Shygirl290 Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Ok so I have been texting this girl for about 9 months. We’ve only met up once (we live in the same city) the one time we did meet up it was for her birthday party which resulted in us having amazing sex. She never really texted much prior to the sex. Even after sex she still is very distant. I text and she will reply but she will randomly stop replying. I ask her why she’s distant and she said she’s stressed with day to day life. Ok. Understandable. The problem is she is not interested in spending time anymore. She sent me some long paragraph about she needs to get herself together and I will have full access to her in a few more months and she likes me a lot to keep me in the loop blah blah..Am I wasting my time? Life is stressful yes but no contact at all? You have zero time to call or text someone you “like a lot” help me out Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Whatever reason she's telling you she likes you but can't get more involved right now. Respect that and fill your life with fun positive stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 You've been texting nine months and you've met up one time? When you do met it turns into a sex fest right away and then back to sporadic contact. This isn't a relationship its an ONS. You need to step back and reevaluate. This isn't what you want but you are allowing it happen. The way you are being treated is a direct connection to the other persons feelings for you. Not the words in the texts. Time to put this fantasy behind you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 I agree with Schlumpy, you're trying to turn a ONS into a relationship. Under current circumstances that definitely won't happen. IF circumstances change, it might, but really waiting around for that to happen is a fool's game. You need to move on and IF one day she contacts you indicating she has time and interest in starting anything, you could take it from there. Hopefully by that time you'll be in a great relationship with someone else and will have to send your regrets instead. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
2BGoodAgain Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 yes. you were a place holder (sex)... it isn't you she's interested in, but what you could provide. your services are no longer needed b/c she was prob thinking about someone else at the time. move on, dude. good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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