Ex is hot and cold Behavior

[Yungstagurl]

I was dating this guy a while back I had known him a few years and we were cool before we started dating. Unfortunately it didn't work out because he was ready to be serious and wanted marriage and I just wasn't ready. By the time I was  it's too late he's moved on with someone else and then he completely stopped talking and speaking to me. Once him and his new girlfriend broke up he kind of started back speaking to me but we really haven't talked since then. 

 

 

A few of months ago we were walking in the building at the same time. He stopped and looked at me so I waved and he waits for me to walk in front of it which he didn't have to.  He was ahead of me enough that he wouldn't have ran into me. He makes a quick joke and I kinda laughed but thats it. After this the next time I see him he doesn't say anything which I thought he might say Hey or what's up because I was close by and he clearly made the effort last time. I see him a few more times after this but nothing. About 2 months pass that  I don't see him but the next time I do we speak. 

 

 

I'm  talking this other guy now. I've brought him with me a few times. I've introduced him to a few people. Last time I brought him my ex was there so I didn't speak and tried to steer clear of him. Then about two weeks ago I ended up sitting behind him and he keeps looking at me but doesn't say anything. At one point I was talking to someone else and I guess he thought I was saying something to him and he turns around and looked directly at me.  I speak to him at the end and he says hey in a dry monotone voice as if he didn't want to speak or was having a bad day.

 

I still do care about him but I'm not trying to be with him.  Now I don't understand why he's hot and cold. I know we're not on the best of terms but why go out of your way to speak to me at one point and then the next time not speak to me at all when I'm close? Or why he sounded as if he didn't want to be bothered the last time I said something to him?? Thoughts? 

[schlumpy]

I'm unclear to me as to what you want. You dumped your former BF because he wanted to marry you but you weren't through exploring yourself through other people and having growth experiences. Now you are open to marriage. Why are you looking towards your old BF?  Most men are not going to wish to repeat that rejecting experience and it looks like you still doing a little exploring with your current hot guy. Did he ask you to marry him too?

 

What is it you want and why are you focused on someone you have already kicked to the curb? Is this a "the grass wasn't greener" epiphany? Is the old biological clock ticking? Be kind and let him go. Let him find someone that will be on the same page with him. That's not you. You had your chance and he wasn't good enough.

[alterest]

Well, you dumped him and he probably tried to be kind when he saw you, he maybe felt something too but, well, he avoided to get into something that could hurt him and, belive in me, when you are dumped it's pretty harsh to mantain contact cause you feel every feeling again.. It's horrible.

But, come on, you are into a new relationship and you are looking for something with your ex. Why? For your sanity and his sanity, don't do that.

Do you love him? Do you want to get back together and marry him? If you answer 'no' or 'maybe' or 'I don't know', just leave those thoughts in the past and don't try to figure out what is happening.