vice88 Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 Experienced all of his wild sexual stuff at an early age and is now not interested in exploring it in his marriage. I understand that you learn what you do and don’t want but isn’t the person your marry suppose to be the person you try all the wild stuff with? Or at least try? It really bothers me that I get boring husband sex while his last females got the adventurous side of him. It makes me feel like I’m not as important and way less desirable. I feel like he settled with me and that I’m not worth putting in the effort for. What do I do? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 There are guys and I have no idea if yours is one of them who can't both respect and defile, so they have the wild sex with people they're not going to marry and then they want to think that the one they married is above all that and seriously might lose respect and the be judgy about it if you told him different. So tread carefully think about that before you decide what to do. it might help if you gave it a little time and then more or less manipulated him into it by presenting it as now you're comfortable enough with him and trust him so much that you want to try things. if he is the type that should be about women who are wild then you would have to convince him you were never wild before you met him which is probably a load of bull, and that's why I'm saying think it all through before you decide. Maybe do a little probing and find out what his angle is before you decide what to do, like what his attitude is towards past sex partners. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 If sex with him is that boring, why did you agree to marry him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author vice88 Posted December 25, 2019 Author Share Posted December 25, 2019 Because we went a very unconventional route for today’s society, we didn’t sleep together until our wedding night and no, not because of religious purposes. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 What is keeping you from initiating some unique or even "freaky" actions in the bedroom (or outside of the bedroom)?? Go to an adult bookstore and pick something that you think you might enjoy and something he might enjoy and surprise him. Make your next sexual encounter NOT "Boring Husband Sex"... Let your freak flag fly!! Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 This is the seldom seen flip side of "she did it with past partners, but won't with me" issue. Other than suggestions to initiate, reassure such partners that you won't think less of them, counselling, etc., it seems to always come down to accepting them as they are NOW, and not to pressure women (and here, men) to do things they don't want to do. The same applies for the reverse scenario. If you can't persuade him to make the changes you need, all you can do is resign yourself to poor sex, or leave. From what I've seen and read, it is very unlikely that he will ever change. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 25, 2019 Share Posted December 25, 2019 2 hours ago, vice88 said: Because we went a very unconventional route for today’s society, we didn’t sleep together until our wedding night and no, not because of religious purposes. Whose idea was that? Link to post Share on other sites
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