helena abadi Posted November 11, 2005 Share Posted November 11, 2005 Ah yes, wasting a year is a piss off. Don't waste one minute more!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 12, 2005 Author Share Posted November 12, 2005 You're right. It does piss me off, especially how I was betrayed while I was trusting her so much. I didn't question her when she told me something. I just took it for what it was. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 14, 2005 Author Share Posted November 14, 2005 I'm starting to feel much better. I was real busy today. Picking up a new hobby, playing guitar. Hanging out with friends and recognizing what my ex really is and that she isn't going to change even for her new sucker. She's just going to drain his bank account while she puts his nuts in a jar on the mantle. That is her game, to be a con-artist and use men for all she can. Glad I stuck to my guns and didn't give in to all her advances for me to open up my checkbook or get her pregnant,..because "we're getting married anyway so lets work on making a baby",...unreal, huh. She want's to trap someone. Thanks for your responses everybody! I think I am on the other side now. I just need to be prepared when she tries to see if she's still "got it" so she can boost her own ego. That day will come and I'll be ready. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 14, 2005 Share Posted November 14, 2005 Glad to hear you're improving. Keep it up. She'll test the waters when she sees you're doing great without her... just let us know when you sink her ship. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 14, 2005 Author Share Posted November 14, 2005 Not sure, if or when that will happen, but I will let you know what happens. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 19, 2005 Author Share Posted November 19, 2005 Nothing happening. Keeping NC and realizing that I am better off without her. The betrayl (lying and cheating) still stings a bit. Hard to believe she is that vile but the proof is in the pudding. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 19, 2005 Share Posted November 19, 2005 Sounds like you're making great progress. Keep it up. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 21, 2005 Author Share Posted November 21, 2005 Thanks Westernxer, It's funny how when my ex has no use for me,..that is, couldn't steal my money and now has a sucker to steal from,..she doesn't even think twice about me. What happened to all those "I love you's". Amazing,..isn't it. What a golddigging, lying, cheater. I guess when I finally stop being pissed off about everything, I'll be over her completely. I think this type of betrayal stings a little longer though. I feel some solace in knowing that it won't be paradise for her and her new live-in fiance for long. She's not going to change and as soon as he wakes up and realizes she is just using him,..all hell's gonna break loose and she'll start lying and cheating on him. Won't be long. Trouble in paradise is a coming! That's for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 Geeze,..coworkers keep stopping me and asking if my ex and I got engaged. I hate it. I have to explain that she got engaged 3 weeks after we broke up and it is obvious she was a liar and a cheater. They always say "your better off then". I just hate going through the whole explanation over and over. Isn't she embarrasing herself? Everyone knows she must've been cheating since we were together for almost a year. Anyway,...she's brutal, I hope she gets what she deserves someday. I called her best friend after work to tell her to throw away some items she had been given for me from my ex. I was very friendly with her and stayed on topic. She asked how I was doing,..I quickly replied,."Great",..and we engaged in some small talk. Then she told me I could call her if I "needed anything",..huh??? I was confused, what could I need? I think she was trying to break the ice to talk about my relationship with my ex and what went wrong,..I avoided it. Not gonna open up that door. I stated some more pleasantries, asked how her son was doing and got off the phone. I'm sure there will be an official report to the ex at some point. I'm glad I resisted the urge to discuss the breakup with her. Hopefully she will tell her how I couldn't have cared less to talk about her. I can't wait until I am finally over this woman. She has been a thorn in my mind for too long. Getting better though, I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 27, 2005 Author Share Posted November 27, 2005 I hate long weekends, it's inevitable that I think of my ex and what we used to do together. It just kinda sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted November 27, 2005 Share Posted November 27, 2005 You saying you didn't eat enough turkey to make you forget about her? Just joking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted November 27, 2005 Author Share Posted November 27, 2005 Oh no,..I ate my fair share, that's for sure. LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted December 6, 2005 Author Share Posted December 6, 2005 SO,...I passed the ex in the corridor at work today. I'm not sure if it was a coincidence or she wanted to test the water,..anyway,...she could've just looked straight ahead but she didn't, she looked at me with this eyebrow raising, welcoming me to talk to her look and so I looked at her, smiled and said "hi" and kept walking. I think I did the only thing I could and did not break NC IMO. I was in a situation that I didn't expect to be in but I think I handled it well. I think she wanted to see where I was in terms of my feelings toward her and I left it as ambiguous as possible. Had I stopped and talked to her and said nice things she would've definitely got an ego boost. Conversly, had I said something nasty to her, she would've thought,..he's not over me yet, haha. So I don't think I gave her anything to chew on so to speak. She knows my patterns at work and she certainly could've avoided me if she wanted to. I need to keep a lookout for her now since I think she may be starting to do this on purpose. Strick NC may have her appropriately thinking that I've moved on and she is bored with her backup plan already and want's a challenge with excitement and drama. Geeze. I could be wrong though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 6, 2006 Author Share Posted January 6, 2006 Then I went to hear it from the horses mouth so to speak,...she is 3-4 months pregnant. Unbelievable. I am hurt. She said she is miserable with this guy though and that she isn't going to marry him. She realizes what she has done and wishes her baby was mine. She says that they have no passion between them and she is finding out that he is kindof dopey regarding some things,..you know, not real smart. She seemed very genuine when telling me she believes thatthis has to be the dumbest thing she has ever done in her life and wishes she could change it. I'll explain more later,... How do I deal with this now???? I dodn't think she would do this so fast. What about love? Link to post Share on other sites
salmagundi Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 How do you deal with this !? How do you deal with what? So she's pregnant...that has nothing to do with you does it? So she's miserable and her new boyfriend is lame and her relationship sucks...is that your problem. You, my friend, have nothing to deal with. At best, we can say its YOUR turn to watch HER suck it up...but apart from that, f*ck her...you're moving on...right? salmagundi Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 7, 2006 Author Share Posted January 7, 2006 True,...it's just another kick in the balls. I know she is regretful, at least she has stated that repeatedly, but her actions have been distinctly different than her words in the past. I have to just accept it and understand that her miserableness is of her own doing and I can do nothing about it. I feel sorry for her in a way, cuz she is screwing up her life a bit. I suppose it will all work out in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
lauraandbrats Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 Would give up just the same as me 9 weeks im doing NC now best hard but if she wants me she can txt just told her reply may take 24 hours as busy And as for sex had it 4 time just after split cost me a fortune she wanted her money back gave it her £1200 but i wanted love funny got it then when money was on the table She just a SLUT in my eyes now still love her but hate her 2 4 doing this to me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 11, 2006 Author Share Posted January 11, 2006 I used to think like everyone else on this board when looking at this situation I am in and I used to think,..ARE YOU CRAZY,..DON'T RAISE SOMEONE ELSE'S KID!!! I couldn't understand what could possibly keep a guy interested after all that,...Now I know,..it's just not that easy,..maybe I'm just not built that way either. I care about her, but I care about myself too and don't want to end up getting screwed. The lord works in mysterious ways. Maybe there will be a sign in the future that will help me understand what path I should take. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 I used to think like everyone else on this board when looking at this situation I am in and I used to think,..ARE YOU CRAZY,..DON'T RAISE SOMEONE ELSE'S KID!!! I couldn't understand what could possibly keep a guy interested after all that,...Now I know,..it's just not that easy,..maybe I'm just not built that way either. I care about her, but I care about myself too and don't want to end up getting screwed. The lord works in mysterious ways. Maybe there will be a sign in the future that will help me understand what path I should take. That sign is: RUN AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And to quote that great philosopher Yoda: "There is no try, only do or do not." You don't "try" no contact, you just DO it. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 Thanks Westernxer, It's funny how when my ex has no use for me,..that is, couldn't steal my money and now has a sucker to steal from,..she doesn't even think twice about me. What happened to all those "I love you's". Amazing,..isn't it. What a golddigging, lying, cheater. I guess when I finally stop being pissed off about everything, I'll be over her completely. I think this type of betrayal stings a little longer though. I feel some solace in knowing that it won't be paradise for her and her new live-in fiance for long. She's not going to change and as soon as he wakes up and realizes she is just using him,..all hell's gonna break loose and she'll start lying and cheating on him. Won't be long. Trouble in paradise is a coming! That's for sure. Yet now she that she is 3-4 months pregnant with someone else's baby she 'all the sudden' wants you back, right? She wants a security blanket. She's trying to use you for one. DON'T DO IT. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 11, 2006 Author Share Posted January 11, 2006 Good point Caliguy,...you are my voice of reason. She sure didn't care about me then. Why now I wonder,..is he out of money,..or did she finally find out they are incompatable?..Either way,...he was gold then and I was coal. Now everything has reversed. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 11, 2006 Share Posted January 11, 2006 Good point Caliguy,...you are my voice of reason. She sure didn't care about me then. Why now I wonder,..is he out of money,..or did she finally find out they are incompatable?..Either way,...he was gold then and I was coal. Now everything has reversed. No, nothing has reversed. She's looking for a security blanket. She's still the same person making the same mistakes. She'll use you like she did last time and you'll end up holding the bag. Have you read my tag line my man? Does it speak to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 12, 2006 Author Share Posted January 12, 2006 Yes it does,...It'll be hard but I know what I have to do,..save MYSELF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Clevelandfan Posted January 16, 2006 Author Share Posted January 16, 2006 Nothing new except she called me in the middle of the night wanting to talk. I didn't answer. She is trying to contact me behind her fiance's back. There are no boundries for this woman, are there? Link to post Share on other sites
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