ashley29 Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 my fiance and i have been together for a little over 2 years, and he was the first man i ever had sexual relations with. we were having some hard times a few months ago, and he did in fact sleep with two other women. because i love him i decided to stay with him and work through the problems. About 1 month ago he decided he no longer wanted to be with me, and while we were seperated i was desperate to feel wanted, so i slept with two other men. a week later he decided he made a mistake and wanted to be with me, and i had to tell him what i had done. he was devastated and now says he cannot be with me because he cannot trust me. I know what i did was wrong because i should never have slept with someone other than the man that i love, but i dont know how to convince him that i would never do anything like that. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 You weren't with him at the time you slept with the other guys, so no need to feel guilty. He's overreacting. Why, pray tell, did he cheat on you the first time around? You may have had problems, but that's no excuse to cheat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ashley29 Posted October 3, 2005 Author Share Posted October 3, 2005 so your saying that he doesnt have a right to question my commitment to him or to say he doesnt trust me in the future. so in your opinion is this a losing battle for me seeing as how you believe he is overreacting to the situation? and to answer your question... he cheated on me because we were arguing alot and to be honest i dont think his actions are justified by any means but i do love him and someone once said.."if you could erase that moment, is he still the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?" and my answer was yes,. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted October 3, 2005 Share Posted October 3, 2005 so your saying that he doesnt have a right to question my commitment to him or to say he doesnt trust me in the future. so in your opinion is this a losing battle for me seeing as how you believe he is overreacting to the situation? If you weren't together at the time, then you can sleep with whomever you like. Did he forget that he's the one who called it off in the first place? He's got you right where he wants you, and it's time you took a stand. There are other guys out there, you know. Deflowering you doesn't entitle him to ownership. Stand up for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
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