an0nym0us123 Posted January 6, 2020 Share Posted January 6, 2020 (edited) Hi folks, im not going to run through all my dating woes as i have done that in other threads. Basically im 33yr old, 5'11", and in pretty good shape right now. Through last year i played about with different photos and taking different photos of myself. Ive ended up with half a dozen that i think i look okay in and i get matches and attention online. However i do think these are me looking my best, best angles and best lighting etc. The problem now is its more likely the woman will be disappointed when she meets me. Recently i have taken a few really nice looking women out on first dates but that was as far as they all went despite us seemingly having a laugh. A mate of mine who does online was telling me at xmas how no girl has ever refused a second date with him. He is a very good looking guy where as ive a lot less going for me in that department. Only recently did i become aware of something that may be spoiling my chances. I was on a date and the girl was sitting opposite me smiling and i noted that her teeth were perfect. Then i thought about mine, although ive nice enough teeth they are crooked! Not crazy but miles from what they could be. They look okay from the front but its very obvious from the side or bottom and they really aren't doing me any favours. Ive 2 photos of me smiling but they are taken from the front and far enough away that you cant really tell that my teeth are out of line. Something that never really bothered me till now. So ive been mulling over getting incognito braces and fixing at least one of my faults, there are plenty others but not much i can do about them. Do you think its worth it at 33? Looking at 5-8k for them in the uk Edited January 6, 2020 by an0nym0us123 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 6, 2020 Share Posted January 6, 2020 Your post is rather self-deprecating & I suspect that is more of your problem getting a 2nd date then your teeth. That said do you like your own smile? If so, then leave it alone unless you are planning to try out to be a model in a toothpaste commercial. If you don't like your teeth, then invest in the braces. But do it for yourself, not to get a date. Whatever you do, work on your self confidence. You need to like yourself & view yourself as a good catch before anything else. When you go on the 1st date you are not there to impress her to accept a 2nd date with you. You are there to ascertain whether she's worthy to go on a 2nd date with you. I'm not talking about being a stuck up, egomaniacal, self-centered jerk but be a little less eager, less like a puppy begging for treats. Know your own worth & become confident enough to recognize that a quality person will find value in spending time with you. Also remember that OLD & the apps are one tool. they should never be your primary means of finding a date. Rather, meeting people in real life is always the superior method. What are you doing to put yourself out there? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Allupinnit Posted January 6, 2020 Share Posted January 6, 2020 I had braces as an adult and I say go for it - my confidence was through the roof with my new pretty smile. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 6, 2020 Share Posted January 6, 2020 I have a few friends who have done it as adults and none of them had regrets. They have beautiful smiles :). Link to post Share on other sites
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