Questionmark12 Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Hi everyone, Just a short background story about my ex, he broke up with me due to him thinking he was bisexual because he was looking at transsexual porn. He went to some prostitutes after that but no longer likes it. Long story short, he actually has a severe porn addiction but next to that, also a weed addiction. We met up yesterday to get my clothes back where he admitted he had used my clothes as an excuse to meet up somewhere in the future. He said he was struggling with meeting up as it meant we have nothing to meet up for in the future and he is forced to close this chapter of 'us'. When he gave me my stuff back I couldn't help but notice the stench of weed. When talking to him, I noticed that he is an absolute mess. He has been smoking weed twice a day at least he said. He starts with it in the morning and then in the evening does it again. He doesn't really see the issue but told me he will stop in the new year. Few sentences later though he told me he will never be able to stop as pretty much all his friends do it and it's part of his life, he will try to just cut his use short. He said he has true friendships over weed with some of his friends, because it has bonded them over it. I'm annoyed with the whole situation, he's on his way to the path of self destruction and in the long term will most likely hurt a girl again with his behaviour. I'm very close with his mother, she said she misses me and said I'm always welcome to pass by if I want to. His family thinks he is just struggling with his sexual identity, and all sympathize with him. When he actually should be having someone to force him to have a hard look in the mirror. Do I inform his parents about this in order to avoid he goes further down this path and hurts other people along the way? Thank you for any helpful suggestions! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 30, 2019 Share Posted December 30, 2019 Unless you think he's a suicide risk, don't say anything. People hurt each other all the time for all kinds of reasons and you can't stop this from happening. Nor can you make someone reflect on their behaviour until they are ready. The only thing you should do is move on and work towards leaving this in your past. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Questionmark12 Posted December 30, 2019 Author Share Posted December 30, 2019 Hard one... He did say he feels slightly depressed but hasn't lost all motivation of life. He is still going to work and joining work parties and such. My biggest fear is that if he continues down the weed path he eventually will get suicidal thoughts. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 Not sure where you live, but weed is legal in many states in the US. Not a user myself, but I've never seen a documented link between marijuana use and suicide. Your ex is obviously troubled with issues that could range from depression to anxiety. Somewhat ironically, weed is often recommended for both. While your concern is valid, your focus is off base... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 31, 2019 Share Posted December 31, 2019 (edited) If it were heroin or meth, I'd say yes. Weed, no. They probably already know, or at least highly suspect, anyway. Hopefully he will get his act together soon! Edited December 31, 2019 by CautiouslyOptimistic Link to post Share on other sites
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