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Happy Lemming
7 hours ago, bradt93 said:

 What makes you think she flat out rejected me?

Because of the "derogatory" language you used that was removed by "Robert" in your post.

It appears you are easily angered (demonstrated in this and other threads).   Women can pick up on that and are (usually) turned off by it.

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On 1/20/2020 at 8:57 AM, Happy Lemming said:

Because of the "derogatory" language you used that was removed by "Robert" in your post.

It appears you are easily angered (demonstrated in this and other threads).   Women can pick up on that and are (usually) turned off by it.

No, I was just making an observation that she talked to lots of guys that she must be promiscuous.

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On 1/20/2020 at 11:16 AM, bradt93 said:

No, I was just making an observation that she talked to lots of guys that she must be promiscuous. 

Talking to "lots of guys" does not mean you are "promiscuous"; it means you are social.

Humans talk to other humans, they laugh, joke and discuss on all manner of subjects.  That doesn't mean every person is sleeping with every other person they talk to.

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On 1/20/2020 at 11:36 AM, Happy Lemming said:

Talking to "lots of guys" does not mean you are "promiscuous"; it means you are social.

Humans talk to other humans, they laugh, joke and discuss on all manner of subjects.  That doesn't mean every person is sleeping with every other person they talk to.

Well ,she did talk to me too, I have to stop taking things so personally. 

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On 1/20/2020 at 11:16 AM, bradt93 said:

No, I was just making an observation that she talked to lots of guys that she must be promiscuous. 

Hard to imagine why she doesn't like you. 

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On 1/21/2020 at 11:08 AM, Luke Cage said:

If she smiled after you said "hi', it obviously means you are the person she has waited her life for and she has fallen madly in love with you.
 

Come on stop being sarcastic, I'm just glad she's not repulsed by me.

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On 1/21/2020 at 12:15 PM, normal person said:

Hard to imagine why she doesn't like you. 

I don't know if she doesn't like me or not and I don't care. 

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On 1/9/2020 at 10:23 AM, bradt93 said:

I said hi to a pretty girl in my college class yesterday and she smiled, but didn't say hi back. I don't know if she noticed me looking her way or not, but I wasn't looking exactly at her. My eyes just wonder and she had her hand on the side of her face talking to the girl next to her. I have no idea what it means, should I be concerned or am I overreacting? Because I don't want to look like a creeper. 

I can't remember, are you the guy that's ~35? Because if so, like I've said in the past, trying to hit on college aged women makes you look like a textbook creeper. Just don't do it. 

2 hours ago, bradt93 said:

I don't know if she doesn't like me or not and I don't care. 

Well it sure sounds like you do. If you really don't care, I would again advise against giving unsolicited greetings to women nearly half your age, especially if you're still college yourself. You have nothing to gain and a lot to lose.

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36 minutes ago, normal person said:

I can't remember, are you the guy that's ~35? Because if so, like I've said in the past, trying to hit on college aged women makes you look like a textbook creeper. Just don't do it. 

Well it sure sounds like you do. If you really don't care, I would again advise against giving unsolicited greetings to women nearly half your age, especially if you're still college yourself. You have nothing to gain and a lot to lose.

Well, how am I suppose to meet women my age if all of them at my college are in their early to mid 20s? Also, I'm 31.

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17 hours ago, bradt93 said:

Technically, I'm not an old geezer. 5 to 7 years apart in age is not that extreme.

Have you ever tried dating (or even asking out) a woman older than you??  They might be a little more forgiving of your bi-polar illness...

Early 20's hotties get to pick the "cream of the crop"...

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22 hours ago, bradt93 said:

Well, how am I suppose to meet women my age if all of them at my college are in their early to mid 20s? Also, I'm 31.

That's your predicament to deal with, not everyone else's to overlook. The world doesn't cater to you. It's not going to stop being weird for a 31 year old to hit on college women (many of whom are literal teenagers) because you can't think of any better place to meet women. Also, what's wrong with a bar? What's wrong with Tinder, Bumble, and OLD? People there can be much more age appropriate, and you won't be fighting as much of an uphill battle. 

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4 hours ago, normal person said:

That's your predicament to deal with, not everyone else's to overlook. The world doesn't cater to you. It's not going to stop being weird for a 31 year old to hit on college women (many of whom are literal teenagers) because you can't think of any better place to meet women. Also, what's wrong with a bar? What's wrong with Tinder, Bumble, and OLD? People there can be much more age appropriate, and you won't be fighting as much of an uphill battle. 

Mid 20's women are not teenagers.  I think I know the world doesn't cater to me and please don't be a B to me okay?

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26 minutes ago, bradt93 said:

Mid 20's women are not teenagers.  I think I know the world doesn't cater to me and please don't be a B to me okay?

Most people in college are aged 18-21. When you say "how am I supposed to meet women my age is all of them at my college are ..." you're presuming that it's not at all weird for a 31 to hit on college girls by virtue of the fact that you're in college too. That's what I mean as I'm trying to explain that the world isn't going to cater to you. People aren't going to give you the benefit of the doubt, and they aren't going to cut you slack because you think you don't -- or think you don't -- have other places to meet women.

Again, if the issue is as simple as you not knowing where to meet women, why not at a bar or on Tinder/Bumble? Those places are much more age appropriate. 

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57 minutes ago, normal person said:

...or on Tinder/Bumble?

If memory serves, the OP tried an on-line dating site, he was afraid to post a picture of himself and posted a picture of his car, instead.

Brad... I have no idea how hard it must be for you being bi-polar. I'm sure it is a huge day to day struggle. I'm sure it is not your intention to come off as "creepy" and you'd like to date a younger woman from college, but it is not going to happen because the young women don't understand your illness and you may present in a bit of a scary way.

I do think your best bet is to attempt to go out into the world (sports, hobbies, meet-ups, pubs, etc.) and meet women your own age or slightly older.  I think they will be a bit more understanding of your bi-polar issues.

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11 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

If memory serves, the OP tried an on-line dating site, he was afraid to post a picture of himself and posted a picture of his car, instead.

Brad... I have no idea how hard it must be for you being bi-polar. I'm sure it is a huge day to day struggle. I'm sure it is not your intention to come off as "creepy" and you'd like to date a younger woman from college, but it is not going to happen because the young women don't understand your illness and you may present in a bit of a scary way.

I do think your best bet is to attempt to go out into the world (sports, hobbies, meet-ups, pubs, etc.) and meet women your own age or slightly older.  I think they will be a bit more understanding of your bi-polar issues.

So you're saying they might be immature and not even consider dating me, because if mental illness?

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13 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

If memory serves, the OP tried an on-line dating site, he was afraid to post a picture of himself and posted a picture of his car, instead.

Brad... I have no idea how hard it must be for you being bi-polar. I'm sure it is a huge day to day struggle. I'm sure it is not your intention to come off as "creepy" and you'd like to date a younger woman from college, but it is not going to happen because the young women don't understand your illness and you may present in a bit of a scary way.

I do think your best bet is to attempt to go out into the world (sports, hobbies, meet-ups, pubs, etc.) and meet women your own age or slightly older.  I think they will be a bit more understanding of your bi-polar issues.

You would be surprised I got two matches on Tinder and one like just only having a picture of my car lol.

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1 minute ago, bradt93 said:

So you're saying they might be immature and not even consider dating me, because if mental illness?

Immature isn't exactly the word I would use... maybe uninformed.

Between your age, mental illness and how you present, they may be avoiding you because they are scared of you.

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1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said:

Immature isn't exactly the word I would use... maybe uninformed.

Between your age, mental illness and how you present, they may be avoiding you because they are scared of you.

To be fair, I noticed a lot the women at my college don't talk to a lot of guys. 

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3 minutes ago, bradt93 said:

You would be surprised I got two matches on Tinder and one like just only having a picture of my car lol.

And what came of those matches?? Did you respond?? Take those women out on a nice date??

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Just now, bradt93 said:

To be fair, I noticed a lot the women at my college don't talk to a lot of guys. 

College isn't an appropriate "hunting ground" for you.  You really need to try to date someone your own age or slightly older.

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1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said:

And what came of those matches?? Did you respond?? Take those women out on a nice date??

I tried, but it won't let me, because I have to subscribe to tinder.

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Just now, bradt93 said:

I tried, but it won't let me, because I have to subscribe to tinder.

I don't really know how "Tinder" works, as I've never tried it.  Perhaps some other LS poster can chime in and provide information about subscription cost, effectiveness, etc.

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