mortensorchid Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 I had dinner with a friend tonight and we were talking about how we have changed. I am now 45 and he will be 55. We were in the rock music scene for a long time and now? Well, we're old people now. At least in terms of being in the rock music scene. There was the hip and trendy neighborhood in the city where we used to go all the time, now no one goes there anymore. Either people have moved away, a few died, and most like me and him, have moved on. This happens a lot in many situations, I realize- you outgrow people and things, you leave jobs, organizations, projects, etc. Or graduate from schools and your relationships with people also end. I also think this is why it is, partially, that people have such bad OLD experiences. How many times have you gone out to meet someone in a bar, restaurant, coffee shop, etc, have a meal or a drink, then walk away and never hear a word from that person ever again? It has to do with courtesy anymore, that life is fast paced and people just move on. And I can say that at this point in life, I am happy just to be by myself and in my little world, lead a quiet life now. I don't need to be Paris Hilton in the tabloids like a lot of us are in our twenties. Plus, as many have discovered, there are not a lot of good people out there as friends, lovers, coworkers etc. Sometimes it's best to just be alone at times rather than have bad relationships. Needed to vent I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 no one cares about paris Hilton any more, she's old news Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 11 hours ago, mortensorchid said: Sometimes it's best to just be alone at times rather than have bad relationships. It's not an either/or choice. I require more time alone than most people in order to feel calm and peaceful, but I have several close and good relationships in my life. I'm older than you (almost 55) and I truly am enjoying life in the here and now, and I love the relationships I have now to share that. It is sad that some relationships fade away, and the places that we go and things that we do most definitely change over the years. But I've found that for the good things that fade away, there are plenty more new good things that come along. So we have to make sure and not spend too much time looking backward and risk missing what's right in front of us. Don't compare your life to anyone else's - certainly not Paris Hilton's We have to figure out what makes us happy as individuals and be confident and content with that. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted January 3, 2020 Share Posted January 3, 2020 On 12/29/2019 at 9:41 PM, mortensorchid said: Sometimes it's best to just be alone at times rather than have bad relationships. I've always preferred being alone over being in a bad relationship. Who needs drama and disappointment swirling around? While not easy, it's easier to make good friends than to find the right romantic partner. Over the years I've found some truly wonderful friends who have been there for me through it all. They've made all the difference. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted January 3, 2020 Share Posted January 3, 2020 (edited) I think as we get older the more nostalgic we get. We tend to forget the bad times and remember more good times. I know at my age I'm much more nostalgic and sentimental than I was when I was younger. I don't mind being alone, but have always enjoyed being in a relationship. I don't get bored easily, but I always liked having a special someone to share my life with. Edited January 3, 2020 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
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