How do I approach my ex for saying this to me?

[enchanted771]

Me and my ex are friends...My child told  my ex boyfriend while back In a jokingly way, some comment about guys liking me. He says things that aren’t true, so was pushing his buttons..My ex reacted to him saying what your mom does is her business.. well recently one night he told me “ your son isn’t lying” I told him look, I don’t have a boyfriend since YOU..then  he added “I don’t care” well If you don’t care then why are you reacting? I feel I need to express myself.. He’s being really foolish saying this as we have been spending a lot of time together lately, I sleep over at his house too..if I had a boyfriend as he was insinuating, I wouldn’t be doing such a thing...he was drunk when he made the comment but I still think I need to say something. I am not a dishonest person, and I didn’t appreciate his comment. 

[Angelflower]

How old is your child? Seems like maybe you might want to deal with your child or you risk having interference in all your relationships going forward. I was a single mom with 2 kids so I know how hard it is. I learned in hindsight that bf's and children really shouldn't mix unless bf becomes step-parent and then well... I wouldn't even risk my kids with a step-parent anymore. In your situation is sounds as if now the bf is trying pit you against your child.... messy.... I am sorry your having to deal with this. Good luck.

[enchanted771]

8 minutes ago, Angelflower said:

How old is your child? Seems like maybe you might want to deal with your child or you risk having interference in all your relationships going forward. I was a single mom with 2 kids so I know how hard it is. I learned in hindsight that bf's and children really shouldn't mix unless bf becomes step-parent and then well... I wouldn't even risk my kids with a step-parent anymore. In your situation is sounds as if now the bf is trying pit you against your child.... messy.... I am sorry your having to deal with this. Good luck.

What I gathered was that he is insinuating that I’m lying about not having a bf, and my child was telling the truth. Then adds I don’t care what you do..that’s BS because if you don’t care, why bring it up a month later? 

[Angelflower]

yeah it's a bs move to put strife between you and your child... I say dump him.

[enchanted771]

3 hours ago, Angelflower said:

yeah it's a bs move to put strife between you and your child... I say dump him.

Yes, I am not trying to make anyone jealous or asking my son to instigate anything which Is what he might be thinking. We are close friends, and he hasn’t expressed that he has any romantic feelings for me..In my experience, when someone says I don’t care it means the opposite..

[JTSW]

I agree. He wouldn't have brought it up if it didn't bother him. 

You don't owe him explanation. 

You know the truth and that's all that matters. 

[enchanted771]

1 hour ago, JTSW said:

I agree. He wouldn't have brought it up if it didn't bother him. 

You don't owe him explanation. 

You know the truth and that's all that matters. 

Ok well it bothered me, so that’s why I wanted to clear my name. I told him the truth, and if he wants to keep believing I actually have a boyfriend then that’s his own insecurities (  he was drunk & tired) how on earth would I have time to have a boyfriend, when I am spending holidays with him and his family, we hang out 1-3 days a week, eat dinner together, talk and text daily sometimes multiple times..so I don’t get his logic. I was going to text him and tell him that I don’t know where he got that from, but perhaps it’s not a good idea. If he really thought that, he would work harder to keep me. 

[preraph]

Look, he'll keep it up as long as he knows it bothers you this much.  Either start telling him, None of your business, and mean it, or stop trying to be friends with your ex!  There's too many emotions to be doing that.