traceyjan Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Me and my husband have been married 17 years we have 3 children.. I've been jealous of my husband for about 15 years,I got jealous after he told me he had wanted to screw my sister .. and at that time we were married.. He works with a married couple for about 2 years,He works more with the wife than the husband she works in his cell so he sees and talks to her more .. He knows im jealous of this woman .. They had a couple of parties and she invites my husband .. "We went" Then the phone calls start.. My husband and her start calling each other on their cell phones.. AND HE KNEW I WAS JEALOUS...I asked him to stop and he wouldnt , he said they were all good friends , they were doing nothing wrong.. he said i was just being jealous and I needed to get over it ..The calls have stopped but they didnt stop till after 2 months of fighting about it.... he says if she calls again he would answer the phone if i wasnt there .i asked him to talk to her on phone around me .. My questions are 1. When he saw I was upset and ask him to stop talking to her on phone do yall think he should of stopped and put my feelings first ? 2. Do yall think a man should tell his wife everything ... like wanting sister? lol ( he going to read this) 3.Does anyone agree if he was friends with her and her husband he should of talked to him on phone also not just her? Link to post Share on other sites
suegail Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I don't know how you put up with it. I really don't. He sounds arrogant and obnoxious and maybe just not too bright. Were I you, I would have left him long ago, in fact, immediately after what he said about your sister. That would have done it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Tell his wife. You have nothing to lose at this point. The fact he told you he wanted to bang your sister was so wrong! That was a redflag. Hey, what did your sister think? Did you tell her? Just wondering. Anyway, your husband needs a wake up call. Does he know he's a father of 3 and married? He certainly isn't acting like it! Link to post Share on other sites
mouseboxeo Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 Me and my wife had this problem, and it still arises. She is/was good friends with her ex before and after they were b/f//g/f, she even cheated with him on another guy. She used to talk to him a lot over the internet and phone both when I was around and when I was at work. I told her I don't think it's appropriate her talking to her ex, who she cheated with(not on me), even though they were best friends. I asked her if I talked to one of my ex's all the time how would she feel, and she said it isn't the same. I would be doing it out of spite while her and her ex are real good friends. I told her I don't talk to my ex's because I feel it's inappropriate for a married man to talk to an ex girlfriend or female in general more than once every couple weeks or months even. Especially since men are stereotyped as cheaters. I'm a Marine. I hear guys talk all the time about cheating on their wives. I won't cheat on her and don't talk to any other girls. I go straight from work to my house and spend the whole day with her. She finally agreed after a month that she was going to stop because I didn't appreciate her talking to him all the time. So she stopped. I caught her talking to him behind my back one time and did get angry because she said she was going to stop or at least tell me. I know how you feel, and there is nothing you can really do about it because they are only going to see it their way. You just have to be firm and not let up. If he says things like I wouldn't mind sleeping with any women other than you then there is a problem because if he says it. He might actually be thinking about it or doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 1. When he saw I was upset and ask him to stop talking to her on phone do yall think he should of stopped and put my feelings first ? 2. Do yall think a man should tell his wife everything ... like wanting sister? lol ( he going to read this) 3. Does anyone agree if he was friends with her and her husband he should of talked to him on phone also not just her? 1. I think he should always put your feelings first and communicate your worries. Since they work together, he didn't have to stop talking to her. He should find better ways to show you that you're the only one so that you never become jealous of another woman. I would stop calling a man of whom my husband were jealous. 2. Absolutely not! I told my BF to NEVER tell me if he likes or desires another woman. I don't want to hear. It was stupid of him to tell you that, especially since this is about your sister. I wouldn't dare tell my partner that I want to screw his brother. And he has an identical twin brother! 3. Not necessarily, but he should be friendly and respectful to him also. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 IMO, it was extremely disrespectful for him to say he wanted to sleep with your sister. I wouldn't have married him after a comment like that. It can only go downhill from there. This man has invested time in talking to and pursuing emotionally another woman. That's the truth. The time he spent talking to her etc he could have been spending with you. Anytime a spouse doesn't like a friendship their spouse has with a member of the opposite sex, it's wrong not to stop it if it upsets the other spouse. The fact that he did not should tell you something. He cared more about that than your feelings. This wasn't someone he'd known since elementary school. I for instance have a good male friend from 7th grade- I'm 37 now. I called him recently after 15 years just to say hi and his wife went ballistic. The situation is not the same. He shouldn't be more attached to his new friendship than he is to his marriage. You know what's been going on here. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 IMO, it was extremely disrespectful for him to say he wanted to sleep with your sister. I wouldn't have married him after a comment like that. It can only go downhill from there. They did go downhill in a way and they were already married. Tracey said: I got jealous after he told me he had wanted to screw my sister .. and at that time we were married.. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted October 5, 2005 Share Posted October 5, 2005 When he made that commment about wanting to be with your sister what did you say? I am so sorry he said this and the fact that he is messing with a OW...You don't deserve to be treated this way and you have three kids to think about and you have to think about how this will affect your kids.. Sounds to me that this man needs to grow up and quit acting like a child a be a father and quit thinking with the wrong head .. Hope it all works out for you!! Good luck.. keep us posted as what you are going to do Link to post Share on other sites
lust4life Posted October 6, 2005 Share Posted October 6, 2005 Get a poly for all involved!!! Link to post Share on other sites
lynnered Posted October 6, 2005 Share Posted October 6, 2005 "Me and my husband have been married 17 years we have 3 children.. I've been jealous of my husband for about 15 years,I got jealous after he told me he had wanted to screw my sister .. and at that time we were M" Ok jealous for 15 years!wow lets change U to insecure ,because thats what it sounds like he has made U with his sick comment. 1. When he saw I was upset and ask him to stop talking to her on phone do yall think he should of stopped and put my feelings first ? he should have ended call & discussed Ur feelings & reassured U. 2. Do yall think a man should tell his wife everything ... like wanting sister? lol ( he going to read this) well no ,but i also feel he shouldnt want Ur sister ,cause after all these years she should be like his sister if he is reding if think he is a pervert. 3.Does anyone agree if he was friends with her and her husband he should of talked to him on phone also not just her? maybe talked to both?depends on what they talk about ,an old friend i wouldnt care(before U)but shes new after 17 years U should already know where U guys stand on these issues ,U need Mc,&knowing how U feel he should end the friendship or only talk to the female in question when U are around ,he should want to reassure U,not make U feel worst. and i would understand if U guys were dating&she was a friend 1st he knows what pushes Ur buttons he knows right &wrong but choose to do what he wants . get this under control & fast i would lose the friends not worth the drama. goodluck Link to post Share on other sites
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