Then please advice me. I will be thankful.

[Nikki79ua]

Hi. I am 26 year's married. We have completed one

year of our wedding. I have the problem

with my mother-in-law and sister-in-law. They are

very open to my husband. My mothe-in-law

changes her blouse and saari without feeling that her

son,daughter and daughter-in law ar

e present in the room. I am very furious at that time.

My husband also don't care wheather

she is changing her clothes. It happens many time and

I am not able to stop such kind of

think which makes me angry and I make quarrel with

my husband.My husband also don't care m

y these feeling. Sometime I also noticed that my

husband touches her breasts or hip or but

taks. My family life is not going well due to this. My

mother-in-law , husband and sister-

in-law thinks that I amd not linking to live with then.

But I respects my in-laws. Once

my husband told me before our marriage that "3 years

ago, he and her sister suck her mothe

r's breast nipple for milk". I have a baby boy of5

months. When he was born, my husband sl

eptwith his father and sister in a single bed due to

space problem and I was very tense th

ose days for this. I started quarreling with him from

that time. All such kinds of things

are coming in my way. I think I have to go to the

doctor. Although my husband is very cari

ng and helpful for me but I can't face such type of

scenes. What should I do? I told my pr

oblem to my husband but he said that "I am narrow

minded, he can do such kind of thing b'c

oz she is his mother"?

 

I know there is no relationshp between my

mother-in-law and my husband but their living

manner disturb me.

My husband did not understand me. I am from India. I

told my problem many time to my husband but he is

not agree to compromise.

According to him this relationship is between a son

and his mother and their is no problem in this. But I

think if son is not yough then this relationship is

wrong.

I will thankful to you if you will advice me what to

do? I am helpless I do not want to talk to my parents

regarding this and in this city, DELHI-India, I have

no friends, B'coz I am from another state.

[RecordProducer]

My family life is not going well due to this.

 

If this whole post is not a joke (a very good one, I must admit ) then you should just accept these things as "normal.". However your husband is also very stubborn; he should at least try and not do these things in front of you. Perhaps marriage counseler could help you resolve this problem? I believe one visit would do.

Once my husband told me before our marriage that "3 years ago, he and her sister suck her mother's breast nipple for milk".

Are you sure he didn't tell you 3 years ago that they sucked her milk (when they were babies)? This is rather hilarious than something that should make you mad.

 

I change my clothes in front of my boys. I guess I will stop some day.

[Outcast]

Your relatives should not be getting naked in front of you. For sure go to your doctor and talk about this problem.

[duskydawn]

You should talk to your mother-in-law (if needed sister-in-law) about this one-on-one. Ask her how it would be if you changed in front of your father-in-law and he touched or sucked on your nipples etc. Also make it known to your husband, the circumstances that drove you to have this talk with your mother-in-law and about the talk. Decide on a consequence, for eg. Are you ready to divorce your husband if the behaviour doesn't change? Are you happy with the behaviour change or Will you only be completely satisfied in your marriage if you and your husband move out? What is the possibility of that happening? Weigh out all your options and let them know that they will have to face the consequence you decided. If you observe that even after your talks with the mother-in-law, sister-in-law and husband,their actions/behaviour has not changed, follow through on your decided plan of action.