basil67 Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 Shhhhhh Link to post Share on other sites
Ellener Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 4 hours ago, preraph said: porn video or fairytale I agree, though when I read it writen together it sounds more like a choice- be a porn star or dramatic heroine/victim...which is often what relationships feel like. We are taught to romanticise such images and idealisation I think through culture. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 9 hours ago, Hopeful30 said: Football? Yes I am familiar. American football? Not a clue. American football is not popular here in Toronto. Mostly hockey, basketball and UFC (I'm down to watch fit and sweaty dudes all over each other ) I personally don't mind if a man is seriously into sports. It's healthy to have hobbies and be part of a community. It's a great compliment to a girl's night out, too! He watches the game with his buddies, I have fun with the girls! I suppose I could order a drink at the bar and watch the game. Is it unattractive if a woman watches a game unenthused? Of course, it's better when a woman enjoys the sport ...but if she does not, is this off-putting? I imagine that a man is more likely to approach a girl who is enjoying the game (more to discuss with her) than one who is simply watching indifferently... I have noticed on a few different forums or blogs/comments that Toronto can be difficult for singles meeting other singles. It has a bad wrap. Toronto is a huge city, it should not be that difficult!!! Are some people expecting too much? I can remember years ago jumping on the TTC subway late at night and watching all the strange people, good city entertainment for the small town kid. Link to post Share on other sites
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 Nowhere, you always have to be ready to deal with wierdos 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, Caauug said: Football, American football? Good if you are American. Well sorry I am American. Where is WA? Over here it's Washington. I don't like hockey so I didn't suggest it. Edited January 7, 2020 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) 15 hours ago, nospam99 said: I still don't understand why WOMEN don't have success meeting men with OLD. Haven't a bunch of you LS ladies (d0nni excepted of course, I know her story of OLD failure) posted that you got more OLD messages than you could possibly meet. Plus women can always (horrors!) also 'make the first move' by contacting men whose profiles seem to be 'catches'. Granted it takes work to separate the wheat from the chaff. But is it really that rare to 'score' (not necessarily a ONS score but a relationship score)? Also I'm thinking one of the OLD web sites, not a phone app - as near as I can tell Bumble and Tinder (in the US) have high hookup to relationship ratios. They do have success meeting men online it's just that those men don't stick around too long. Edited January 7, 2020 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Foxhall Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 12 hours ago, stillafool said: Foxhall a lot of single guys are engaged and getting married every weekend so they must be approaching someone. OP don't let that deter you. Yes my point was that guys who are struggling with this area, few of them on this forum and so on, they do not need to feel as intimidated by approaching a woman, lot of nice women out there. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 10 hours ago, basil67 said: Shhhhhh I was trained by that Shush but it doesn't hold true any longer in the libraries I visit, much to my annoyance. They built a special room for those of us who do not enjoy the more boisterous atmosphere. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 17 hours ago, d0nnivain said: I've done it but only because I am a rabid fan & sometimes I had nobody to go with. Granted I showed up decked out in a jersey & it was obvious I was there for the game so I was very quickly treated like one of the guys, minus the chest bumps. Me too! I dress up in my jersey and cap to watch my team play when I'm at home sitting on the sofa. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 You know, you wouldn't even have to go to a game necessarily. Even if all you did was wear a sports jersey out to lunch or on mass transit, you'd likely get some random comments, although prepare yourself for not all of them being good ones. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Piddy Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) If you watch some of these YouTube videos where guys go up to women and just introduce themselves, make a complementary remark about their looks etc. and they get their phone numbers. It's amazing how easy they do it. It's all confidence. I was shy, so that would've been hard for me back in my day. I needed a couple beers to work up the courage to ask a girl to dance. Back then all there was were clubs and bars. If you wanted to meet a girl that's where you went. No online dating etc.. So, why can't a woman who sees someone she's interested in just approach him with a simple hello and make a complementary remark and just start talking? I think most guys would love that a woman was the initiator. This way you get to choose who you're attracted to. It may not work out 90% of the time, but the other 10% you might strike gold. I've seen girls sitting at the bar reading and often wondered if they're waiting for someone or looking to be approached. If I were you I'd take control and try something bold. You initiate the contact. It's going to get tougher to meet decent guys the older you get. Most people are looking to get coupled up in their mid to late 20's. So again, success favors the bold the older you get. Look at it like an actress going for a audition. You go in and read your lines and most of the time you get rejected. But that one time you get the part could change your life. Only the part you're auditioning for is the same day after day. You'll get good at it. In time you'll know what works and what doesn't. Look at it as a job interview, only you're the one out looking for the candidate to fill the position. 😉 Edited January 7, 2020 by Piddy Link to post Share on other sites
Metsgal Posted January 7, 2020 Share Posted January 7, 2020 (edited) Go dancing on Friday or Saturday nights, either salsa, or swing. Quick and easy way to meet guys-mostly likely they will ask any woman without a man standing alone, to dance. I mean, single guys would go looking for single women, will lean towards dance clubs/happy hours after work/bars. Places like bookstores, bowling alleys, coed sports are tough, because guys will not approach women in that type of environment. A lot of people have posted on how important it is to have interests and hobbies, yes those are important and good conversation starters, but if a man isn't physically attractive to a certain woman despite the fact that her life is fulfilling and has tons of hobbies, there is no way a man is going to even want to be with her romantically. Edited January 7, 2020 by Metsgal Link to post Share on other sites
Caauug Posted January 8, 2020 Share Posted January 8, 2020 On 1/7/2020 at 7:44 PM, stillafool said: Well sorry I am American. Where is WA? Over here it's Washington. I don't like hockey so I didn't suggest it. I had that figured out. WA for me is Western Australia. She doesn't have to like hockey, only has to like the hockey player that she picks up at the game. Any physically demanding contact sport should produce options for her, winter in Toronto the likely sport would be hockey. A different location and/or season it would be a different sport. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 8, 2020 Share Posted January 8, 2020 Just do the approaching yourself. Trust me it is not a big deal to most men. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted January 13, 2020 Author Share Posted January 13, 2020 On 1/6/2020 at 7:55 PM, K.K. said: Gun range? They are not popular in Canada. There are very few gun ranges far and between. Otherwise, I go regularly when I visit the states! On 1/6/2020 at 5:10 PM, Cookiesandough said: The reason I feel this way is because when they cold approach you know it’s just based on looks and they probably do it quite often. Life is not a lifetime movie. They just think you’re hot or at least hot enough because they know nothing else about you. But really, isn’t that what all dating is with the at the end of the day. I guess so. Sucks though Not necessarily. A man can easily sense a woman's vibe. How she speaks with others, her facial expressions, or an overall feeling. This is why some gorgeous women never get approached. Men can sense when there is lack of depth. On 1/7/2020 at 12:21 AM, Caauug said: I have noticed on a few different forums or blogs/comments that Toronto can be difficult for singles meeting other singles. It has a bad wrap. Toronto is a huge city, it should not be that difficult!!! Are some people expecting too much? I can remember years ago jumping on the TTC subway late at night and watching all the strange people, good city entertainment for the small town kid. I have read this, too. I wish I had more information as to why, but I have no idea! Men just don't approach women. On 1/7/2020 at 1:09 PM, Piddy said: So, why can't a woman who sees someone she's interested in just approach him with a simple hello and make a complementary remark and just start talking? I think most guys would love that a woman was the initiator. This way you get to choose who you're attracted to. It may not work out 90% of the time, but the other 10% you might strike gold. This is true, but I am old fashioned. If a man cannot approach a woman that catches his interest, what else is he too afraid to act on? It's unattractive to be the one who makes the first move. On 1/7/2020 at 6:39 PM, Metsgal said: Go dancing on Friday or Saturday nights, either salsa, or swing. Quick and easy way to meet guys-mostly likely they will ask any woman without a man standing alone, to dance. I mean, single guys would go looking for single women, will lean towards dance clubs/happy hours after work/bars. Places like bookstores, bowling alleys, coed sports are tough, because guys will not approach women in that type of environment. A lot of people have posted on how important it is to have interests and hobbies, yes those are important and good conversation starters, but if a man isn't physically attractive to a certain woman despite the fact that her life is fulfilling and has tons of hobbies, there is no way a man is going to even want to be with her romantically. Oh my!! You've literally just summarized my entire twenties. It was nothing but salsa dancing, going to social events, pool parties, theme parks, etc. I admit this is a great way to meet men, but I'm not interested in these activities anymore. I feel like I have 'outgrown' them, if that makes sense? On 1/8/2020 at 6:45 PM, Woggle said: Just do the approaching yourself. Trust me it is not a big deal to most men. It's not who I am. I enjoy being chased. I enjoy showing interest and having a man approach. It turns me on. I don't feel like a women when I have to do the chasing. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 13, 2020 Share Posted January 13, 2020 If you don't want to do the chasing at least signal to men that you are open to being chased and you won't treat them like some sort of creep. Link to post Share on other sites
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