I should have left him blocked

[stillafool]

13 minutes ago, lftbehind said:

You don't know what my husband might do. It's over with the xMM. I'm not going to tell his wife. He told me he was separated or I never would have gotten involved with him. If my H wasn't so mean to me, I wouldn't have been open to an affair. 

Now you're blaming your husband for the affair.  There are other options besides cheating.  There's this thing called divorce.

[stillafool]

3 minutes ago, JTSW said:

All my comments have been removed. 

Why?

[JTSW]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

Why?

No idea. 

[stillafool]

It looks like this thread belongs to Ariesman83 and OP.  Bye!

[lftbehind]

Sorry, you had some good points. 

[lftbehind]

22 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Now you're blaming your husband for the affair.  There are other options besides cheating.  There's this thing called divorce.

I made the decision to have the affair and I'm taking responsibility. I was vulnerable, because H treats me like c**p sometimes. 

17 minutes ago, stillafool said:

It looks like this thread belongs to Ariesman83 and OP.  Bye!

Bye

[Dimjo9]

1 hour ago, lftbehind said:

You don't know what my husband might do. It's over with the xMM. I'm not going to tell his wife. He told me he was separated or I never would have gotten involved with him. If my H wasn't so mean to me, I wouldn't have been open to an affair. 

Hi.. You should have filed for divorce from your Husband for his attitude towards you.. This way you will be free & can seek relationship with a new guy..

” The end does not justify the means” Have you ever thought that fate will let your husband discover your affair ? If he indeed has anger management what will happen to you if he finds out in your presence?

Your situation is risky can you temporarily move  to your Mom’s place ? Also u have to resign & find another job.. the NC with MM must be for life..

Not even Hi or Hello.. Your  Husband’s attitude towards u aggravated only recently ? How sure are you he doesn’t know or suspect ?

 

 

[AriesMan83]

10 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

The times that the movie was showing didn't work with our schedule. I don't know when we will see it. 

Those are good actors that your like. It's hard to name just a few movies I like. How about you?

I haven't watched a whole soccer game. I don't watch sports and don't have a favorite sportsperson. Who do you like?

I've never really had European cuisine. 

I haven't stopped by the store to get salad before work. When I work until 1 a.m. it's hard to get motivated to do things before work, because I'm more tired. I haven't been binging on sweets. 

The other work plant is farther away from me, so I wouldn't switch. My first job was at a fast food restaurant. What was your first job?

I haven't talked to my mom today. 

I won't be going to any other countries on vacation, it's too expensive. 

I only saw xMM from a distance today. It is really over with him in my mind and I'm glad he's not trying to talk to me at work. 

 

Iftbehind,

I am okay..How are you??

How is your health now??How is your headache now??Is your sleep better now??Did you find out a doctor??Pls visit a doctor..Pls dont neglect your health..Pls take care of your health..

2 of my all time favourite movies are Gangs of New York,The Dark Knight etc..Have you seen these movies??

Football (soccer) is an important part of my life..My favourite sportsperson is Brazilian footballer (soccer player) Roberto Firmino..

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started adding vegetables to your meals??

For how many more days will you have to do overtime??

My first job was as a Procurement Engineer in a manufacturing company..How many years in total have you worked till date??

How is your mother now??Continue supporting her..

Any country/countries that you would like to visit for a vacation??

It's good to know that you are not talking to xMM at work..Pls dont talk or reply to xMM even if xMM tries to talk to you or asks you something at work..Pls continue NC..

Pls dont unblock xMM on phone..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you become indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Edited February 25, 2020 by AriesMan83

[Dimjo9]

10 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Sorry, you had some good points. 

In life we all make mistakes. We realized it & we want to change for the better.. An affair when u are married is a major one; there is still a good side of you i can sense it..

For you to reform & change u need to do the following:

1. Acknowledging your major mistake & taking full responsibility; along the way u have hurt 2 people ( H & MM WIFE )

2. When you take full responsibility your feelings doesn’t matter anymore.. You have to ask forgiveness to the people that u have hurt 

3. When u ask forgiveness u have to do it in the most sincere & honest way by telling them everything

4. They will be angry & mad most natural feeling because of the pain. Your H can either work the marriage or let u go.. This is his call & beyond your control. However if u are really remorseful he will see that side.

5. He’s not perfect H & has been hard on u - heavy drinking & smoke pot to follow your post.. But He never cheated on u ?? He has a place for u to call home.. between Him & MM no comparison.. 
 

6. If he’s really that mean why did u not file for dissolution of marriage ? So u can be free from his cruel ways.. 
 

7. Resigning from your job is the best for NC for life.. u will not see him anymore aside from blocking him on your phone & social media  u can also change numbet.

8. But if u feel that your in love with MM & want to stay with him why not ask him straight forward about his divorce.. tell him you are filing too for your own marriage dissolution..

9. I can guarantee u 101% MM will not leave his W for they are very much Married.. u can wait a lifetime this will never happen.

10. Your H don’t you want him to move on & find his happiness ? After your timeline he might send u out; but he can change for the better & improve on himself.. or He can forgive & start the R process..

11. You have the advantage of Leverage by coming clean & inform your family too.. 

12. You are having difficulty sleeping & too much stress on your life.. Your burden is so heavy.. This is your good side prevailing telling u now is the time to come clean.. if u have the luck the forgiveness of your H & MM wife will set you “free”.. u will have a new life ahead with peace & happiness.. like you are re-born

 

[JTSW]

6 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

In life we all make mistakes. We realized it & we want to change for the better.. An affair when u are married is a major one; there is still a good side of you i can sense it..

For you to reform & change u need to do the following:

1. Acknowledging your major mistake & taking full responsibility; along the way u have hurt 2 people ( H & MM WIFE )

2. When you take full responsibility your feelings doesn’t matter anymore.. You have to ask forgiveness to the people that u have hurt 

3. When u ask forgiveness u have to do it in the most sincere & honest way by telling them everything

4. They will be angry & mad most natural feeling because of the pain. Your H can either work the marriage or let u go.. This is his call & beyond your control. However if u are really remorseful he will see that side.

5. He’s not perfect H & has been hard on u - heavy drinking & smoke pot to follow your post.. But He never cheated on u ?? He has a place for u to call home.. between Him & MM no comparison.. 
 

6. If he’s really that mean why did u not file for dissolution of marriage ? So u can be free from his cruel ways.. 
 

7. Resigning from your job is the best for NC for life.. u will not see him anymore aside from blocking him on your phone & social media  u can also change numbet.

8. But if u feel that your in love with MM & want to stay with him why not ask him straight forward about his divorce.. tell him you are filing too for your own marriage dissolution..

9. I can guarantee u 101% MM will not leave his W for they are very much Married.. u can wait a lifetime this will never happen.

10. Your H don’t you want him to move on & find his happiness ? After your timeline he might send u out; but he can change for the better & improve on himself.. or He can forgive & start the R process..

11. You have the advantage of Leverage by coming clean & inform your family too.. 

12. You are having difficulty sleeping & too much stress on your life.. Your burden is so heavy.. This is your good side prevailing telling u now is the time to come clean.. if u have the luck the forgiveness of your H & MM wife will set you “free”.. u will have a new life ahead with peace & happiness.. like you are re-born

 

1. She has acknowledged the mistake she made trusting either of these men.

2. The responsibility doesn't fall solely on her.

3. She doesn't owe her husband anything after the way he has been treating her for years.

4. It's not solely her husbands call about the marriage. OP has choices too.

5. Yes, in earlier comments the OP has stated that her husband has been seeing his ex regularly behind her back. He is no exception here. The comparison between H and MM was       that MM treated her better but only for a time.

6. Because she has nowhere else to go (i suggest to read the whole thread to see that she has answered these questions already).

7. She shouldn't have to be the one to resign from her job. This will leave her in a major struggle. MM can resign from his job seeing as HE was the one that pursued HER.

8. MM has no intention of leaving his family. He used OP. She has accepted this.

9. She's not waiting for him. 

10. Her husband has had many opportunities to change but doesn't care to. He is a bully and treats OP like crap. He deserves nothing.

11. Why would she want to involve her whole family? It's not their business. 

12. As OP has already told you, she is not going to tell the MM wife due to the fact that she already has enough to deal with taking care of her handicapped son.

 

Dimj9, your views here are completely biased. You paint the OP as the villain in all this and place her at full blame.

This is not the case at all and you appear to have an intense hatred for women.

She has already pointed out that she will NOT be taking any of your life-destroying advice that would place her in serious danger.

You shine a light on her husband but he is worse. 

You need to stop your attack on OP because you are not seeing things from her prospective.

[lftbehind]

5 hours ago, JTSW said:

1. She has acknowledged the mistake she made trusting either of these men.

2. The responsibility doesn't fall solely on her.

3. She doesn't owe her husband anything after the way he has been treating her for years.

4. It's not solely her husbands call about the marriage. OP has choices too.

5. Yes, in earlier comments the OP has stated that her husband has been seeing his ex regularly behind her back. He is no exception here. The comparison between H and MM was       that MM treated her better but only for a time.

6. Because she has nowhere else to go (i suggest to read the whole thread to see that she has answered these questions already).

7. She shouldn't have to be the one to resign from her job. This will leave her in a major struggle. MM can resign from his job seeing as HE was the one that pursued HER.

8. MM has no intention of leaving his family. He used OP. She has accepted this.

9. She's not waiting for him. 

10. Her husband has had many opportunities to change but doesn't care to. He is a bully and treats OP like crap. He deserves nothing.

11. Why would she want to involve her whole family? It's not their business. 

12. As OP has already told you, she is not going to tell the MM wife due to the fact that she already has enough to deal with taking care of her handicapped son.

 

Dimj9, your views here are completely biased. You paint the OP as the villain in all this and place her at full blame.

This is not the case at all and you appear to have an intense hatred for women.

She has already pointed out that she will NOT be taking any of your life-destroying advice that would place her in serious danger.

You shine a light on her husband but he is worse. 

You need to stop your attack on OP because you are not seeing things from her prospective.

Thank you for the support, DTSW! 🙂 I would answer everything the way that you did. His posts sort of upset me and I'm going through a hard time right now. H has been more difficult the past few days. He ran out of pot and he's less mellow when he doesn't have it. I blocked xMM on my phone, but he can still leave voicemails, apparently. He's been calling the past few days, wanting for me to call him back. I will keep doing NC and I'm sure that he'll get tired of calling if I don't call him back. I haven't seen him at work much and we haven't been talking.           

[Dimjo9]

5 hours ago, JTSW said:

1. She has acknowledged the mistake she made trusting either of these men.

2. The responsibility doesn't fall solely on her.

3. She doesn't owe her husband anything after the way he has been treating her for years.

4. It's not solely her husbands call about the marriage. OP has choices too.

5. Yes, in earlier comments the OP has stated that her husband has been seeing his ex regularly behind her back. He is no exception here. The comparison between H and MM was       that MM treated her better but only for a time.

6. Because she has nowhere else to go (i suggest to read the whole thread to see that she has answered these questions already).

7. She shouldn't have to be the one to resign from her job. This will leave her in a major struggle. MM can resign from his job seeing as HE was the one that pursued HER.

8. MM has no intention of leaving his family. He used OP. She has accepted this.

9. She's not waiting for him. 

10. Her husband has had many opportunities to change but doesn't care to. He is a bully and treats OP like crap. He deserves nothing.

11. Why would she want to involve her whole family? It's not their business. 

12. As OP has already told you, she is not going to tell the MM wife due to the fact that she already has enough to deal with taking care of her handicapped son.

 

Dimj9, your views here are completely biased. You paint the OP as the villain in all this and place her at full blame.

This is not the case at all and you appear to have an intense hatred for women.

She has already pointed out that she will NOT be taking any of your life-destroying advice that would place her in serious danger.

You shine a light on her husband but he is worse. 

You need to stop your attack on OP because you are not seeing things from her prospective.

We differ in our opinions & u are entitled to yours..

1. I have no hatred for women & have the highest respect for then..

2. She has acknowledge her mistake thats true; but the process is not yet complete.. To be truly remorse we must ask forgiveness from persons we hurt.. We have to do it sincerely & must come from the heart.

3. Her H has problems (drinking & smoking pot), treating her like c**p SOMETIMES.. But provided her a home & a place to stay.. ( this is the reason she remained). We should treat all women with respect as our Mother, daughter is one.. She should have filed for Divorce on “irreconcilable differences & domestic violence” which are solid grounds.. (before starting an affair)

4. Have u read all the threads on infidelity? All of them have a common denominator “no matter how they keep it in the end it got discovered” (if her H finds out & she’s at home what will happen to her)

5. MM will not resign from his work; he controlled the situation (he has a W at home taking care of his son & an AP at work he can call anytime)

6. The affair is solely her own choosing. This is her path for now.. She’s not maintaining NC at all.. what they have is LQ or misunderstanding.. which can be ignited anytime.

7. She likes her cake & eat it too.. She’s waiting for MM to terminate his marriage & take her in.. MM will not leave his wife they are very much a couple & share in taking care of the son..

8. The truth hurts but to reform we must face our greatest fear & overcome it.. by coming clean her H will decide the outcome which she should respect.. She has already exact revenge on him that will hurt for life.. The H needs to move on & be free from her cheating..

In the end she will decide whats right or wrong..

[lftbehind]

20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am okay..How are you??

How is your health now??How is your headache now??Is your sleep better now??Did you find out a doctor??Pls visit a doctor..Pls dont neglect your health..Pls take care of your health..

2 of my all time favourite movies are Gangs of New York,The Dark Knight etc..Have you seen these movies??

Football (soccer) is an important part of my life..My favourite sportsperson is Brazilian footballer (soccer player) Roberto Firmino..

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started adding vegetables to your meals??

For how many more days will you have to do overtime??

My first job was as a Procurement Engineer in a manufacturing company..How many years in total have you worked till date??

How is your mother now??Continue supporting her..

Any country/countries that you would like to visit for a vacation??

It's good to know that you are not talking to xMM at work..Pls dont talk or reply to xMM even if xMM tries to talk to you or asks you something at work..Pls continue NC..

Pls dont unblock xMM on phone..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you become indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay, but tired from the long hours at work. How are you?

My health has been better and my headaches are better. I'm trying to get more sleep. 

I saw The Dark Knight. It was pretty good. 

Soccer is good. Have you played it?

My diet is okay. I've been eating more vegetables. 

They said that we're doing overtime until further notice. 

Are you still involved in working for manufacturing?

My mother is still going through a hard time. 

I'd like to go to Scotland, Switzerland, Germany and other countries. I have ancestry in these countries. Where would you like to go?

I haven't been talking to xMM and I haven't seen him at work much. He's blocked on the phone, but I found out that he can leave messages on my voicemail. The past few days he has been calling me and leaving messages for me to call him back. I'm sure that he'll get tired of calling, if I don't call him back. 

 

 

 

[JTSW]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Thank you for the support, DTSW! 🙂 I would answer everything the way that you did. His posts sort of upset me

I think you should have a talk to the moderators if this member is upsetting you.

He is relentless.

He is very desperate for you to come clean but he doesnt understand anything x

Edited February 26, 2020 by JTSW

[AriesMan83]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay, but tired from the long hours at work. How are you?

My health has been better and my headaches are better. I'm trying to get more sleep. 

I saw The Dark Knight. It was pretty good. 

Soccer is good. Have you played it?

My diet is okay. I've been eating more vegetables. 

They said that we're doing overtime until further notice. 

Are you still involved in working for manufacturing?

My mother is still going through a hard time. 

I'd like to go to Scotland, Switzerland, Germany and other countries. I have ancestry in these countries. Where would you like to go?

I haven't been talking to xMM and I haven't seen him at work much. He's blocked on the phone, but I found out that he can leave messages on my voicemail. The past few days he has been calling me and leaving messages for me to call him back. I'm sure that he'll get tired of calling, if I don't call him back. 

 

 

 

Iftbehind, 

I am OK...How are you??

Are you working overtime everyday or is it on specific days in a week??Have new employees joined the workforce or is the company still hiring??

It's good to know that your headaches are better now..Are you getting enough sleep now??Have you found a doctor??Pls take care of your health..Pls don't neglect your health..

Have you seen any other Heath Ledger movie??I think Matt Damon is also an amazing actor..Have you seen The Martian,Green Zone,The Bourne series??

I have been playing football (soccer) since I was a kid..It is one of the most important things of my life...Do you like any particular sport??

How is your diet plan going on??

I am in Sales & Marketing now..Although I would like to go back to Supply Chain Management in a manufacturing unit...What is your dream job??

How is your mother now??Has your step dad stopped his drinking??Continue supporting her..

I would like to go to England to watch my favourite football (soccer) club play in their home stadium..I would also like to visit other football (soccer) loving nations such as Spain,Italy etc..How many countries are your ancestors from??Are you in contact with your relatives living in these countries??Scotland, Germany and Switzerland are football (soccer) loving nations..

Is it possible to block xMM from sending voicemails or messages to your number??

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM when xMM says or asks you something..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM's voicemails or messages on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..Pls continue NC..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC..

Pls look for IC..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

Edited February 26, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

12 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind, 

I am OK...How are you??

Are you working overtime everyday or is it on specific days in a week??Have new employees joined the workforce or is the company still hiring??

It's good to know that your headaches are better now..Are you getting enough sleep now??Have you found a doctor??Pls take care of your health..Pls don't neglect your health..

Have you seen any other Heath Ledger movie??I think Matt Damon is also an amazing actor..Have you seen The Martian,Green Zone,The Bourne series??

I have been playing football (soccer) since I was a kid..It is one of the most important things of my life...Do you like any particular sport??

How is your diet plan going on??

I am in Sales & Marketing now..Although I would like to go back to Supply Chain Management in a manufacturing unit...What is your dream job??

How is your mother now??Has your step dad stopped his drinking??Continue supporting her..

I would like to go to England to watch my favourite football (soccer) club play in their home stadium..I would also like to visit other football (soccer) loving nations such as Spain,Italy etc..How many countries are your ancestors from??Are you in contact with your relatives living in these countries??Scotland, Germany and Switzerland are football (soccer) loving nations..

Is it possible to block xMM from sending voicemails or messages to your number??

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM when xMM says or asks you something..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM's voicemails or messages on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..Pls continue NC..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC..

Pls look for IC..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

We're working overtime every night. They have hired some new people. I'm not sure if they're still hiring or not. 

I'm trying to get more sleep. I don't have a doctor yet. 

I saw Heath Ledger in Monster's Ball, Brokeback Mountain, The Four Feathers and A Knight's Tale. He was a good actor. I saw Matt Damon in The Bourne series and other movies. He's a good actor, too. 

That's good you enjoy Soccer. Do you play in your free time now?

My relatives were mostly from Scotland, Germany and Switzerland, maybe some from England and Ireland. My family has been in in America for generations, so I don't know of any family overseas. 

My diet is going okay, but I have been gaining weight more easily, it seems. I need to cut back even more than I am, I guess. It's hard. 

Do you like Sales & Marketing. Do you think that you'll go back to the type of job that you were doing before? I don't know what my dream job would be. 

My mom's having a rough time and my stepdad hasn't stopped drinking. 

I don't know how to block the voicemails. I haven't responded to them and I feel a little bad for ignoring xMM. I wish I didn't get them. I had the day off, so I didn't see him. 

 

[AriesMan83]

11 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

We're working overtime every night. They have hired some new people. I'm not sure if they're still hiring or not. 

I'm trying to get more sleep. I don't have a doctor yet. 

I saw Heath Ledger in Monster's Ball, Brokeback Mountain, The Four Feathers and A Knight's Tale. He was a good actor. I saw Matt Damon in The Bourne series and other movies. He's a good actor, too. 

That's good you enjoy Soccer. Do you play in your free time now?

My relatives were mostly from Scotland, Germany and Switzerland, maybe some from England and Ireland. My family has been in in America for generations, so I don't know of any family overseas. 

My diet is going okay, but I have been gaining weight more easily, it seems. I need to cut back even more than I am, I guess. It's hard. 

Do you like Sales & Marketing. Do you think that you'll go back to the type of job that you were doing before? I don't know what my dream job would be. 

My mom's having a rough time and my stepdad hasn't stopped drinking. 

I don't know how to block the voicemails. I haven't responded to them and I feel a little bad for ignoring xMM. I wish I didn't get them. I had the day off, so I didn't see him. 

 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

How many days more do you think you will have to do overtime??It must be very tiring..

Has your headaches stopped??Are you able to sleep better now??Pls visit a doctor..Don't ignore your health..

How was your day off??Did you go out for dinner and a movie??Do you get 1 or 2 day offs in a week??

Have you seen the new movie "Ford v Ferrari"??Christian Bale and Matt Damon have acted extremely good in the movie..Christian Bale was also good in The Dark Knight trilogy..Have you seen it??

I play football(soccer) on rare occasions..I like to watch it on TV now..Which sport would you like to play??

When do you plan on visiting Germany,Switzerland and the other countries??

How is your diet plan going on??

I like Sales & Marketing..I would like to shift to Supply Chain Management if I get a good offer..How exciting was your first job??What is your total work experience??

How is your mom??Continue supporting her..

Maybe you feel bad about avoiding xMM is because you still consider xMM a friend..Pls stop considering xMM a friend..Friends don't enable their friends to make wrong choices..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked in your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont reply to xMM's voicemails or messages on phone..Pls dont talk to xMM or reply to xMM at work..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts entee your head..Pls continue NC..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..

You know that an affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for an IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Edited February 27, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

19 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

How many days more do you think you will have to do overtime??It must be very tiring..

Has your headaches stopped??Are you able to sleep better now??Pls visit a doctor..Don't ignore your health..

How was your day off??Did you go out for dinner and a movie??Do you get 1 or 2 day offs in a week??

Have you seen the new movie "Ford v Ferrari"??Christian Bale and Matt Damon have acted extremely good in the movie..Christian Bale was also good in The Dark Knight trilogy..Have you seen it??

I play football(soccer) on rare occasions..I like to watch it on TV now..Which sport would you like to play??

When do you plan on visiting Germany,Switzerland and the other countries??

How is your diet plan going on??

I like Sales & Marketing..I would like to shift to Supply Chain Management if I get a good offer..How exciting was your first job??What is your total work experience??

How is your mom??Continue supporting her..

Maybe you feel bad about avoiding xMM is because you still consider xMM a friend..Pls stop considering xMM a friend..Friends don't enable their friends to make wrong choices..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked in your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont reply to xMM's voicemails or messages on phone..Pls dont talk to xMM or reply to xMM at work..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts entee your head..Pls continue NC..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..

You know that an affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for an IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How have you been doing?

The overtime is very tiring and it's wearing me out. I guess we'll work it until they tell us otherwise. 

The headaches are better. I'm getting less sleep with this new schedule. 

My day off was okay. I didn't go out to dinner or to a movie. I get 2 days off a week. 

I didn't see Ford vs Ferrari yet. I want to see it, but it don't think it's still in the theaters. I'll have to see it when it comes on Netflix. It looked good. I've seen the Dark Knight Trilogy. I like Christian Bale in some things. Did you see American Psycho or The Mechanic? They were dark movies. I like the Big Short movie, too. 

I used to play Tennis, swim, some basketball and run cross country. I played soccer some in gym class and it was fun. 

I don't think that I'll be traveling Internationally for a while, it's very expensive. How about you?

Maybe you'll get a good offer in Supply Chain Management again. My first job was in fast food in high school, it was okay, but not real exciting. I worked a few office jobs and a few manufacturing jobs. Some were temp jobs. 

My mom is doing about the same. 

I saw xMM at work and I couldn't avoid him, although I tried. He asked me why I didn't respond to his calls and he looked hurt. I didn't say much, because we were in the hall at work. I talked to him a little after work and explained that I didn't like the way that he acted last week, about seeing my pay stub. I also told him that we are both married and I can't be meeting him before work and I'm sure that his wife wouldn't like him talking to me. He acts like he still didn't understand why we couldn't. I don't know how I can totally avoid him, but I need to be consistent with my message to him. I liked NC better. 

[Dimjo9]

23 minutes ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How have you been doing?

The overtime is very tiring and it's wearing me out. I guess we'll work it until they tell us otherwise. 

The headaches are better. I'm getting less sleep with this new schedule. 

My day off was okay. I didn't go out to dinner or to a movie. I get 2 days off a week. 

I didn't see Ford vs Ferrari yet. I want to see it, but it don't think it's still in the theaters. I'll have to see it when it comes on Netflix. It looked good. I've seen the Dark Knight Trilogy. I like Christian Bale in some things. Did you see American Psycho or The Mechanic? They were dark movies. I like the Big Short movie, too. 

I used to play Tennis, swim, some basketball and run cross country. I played soccer some in gym class and it was fun. 

I don't think that I'll be traveling Internationally for a while, it's very expensive. How about you?

Maybe you'll get a good offer in Supply Chain Management again. My first job was in fast food in high school, it was okay, but not real exciting. I worked a few office jobs and a few manufacturing jobs. Some were temp jobs. 

My mom is doing about the same. 

I saw xMM at work and I couldn't avoid him, although I tried. He asked me why I didn't respond to his calls and he looked hurt. I didn't say much, because we were in the hall at work. I talked to him a little after work and explained that I didn't like the way that he acted last week, about seeing my pay stub. I also told him that we are both married and I can't be meeting him before work and I'm sure that his wife wouldn't like him talking to me. He acts like he still didn't understand why we couldn't. I don't know how I can totally avoid him, but I need to be consistent with my message to him. I liked NC better. 

Hi Lftbehind,

Hope you are feeling better. This few days i had a friend who’s in a similar situation like yours.. i was with the force for 21years & knows her since childhood..

Her MM won’t stop since they work in same company but different division.. The affair almost 3months started with EA & 2x PA.. She asked my help & wants to apologize to the wife.

I was able to look for a link & used it. I accompany her to a public place-mall & the Wife had a friend who’s sister of my former colleague..

She told her everything, it turns out they are very much married but no kids.. Already suspected the H is having an affair.. Naturally the W is angry but keep her composure.. Told my friend she will do what is right & left..

The next day she resign from the company & inform HR of the situation.. it turns out the firm has code of conduct for all employees Management & Ranks to follow.. The company’s product is a known brand catering to infants & families.. Any employee found to have extra marital affair is unacceptable..

Her next step is coming clean to the H, she wrote the affair timeline in details & gave it to him..The H read & ask her lots of questions.. in the end she was asked to leave their marital home. She was crying profusely & ask for another chance; like u no kids involved.

The H said he needed time & space to process everything. All her stuff was sent to her parents home..

Last nighT i saw her H & OM’s wife having dinner at a downtown restaurant in serious conversation.. I called & told her the situation.

She must have sent more than 200 text messages & phone calls which he’s not answering.. The locks to the home are all changed & she saw workers doing paint job..

I told her to respect the H decision & stop reaching out for now  She’s afraid he might start to date being an Architect, Good looking & Fit.. This is the consequence she has to accept By being responsible 100%.. 

OM’s wife is really a looker & stunning.. Your guess will be good as mine.. 

I wish you clarity of mind & pureness of heart to do what’s best.. Deep inside u are a nice & warm person..

 

[AriesMan83]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How have you been doing?

The overtime is very tiring and it's wearing me out. I guess we'll work it until they tell us otherwise. 

The headaches are better. I'm getting less sleep with this new schedule. 

My day off was okay. I didn't go out to dinner or to a movie. I get 2 days off a week. 

I didn't see Ford vs Ferrari yet. I want to see it, but it don't think it's still in the theaters. I'll have to see it when it comes on Netflix. It looked good. I've seen the Dark Knight Trilogy. I like Christian Bale in some things. Did you see American Psycho or The Mechanic? They were dark movies. I like the Big Short movie, too. 

I used to play Tennis, swim, some basketball and run cross country. I played soccer some in gym class and it was fun. 

I don't think that I'll be traveling Internationally for a while, it's very expensive. How about you?

Maybe you'll get a good offer in Supply Chain Management again. My first job was in fast food in high school, it was okay, but not real exciting. I worked a few office jobs and a few manufacturing jobs. Some were temp jobs. 

My mom is doing about the same. 

I saw xMM at work and I couldn't avoid him, although I tried. He asked me why I didn't respond to his calls and he looked hurt. I didn't say much, because we were in the hall at work. I talked to him a little after work and explained that I didn't like the way that he acted last week, about seeing my pay stub. I also told him that we are both married and I can't be meeting him before work and I'm sure that his wife wouldn't like him talking to me. He acts like he still didn't understand why we couldn't. I don't know how I can totally avoid him, but I need to be consistent with my message to him. I liked NC better. 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you doing??

How is your health now??Pls visit a doctor..Pls take care of your health..

It's good to know that your headaches are better now..

Why didnt you go out on your day off??You could have gone and seen the movie that you mentioned not being able to watch last week..

How is your diet plan going on??

I haven't seen American Psycho..I have seen Jason Statham's The Mechanic..I have seen The Big Short too...It's an awesome movie..Christian Bale,Steve Carrell,Ryan Gosling and everyone else has been amazing in the movie..Have you seen "The Prestige" starring Christian Bale and Hugh Jackman??

It seems that you have played a lot of different games..Do you play any of these sports now??

I am planning on saving money for a couple of years and then visiting England to watch my favourite football(soccer) club play at their home ground..Maybe you can plan a Euro trip to all the countries that your ancestors are from..

I hope that I can land a job in Supply Chain Management in the future..Have you worked before in Sales & Marketing??Of all the jobs that you have worked till now,which is/was the most exciting job for you??

How is your mom today??How is your step dad now??Continue supporting your mom..

Why did you try to explain xMM that you didn't like xMM's past week behaviour??Why didnt you avoid xMM after work instead of talking to xMM??

xMM being hurt and not able to understand why you won't meet or talk to xMM shows that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Continued NC will help you in reaching indifference towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice...You know that the affair causes you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in totally avoiding xMM.. It can help you in NC..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Pls take care of your health...

Always have faith in yourself...

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 28, 2020 by AriesMan83

[JTSW]

4 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

This is the consequence she has to accept By being responsible 100%.. 

She is not 100% responsible. 

It takes 2 to tango. 

She is not going to tell the wife so stop upsetting her. 

[Dimjo9]

36 minutes ago, JTSW said:

She is not 100% responsible. 

It takes 2 to tango. 

She is not going to tell the wife so stop upsetting her. 

She has accepted full responsibility.. lftbehind is already at a crossroad.. deep inside she has a good heart.. 

[lftbehind]

20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you doing??

How is your health now??Pls visit a doctor..Pls take care of your health..

It's good to know that your headaches are better now..

Why didnt you go out on your day off??You could have gone and seen the movie that you mentioned not being able to watch last week..

How is your diet plan going on??

I haven't seen American Psycho..I have seen Jason Statham's The Mechanic..I have seen The Big Short too...It's an awesome movie..Christian Bale,Steve Carrell,Ryan Gosling and everyone else has been amazing in the movie..Have you seen "The Prestige" starring Christian Bale and Hugh Jackman??

It seems that you have played a lot of different games..Do you play any of these sports now??

I am planning on saving money for a couple of years and then visiting England to watch my favourite football(soccer) club play at their home ground..Maybe you can plan a Euro trip to all the countries that your ancestors are from..

I hope that I can land a job in Supply Chain Management in the future..Have you worked before in Sales & Marketing??Of all the jobs that you have worked till now,which is/was the most exciting job for you??

How is your mom today??How is your step dad now??Continue supporting your mom..

Why did you try to explain xMM that you didn't like xMM's past week behaviour??Why didnt you avoid xMM after work instead of talking to xMM??

xMM being hurt and not able to understand why you won't meet or talk to xMM shows that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to or reply to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Continued NC will help you in reaching indifference towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice...You know that the affair causes you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in totally avoiding xMM.. It can help you in NC..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Pls take care of your health...

Always have faith in yourself...

 

 

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

My health and diet plan are going okay. 

My H and I went to look at a motorcycle on my day off. He has one, but he wanted to buy another one to have. We had to drive to another town and it took up a lot of the afternoon. Maybe we can see it on Sunday. 

I haven't played the sports that I used to play for a while. 

That would be good if you could go to England to see soccer and you favorite team. What else do you want to see while you're there? 

I haven't had any jobs that I would consider exciting. 

My mom is about the same and my stepdad is, too. 

I haven't seen The Prestige, I'll have to see it sometime. I took yesterday off from work and saw 2 movies and did some shopping. I saw The Lodge, which was a scary movie and The Photograph, which was a romantic movie. They were both good. 

I'll try to avoid xMM at work, but sometimes I can't. He is being selfish in not understanding why we shouldn't be seeing each other, it seems like he should be able to understand it. I tried to explain it, because he asked me why I didn't respond to his phone calls. 

 

 

[lftbehind]

23 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

Hi Lftbehind,

Hope you are feeling better. This few days i had a friend who’s in a similar situation like yours.. i was with the force for 21years & knows her since childhood..

Her MM won’t stop since they work in same company but different division.. The affair almost 3months started with EA & 2x PA.. She asked my help & wants to apologize to the wife.

I was able to look for a link & used it. I accompany her to a public place-mall & the Wife had a friend who’s sister of my former colleague..

She told her everything, it turns out they are very much married but no kids.. Already suspected the H is having an affair.. Naturally the W is angry but keep her composure.. Told my friend she will do what is right & left..

The next day she resign from the company & inform HR of the situation.. it turns out the firm has code of conduct for all employees Management & Ranks to follow.. The company’s product is a known brand catering to infants & families.. Any employee found to have extra marital affair is unacceptable..

Her next step is coming clean to the H, she wrote the affair timeline in details & gave it to him..The H read & ask her lots of questions.. in the end she was asked to leave their marital home. She was crying profusely & ask for another chance; like u no kids involved.

The H said he needed time & space to process everything. All her stuff was sent to her parents home..

Last nighT i saw her H & OM’s wife having dinner at a downtown restaurant in serious conversation.. I called & told her the situation.

She must have sent more than 200 text messages & phone calls which he’s not answering.. The locks to the home are all changed & she saw workers doing paint job..

I told her to respect the H decision & stop reaching out for now  She’s afraid he might start to date being an Architect, Good looking & Fit.. This is the consequence she has to accept By being responsible 100%.. 

OM’s wife is really a looker & stunning.. Your guess will be good as mine.. 

I wish you clarity of mind & pureness of heart to do what’s best.. Deep inside u are a nice & warm person..

 

Hi Dimjo9,

This isn't an inspiring story for me. I don't think confessing is for everybody and it usually leads to disaster. It would definitely lead to disaster to me and I'm too fragile to handle it. I've been through way more in life than I've talked about here, there's been some bad stuff. I try to be a good person and not hurt anyone, but it's a cold world out there. I have stopped the A and am moving on. I have learned my lesson and can do better from now on. 

[Dimjo9]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi Dimjo9,

This isn't an inspiring story for me. I don't think confessing is for everybody and it usually leads to disaster. It would definitely lead to disaster to me and I'm too fragile to handle it. I've been through way more in life than I've talked about here, there's been some bad stuff. I try to be a good person and not hurt anyone, but it's a cold world out there. I have stopped the A and am moving on. I have learned my lesson and can do better from now on. 

You are a warm hearted person deep inside the goodness still prevails.. What is your plan if your H will find out ? U should have a contingency for your safety if he indeed has a violent nature..