Wanting to fall in love again...

[thehappyclam]

So it has been 2 years since my last serious relationship, which was 4 year long and I was so absolutely in love with her that it took me a good year after the breakup to get over it....I have forged a new life and is very happy as a single man doing guy things, but now and then I absolutely miss being in love, having a beautiful intelligent woman to think about and care for.

 

I'm 25, fit, attractive (by my standard), and successful at my career. I have had short meaningless relationships since the breakup. I got a feeling that I haven't let anyone in, maybe subconsciously, or maybe they weren't worth my while. Really haven't found anybody that get my heart pounding yet, let alone fall in love with.

 

I may be afraid to try again, even though I really want to. Really can't go out there and search for a girl, though, because that would be fruitless. But doing the whole bachelor thing, then once in a while wish I had a good girl to come home to, is getting pretty darn boring.

 

Just wanted to vent. Especially now that every friend I know is either in a serious relationship or getting engaged/married.

[Painwraith]

I know the feeling, I am 27, good looking ( I hope), a nice guy too, I also have a fine job.

 

my circle of friends is getting smaller due to them all finding people and then moving steadily away. its hard

[basscatcher]

Both of you are in the same peer group you will notice that most of your friends are getting married and having children. They are growing up moving out of the age of finding their independance as teenagers and young adults.

 

It's natural and normal to want to find someone to settle down with and care about.

 

I'm almost 37 and feel that same ache. I'm also afraid to trust completely. Afraid because of past experiences. As you get older the availability of single people who want commitment lessons.

Short meaningless relationships tend to hurt both men and woman. It's hard to think of the opposite sex as trustworthy when you have so many experiences that are meaningless. If soo many are willing to have meaningless relationships then is there anyone out there who can have a meaningful relationship??

I'm afraid that I can't trust a man completely. My self esteem and self worth have been dwindling because of the experiences with the men whom I've met. They say and act one way but in a short matter of time they fall from exhistance or completely change the person they presented themselves to be.

I view myself as a loving, caring, understanding, patient, kind, woman; who can cook, likes a clean home, loves children, gets along well with others, loves to laugh and goof around (16 yr old at heart). I am independant- change my own oil in my car, likes to mow lawn barefoot and go barefoot in the mud. I love to fish and hike, I like fast cars, the only sport I really like is Hockey. I have lots and lots to offer the right guy but are there any out there whom I can trust, who I am physically attracted to, who shares my morals and values and is sincere about me.

 

I could go on and on and on. There are so many of us out here that are lonely and want to love somone and be loved. Fear is what stops us. Bad choices is what ruins what we have or have had. WE are afraid to invest ourselves out of fear of being rejected or hurt.

 

It's a struggle we need to find solutions too ourselves. I wish I could just vent and my life would change like emptying the garbage can when its full. When its full, empty it and you no longer have the garbage.