Daisydooks Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 (edited) On 1/9/2020 at 10:17 AM, Vocals5 said: I don't know. Should I be questioning a woman who says she'd marry me tomorrow? Oyoyoy. Yes. Even more so because she said this. This is strange after a month 58 minutes ago, Vocals5 said: She told me she deleted the text because she thought I'd be hurt by what he said to her, but the truth (I believe) is because she didn't want me to see her replies to him. She told me she told him about us and his response was 'Oh'. The question is at what point did he get dirty? He wouldn't have talked to her that way 'after' she told him about us. She must have told him 'after' he started saying that, which means the conversation kept going. I'm sure if she didn't answer him back after that he would have known that he insulted her and would have apologized. He's not just going to leave things like that with her pissed off at him. I had a friend with benefits in 2011 for a month. 9 years ago! Lol! I have had to block him on everything I possibly could because even though he knows that I have been happy, in a relationship and living with my fiance, he still seems to think it is appropriate to message me at 2 in the morning to say "hey beautiful how are you doing?" This a****** doesn't give a s*** about you so drop that thought right there that he wouldnt message that way if she was honest about you. Some men are complete scuzballs Don't be fooled into thinking he would have enough respect for you at this point. She doesnt so why would he? Just sex, 9 years ago, and this dude still wont f*** off even though he knows I'm engaged and living with my fiance. He has known of my relationship for the entire 6 years I've been in it and still has zero respect for me or my fiance or my relationship. He is very blocked now on my phone and all social media platforms I can block him on. Edited January 10, 2020 by Daisydooks Link to post Share on other sites
IndigoNight Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 (edited) Could it be that he never contacted her, and she was only trying to get a reaction out of you OP? I've know several women who would like about other men to make their SO jealous. I even knew a woman that created an entire relationship with another man just to get even with her husband for talking to other women; not flirting, or anything inappropriate. She was just that insecure and jealous. Yes, she was crazy. I lost track of how many times she was pregnant and "lost" the baby, just to elicit sympathy from people. Since there was no evidence trail, she could have just not said anything if she really had betrayed you in some way. So, why tell you about? You wouldn't have been sistering anything. Maybe she just enjoys thrown herself under the bus, and upsetting/hurting you. That's also possible. Edited January 10, 2020 by IndigoNight Autocorrect was not correct Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnson1 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 7 hours ago, 2BGoodAgain said: i dunno.. mebbe he thought he could start off where he left off and went right into it... the point is, after she deleted it, you had no way to verify it without just trusting her... obviously, you don't feel you can trust her... but ask yourself this first... has she given you any reason to not trust her? im' not talking about all your prev relationships... i'm talking about her... has she done something to make you distrust her... as in, she did something that broke that trust... not suspicion, not what you think, but an actual breach of trust? In all honesty, no she hasn't. Just some odd things that I noticed around Christmas time and the week before right around the time she said he contacted her. She wss acting different. Colder. She started coming to bed fully dressed in her work clothes and falling asleep in them. Staying up late to drink or doing unnecessary things to prolong coming to bed. In general less affectionate and uncaring. I felt like she was avoiding having sex. Very unusual for her. You know when you're used to someone being a particular way, then all of a sudden they seem 'off' for no reason? That's the way she was for two weeks. She's also said regarding her ex's it was 'play or be played', or maybe what she said was something like 'these days the attitude is play or be played. I don't remember the context of the conversation, but I do remember her saying it. She also said she had a lot of one night stands, but then told me that wasn't what she meant. She also said she was a wild child back in the day and used to date multiple guys at once, but never had sex with them, just date. All I know us she's had a lot of crazy sex in her life. One time she told me I can do whatever I want, wherever I want. A lot of things she's said (and how much she likes sex) doesn't paint a pretty picture as far as feeling secure that she wouldn't screw her ex on the side to keep him on the line. Personally, do I think she has cheated? I can't say for certain. I hope not. If it was it would have to be during her working hours. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnson1 Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 3 hours ago, IndigoNight said: Could it be that he never contacted her, and she was only trying to get a reaction out of you OP? I've know several women who would like about other men to make their SO jealous. I even knew a woman that created an entire relationship with another man just to get even with her husband for talking to other women; not flirting, or anything inappropriate. She was just that insecure and jealous. Yes, she was crazy. I lost track of how many times she was pregnant and "lost" the baby, just to elicit sympathy from people. Since there was no evidence trail, she could have just not said anything if she really had betrayed you in some way. So, why tell you about? You wouldn't have been sistering anything. Maybe she just enjoys thrown herself under the bus, and upsetting/hurting you. That's also possible. Very possible. I've thought about that. I've been with enough women who get their rocks off trying to cause hurt in some way. Even if you haven't done anything wrong. If they have a suspicious mind (which she does), they'll take it out on you in one way or another and you're left wondering why you're being treated so cold. Been there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Johnson1 Posted January 13, 2020 Author Share Posted January 13, 2020 (edited) I think she enjoys playing in to my concerns about this guy. She told me she didn't sleep with him right before we met. On Saturday she added to it and said they came back to her place and made out in her pool then they went to bed, but there was no sex, then got pissed at me for finding that far-fetched. When we hung out on Sunday we went to a bar and I was sitting right there at the table. She always leaves her purse and phone with me if she just going to run into the bathroom quick, but this time she made a point of putting her phone in her purse in a phone and taking it with her. She wasn't gone long at all. It's just weird that she would do that. She doesn't carry makeup in her purse, so I couldn't understand the point of her doing that and I didn't ask her why. She was very silent and unattentive for awhile before she went to the bathroom. Edited January 13, 2020 by Vocals5 Link to post Share on other sites
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