Are my looks a factor i'm still single?

[Gr8fuln2020]

1 hour ago, guy1234545 said:

well good for you. maybe a little overconfident. so you have the looks? and if someone doesnt have them?

My post was written with a degree of sarcasm and humour. I am very confident. Over...not certain if that is the case as it has helped me to date. People are always talking about confidence...over confident now? In reality, the point of my post is WHO KNOWS. You really haven't given us anything of substance to go on. If you recognize that you do not have the confidence, if you don't ask, if you don't make efforts to acquire some confidence, if you don't have the looks, if you don't.....blah blah blah... then what do you want to hear? I am attractive to some and not to others...surprise. I have seen men I thought was not so attractive with gorgeous women. It happens. What do they have that I don't? I could dwell on that, but your looks alone is not the issue, is it? I am confident. I am other things other than my looks. Take a survey of what you feel you have to offer and compare to your friends. It is your responsibility to seriously sit down and make an accounting of yourself. Not ours, not strangers.

[kendahke]

On 1/3/2020 at 4:22 PM, guy1234545 said:

it's just not fair, my friends are not very handsome, just average, and i think i'm like this too, and still not getting accepted. i cant get over it

life isn't, never was and never will be fair.  That is lesson #1 for the adult.

[Ellener]

if this thread shows you anything guy234545 it's that we're all a variety and attracted to a variety; even if there were 'rules' on preference all that means is you'd have to overcome that, I hear it all the time when people speak of their significant other 'he/she wasn't my type but...' and they were won over by the person's unique qualities and character.

 

[Veronica73]

6 hours ago, kendahke said:

life isn't, never was and never will be fair.  That is lesson #1 for the adult.

I didn’t have the greatest upbringing, but that is one thing my parents were sure to teach me. And I’m glad they did so. ANY time I whined that something wasn’t fair when I was growing up, they told me “Life’s not fair.” And obviously it’s not. Thanks Mom and Dad!

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Well lets take a look at what I originally said then.

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With men its less about how you look and more about how your body looks... Some women like bigger guys, others like skinny guys, but the body preference usually makes a big deal based on her tastes.

And in reference to being tall, sure, women like taller dudes, but do you see any tall old guys walking around? Most men who are tall don't live past 50, especially if they are overweight and tall, definitely a lethal combination. Being short does have its advantages.

 

Study that concludes women like a certain body type: https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/speaking-of-science/wp/2017/12/12/women-rate-the-strongest-men-as-the-most-attractive-study-finds/

Study that concludes men like a certain body type: https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/women-muscles-attraction-more-thin-bodies-image-study-men-a8179481.html

Studies that show being tall is a dangerous trait: https://slate.com/technology/2013/07/height-and-longevity-the-research-is-clear-being-tall-is-hazardous-to-your-health.html

Simply put, the study states that because the organs are bigger, there are more cells, thus, there is a greater chance of a cell turning cancerous. Sure, tall people are at a lower risk of heart disease, unless they are overweight, but taller people also are at a higher risk of developing blood clots: https://www.healthline.com/health-news/why-taller-people-have-more-trouble-with-blood-clots#1  

Short men live longer: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/05/140509110756.htm

Studies that show being overweight is a major health risk: https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/weight-management/health-risks-overweight

Care to explain how your anecdotal evidence of "I know people, so you are wrong" invalidates all these studies? Or do I know what I am talking about?

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[nospam99]

I have noticed many research CONCLUSIONS predicated on an arbitrary selection of the alpha value and with no consideration to experimental design, sampling, or other independent variables which may have been 'conveniently' omitted from the statistical hypothesis testing. The conclusions are then cited as 'proof'. Such a 'brave new world' of 'big lies'. I'm old enough to remember when smoking cigarettes was claimed to be healthy. The studies that you cite may well be valid. But, given the sources of the reports (Washington Post (my third favorite 'fake news' after CNN and HuffPost), The Independent, and Slate), I don't have the patience to vet their validity. I will however 'give' you without pushback the conclusion from NIH about overweight as a health risk.

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[PinkFlamingo]

5 hours ago, nospam99 said:

I have noticed many research CONCLUSIONS predicated on an arbitrary selection of the alpha value and with no consideration to experimental design, sampling, or other independent variables which may have been 'conveniently' omitted from the statistical hypothesis testing. The conclusions are then cited as 'proof'. Such a 'brave new world' of 'big lies'. I'm old enough to remember when smoking cigarettes was claimed to be healthy. The studies that you cite may well be valid. But, given the sources of the reports (Washington Post (my third favorite 'fake news' after CNN and HuffPost), The Independent, and Slate), I don't have the patience to vet their validity. I will however 'give' you without pushback the conclusion from NIH about overweight as a health risk.

Actually, underweight is worse than overweight, healthwise.

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[elaine567]

Has the OP actually mentioned how tall he is?
Or are people here just assuming he is a short guy...

[Robert]

Let's keep the posts helpful and not hurtful, trying to insult rather than debate isn't helpful.

Thanks

[Butterflying]

Looks do play a huge role in how people treat you. There are specific human features that are universally attractive regardless of race, culture, religion, ect. Beauty is what gives you opportunities. But intelligence, wealth, and friendliness will get you further. Beauty is only skin deep because looks fade. When that happens, you'll need something else that makes you valuable. Universally unattractive people have it harder in life (sadly). They should be taught early on to play up other advantages like acquiring intelligence and wealth. People will overlook a person's physical unattractiveness when that person is intelligent, wealthy, or has something else they want or need.

Personally, I don't judge a man for looks as long as he's healthy and takes care of himself. I look for similar lifestyles, age, personalities, and intelligence. Ugly men have broken my heart just as badly as attractive ones. I am learning to be a better judge of character, not just looks.