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One of the 'ways' to meet romantic partners is supposed to be matchmaking i.e. having friends who also know potential partners 'set up' a meeting between a pair of friends or acquaintances. Just sayin' that hasn't happened to me at all and I'm wondering how affective it is realistically. One factor I think is important is where the potential couple is 'in life'. For couples who want to be parents in their younger years, there is a raising children from birth stage that can expect to last until about 20 years after the birth of their youngest child. For couples where one spouse is a single parent, there's a stage that can last until the youngest child (again) reaches about 20 y/o. For couples who have no interest or need to experience parenting, the relationship can kick in at any age. And couples who are both 'empty nesters', will have the opportunity to 'find' each other (obviously) after the youngest children have moved out - other than age, similar to those couples who never have children. I list the difference types of couples because I suspect that will be an important factor in successful matchmaking.

So have any of you folks been successfully 'matched up' by your friends? Have your friends tried matchmaking but it failed? And what type of couple were you when the matchmaking was attempted?

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Happy Lemming
26 minutes ago, nospam99 said:

So have any of you folks been successfully 'matched up' by your friends?

I did have one 2 year relationship with a very pretty woman (red head).  Our introduction was a "fix-up" type deal.  She was best friends with one of my friend's wife.  After about 2 years or so, the nomadic gene in my DNA was screaming for another move.  I asked her if she wanted to go with me to my next destination, but she couldn't as her mother had died unexpectedly and she was helping her father raise her (much younger) brother and sister. So we said "good bye", it really wasn't that big a loss.  We were starting to have some minor issues.  I guess we could have worked through them.  It would be hard for me to define the whole relationship as "successful".  It was quite fun, though!!  Sorry if that sounds "wishy-washy"... I don't want to give you the wrong "picture" of the relationship.

I've also had some DUD fix ups, where I couldn't wait for the date to end.

 

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Hubby and I were matched by friends nearly 30 years ago.   I wasn't aware it was a set up at the time, but hey, it worked.   Our daughter got set up with someone on NYE and they have seen each other again since.

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Friends and family have tried, but I’ve just never been invested enough (stubborn) to try giving it a go. I’d rather do my own thing. 

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When I was younger my mother was always throwing musicians at me.  I found it ironic that my own mother was often trying to set me up with men your mother is supposed to keep you away from.  

A few friends set me up with people on blind dates but that never worked well & was always awkward.   

When I "fix people up" I design something with a few people where they will both be including me so if they click great but if not there are others to talk to.  A few folks dated for a few months but I never sent anyone down the aisle.  

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In my younger life... I dated a girl for close to 5 years, and it was a set up from a friend.  We broke up because she was cheating on me.   But now that I'm single again... I'm hoping it will work out.  Honestly... if someone is actually your friend... they won't just set you up with some one who isn't compatible with you. 

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Not since high school.

My first "serious"boyfriend was the result of a "match making". My good friend attended another school and she knew a guy that she thought I would like and vice versa. After a fair bit of badgering we met up.

Wasn't a match for life, but we were really perfect for each other at the time. Learned so much from each other and grew as people. 

25+ years later we still keep in touch. We are both living out our dreams, which happened to be different paths. 

It was a good match making on her part. Not happily ever after together, but zero regrets as well.

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