Some Girl Posted June 10, 2001 Share Posted June 10, 2001 Hi everyone, Everyone here seems to be really helpful and I just hope someone could tell me exactly how I'm feeling or what exactly I'm going through. I'm an 18 yr old girl and I broke up with my very first boyfriend a couple of months ago. We're still friend and talk but we do not hang out as much. At that time, I felt that I do not have the same level of feelings that he had for me. I think he cares for me more than I care for him and that's not fair to continue the relationship and hurting him later on. We actually told each other we love each other. Even at that time, I'm not really sure I love him either or feel anything romantic for him. I even look at other guys and think they're cuter or smarter or etc.... If you're in love with someone should you feel like this? But it had been two months now, and actually I miss his company a lot. Eventhough we still talk, but whenever we hang out I have the urge to kiss him or something. I've been successful at keeping it down though and not actually perform those actions. I don't really know how I feel though. I mean I went out on date with other guys and they're nice but than I would compare them to him and say maybe he's better after all, and really never give them a fair chance. I don't know if I broke up with him to prematurely because I think he cares for me way too much than I care for him and not actually giving it a fair chance or maybe I don't really have feelings for him and my hormone is just working overtime or something. Or maybe b/c it's my first serious relationship and I have no clue what I'm feeling or doing or expecting or whatever. I feel that I need to straight out myself first before saying anything to him, because I don't want to lead him on. I think he still hasn't go out with any other girls at all or. Does he still have feeling for me? Do I still have feelings for him? I'm totally confuse as you all could tell, but right now I really miss him =( Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted June 10, 2001 Share Posted June 10, 2001 Don't worry about who has feelings for who or how much. There is no doubt that you think a lot of the guy but you are extremely young and you have a lot of living to do before you settle down. I think you did the right thing to pull back from him if you felt he had more feelings for you than you did for him. It's perfectly naturaly for you to miss him now if you had any feelings for him at all. But life moves forward. When you're finally ready to settle down, which could be in a year or two or in as much as ten years or more, you will have absolutely no doubt about the person you're with and you will have no thoughts of breaking up with him. Move forward and don't look back. Link to post Share on other sites
Some Girl Posted June 10, 2001 Share Posted June 10, 2001 Thank you Tony for your sound advice. I think I should enjoy my life now and take whatever comes my way instead of worrying too much. But it's easier say than done. Once again thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
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