like that is crap. You need to wait and see if a man is going to get out of his present relationship before you date him. These men are just looking for variety sex. Most married cheating men never divorce their wives because their goal isn't to find one woman but to have variety sex and keep as many women as possible. Don't fall for this crap. Find yourself an unattached man and THEN be a good woman to him. But no better than he's being to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 23, 2019 Author Share Posted December 23, 2019 She told him that she leaving him because she don't want him no more so she moving out and she do trust him bad i see it for myself he don't be doing nothing and she just start fussying with him trust me i am not falling for his crap i am really starting to see he only want me for sex Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted December 23, 2019 Share Posted December 23, 2019 So what's wrong with your current boyfriend that makes you take up with his cousin's husband? Convenience? Boredom? Better in bed? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 23, 2019 Author Share Posted December 23, 2019 (edited) Convenience Edited December 23, 2019 by Shauna26 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 29, 2019 Author Share Posted December 29, 2019 I came here for advice not to get judge you not god to judge me y'all act like yall never been messying with a married man before and i never once cheat on my boyfriend tell now i don't what i was think cause now i am looking stupid i got used and got stable in the back he was telling me dis and that just to get what he want i end it so what else y'all want from me y'all act like i don't care about my boyfriend when i f***ing do care about him i should've never came here for advice i am never emotional dis the month my father was in the icu and next week will make a year he been gone from us and at the time i need my boyfriend he was not there for me he just wanted hug out with his friends and get high off weed i love my boyfriend don't get me wrong but something he do really have me think do he care about me do he love me i am depress and sad already about what i have done to him that was stupid for me to do just like y'all the other guy will try to come back a he tried he was telling me all kind of stuff to make me keep talking to him but i am not f*** him i hate him to my gut i want to do crazy s*** right now. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 I'm truly sorry about your father's death, I know first hand how hard that can hit you. I do have to point out though that in a previous thread when asked why you're with your BF you said "convenience". That was all, not one word about love or even like! That only appears when you feel criticized by posters here. I know which one I feel is more likely and it's your first answer. Link to post Share on other sites
K.K. Posted December 29, 2019 Share Posted December 29, 2019 Dis is sad. 😥 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 29, 2019 Author Share Posted December 29, 2019 And i write in my post i love my boyfriend thanks you very much Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 He tried to talk to me today when i went fix me some food he was on lunch break but i did not say nothing to him but keep fixing my food i am like why you talking to me he going to tell me that his phone want charger i am like why you telling me that i don't give a f*** Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 if you don't want a future, cut him off. not sure what the scenario here is... is this a work place or he came to your work place or you two work together... either way, some guys don't take a soft "no"; sometimes you have to get serious. you know him better than I, so you decide what you think is best. escalate if you have to. do what is best for YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 No i rent apartment from him and i babysit for him and his wife why they at work and i told him it was over last week and now he still trying to talk to me its hard for me because i see him everyday Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 So you are their babysitter and you are having an affair with the husband? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 First of i am not even messying with him i called it off he was messying around on her with him i did not put a gun to his had and say f*** me are talk to me he made that choice to step out on his wife and me and my boyfriend in a open relastionship anyways we agreed on it before me and the other guy started messying around Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 31, 2019 Author Share Posted December 31, 2019 Dis so hard just sitting in the same house with him i miss him but i can't go back to him i am not about to get used again he keep throw slings saying she moving out to get me where he want me and i am not about to fall for it he i feel gulity about what happen between us but every time i see him i just want to cry every time i look up he looking at me weaking his eyes at me like did i just not called it off with you and he sit across the room from me and its so hard my heart beating so fast i just want to cry i can't do dis like really i still have deep feeling for him and i also love my boyfriend at the same time i just want to jump off a bridge Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 This will take some adjustment but, given that your thing with him was short-lived you'll probably/hopefully get used to it fairly soon. In the meantime, suggest you avoid him as much as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted December 31, 2019 Author Share Posted December 31, 2019 I try but he right there in front of my face y'all the time Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 On 12/28/2019 at 9:10 PM, Shauna26 said: I came here for advice not to get judge you not god to judge me y'all act like yall never been messying with a married man before and i never once cheat on my boyfriend tell now i don't what i was think cause now i am looking stupid i got used and got stable in the back he was telling me dis and that just to get what he want i end it so what else y'all want from me y'all act like i don't care about my boyfriend when i f***ing do care about him i should've never came here for advice i am never emotional dis the month my father was in the icu and next week will make a year he been gone from us and at the time i need my boyfriend he was not there for me he just wanted hug out with his friends and get high off weed i love my boyfriend don't get me wrong but something he do really have me think do he care about me do he love me i am depress and sad already about what i have done to him that was stupid for me to do just like y'all the other guy will try to come back a he tried he was telling me all kind of stuff to make me keep talking to him but i am not f*** him i hate him to my gut i want to do crazy s*** right now. I have never messed around with a married man. So no, not all women here or men here are or have been in your shoes. I have been seriously hurt and damaged by someone who cheated on me, but I have not cheated myself. It's disgusting behaviour and never ok. I dont care what behaviour you feel is ok. In my world, you dont sleep with peoples husbands. You dont ruin peoples lives. You dont turn children's lives upside and rip families apart because you want an unavailable boyfriend to sleep with. I am not judging you. I do want you to get out of the situation. You asked for advice on what to do, said you're confused and people are attempting to help you see where you have gone wrong so you can fix it and get out of this mess you've created and played along in. You need to see where you have made mistakes so you can change it. That isnt judgement. That is hopefully what you need to read to stop messing around within other women's marriages. If you dont see your mistakes for what they are, you will continue to make poor choices and make even worse choices in men. I am not judging, but perhaps bringing to light the things you arent willing to see and to you that feels like you're being judged when you arent. Not only is your boyfriend married. You have now added another married man to the mix. I'm curious what good you thought would come of any of this when you screw around with not 1, but 2 married men with wives at home. Serious question. You dont even have to answer it here but ask yourself what you genuinely thought could come out of involving yourself with 2 married men? Nothing good, sweetheart. Both of them are dogs and playing you like an idiot. Stop playing the game. Stop being the play toy they are treating like a damn fool. You do not need to put up with lies and bs like their wives do. You can and should leave them both and block the s*** out of both of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 A real quick way to end your affairs is to tell the wives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted January 2, 2020 Author Share Posted January 2, 2020 (edited) First of all my boyfriend and his wife been separated for 4 years and they don't want each other the reason he did not get a divorce yet is because he can afford one but he is getting one dis year and my boyfriend is not playing me like a dog he is a good man his soon to be ex wife cheated on him and when they was together but now they are not together she is pregnant for another man she don't even want him to see his kids she got them taken away she had weed in they youngest daughter system and when they was calling my boyfriend he was at work she put him through hell his own family don't like her his sister don't like her my boyfriend is not playing me he just never go his divorce yet and second of all the husband played apart to i know i miss up by sleeping with my cousin in law husband i made a mistake i miss up really bad i felt gulity plus i end it last week i feel like y'all just blame me when he was the one came at me he would stare at me biting his lips and every where i would go he was there every since i ended it he been trying to talk to me and he been stare at me again like the first time i seen him like i said i feel bad about what happen but i don't need nobody sitting here just pointing fingers at me when he played apart in it to thats was wrong with woman now yall always blame the woman but bot y'all husband and like i said i am not messing with to married men thats my boyfriend we been together for a year him and his soon to be ex wife been separated for 4 years just couldn't afford a divorce like some other married people but like i said he going fail dis year around income taxes Edited January 2, 2020 by Shauna26 Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 Unfortunately you were right about him using you for sex and whatever else he isn't getting from his wife. I can guarantee that he told allot of lies to keep you interested. How long do you and your boyfriend have to live with them? Are you saving for your own apartment together? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted January 2, 2020 Author Share Posted January 2, 2020 We don't live with them no more we move in to they apartment next to them Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shauna26 Posted January 2, 2020 Author Share Posted January 2, 2020 We don't live with them no more we move in to they apartment next to them and you right he is using me because i bit if his wife have sex with him he want even talk to me are trying to have sex Link to post Share on other sites
Daisydooks Posted January 2, 2020 Share Posted January 2, 2020 6 hours ago, Shauna26 said: i feel like y'all just blame me when he was the one came at me he would stare at me biting his lips and every where i would go he was there. ever since i ended it hes been trying to talk to me and he has been staring at me again like the first time i seen him. like i said i feel bad about what happen but i don't need nobody sitting here just pointing fingers at me when he played apart in it to thats was wrong with woman now yall always blame the woman but bot y'all husband Why did you come here? What made you post this? What did you expect to get out of posting this on the internet? I'm confused as you seem not to want to take ownership and dont want help. If you want us all to tell you this man is a dog, well, he is. He is a cheating a**h***. Not sure why youd cheat on your faithful boyfriend if he is separated and working on getting a divorce soon though. That was really silly of you if he is a good man you say he is. I am glad your boyfriend is allocating his taxes to get a divorce finally. Why would you cheat on him though, just like his ex wife did? I'm so confused by your behaviour. You literally just did the came thing his ex did then? Why? Because some man looked at you sideways, spoke to you and bit his lip at you? It makes no sense whatsoever. He will probably leave you too when he finds out considering you just did the same thing his ex did. Ouch. If the other husband were the one on this forum, we would be blaming him for being a cheater and we would tell him he is being a dog. Since you're here and asking for advice, you're the one getting advice. He is nothing but a dog, if that makes you feel better. He is the one cheating on his wife, yes, but you're doing no better by participating. Did you come here to hear about how amazing you are and how crappy he is or did you want help and advice? You need to own your behaviour if you want to change your future. Right now, you want to point fingers only at the man cheating on his wife even though you cheated on your soon to be divorced boyfriend... all while you participated knowing he was and is still married. You're probably not the first or the last he has cheated with and I would get tested for STDs if he is so sexy women cant resist him when he bites his lip. 😐 You are an adult who can say no to lip biting. Come on now, girl. Some man bites his lip and gives you googly eyes and you cant say no? Good grief! You are a grown ass woman apparently living with a man you love. Say no. What you should have done was say "f*** off, you have a wife, I have a boyfriend and if you dont stop immediately, I'm telling your wife what you're doing to me." You weren't supposed to give him sex. Lord If the boyfriend finds out, you have 0 men now and maybe nowhere to live. I'd come clean before someone else tells him first. It will be better coming from you than from some stranger or his wife or someone else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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