primer Posted January 11, 2020 Share Posted January 11, 2020 I was on POF for a couple of months. During that time, I did meet one guy and we remain friends. That was back in August. Online dating wasn't for me. I wasn't into checking my messages all of the time and 99 percent of my contacts were no good. (Let me know if any different OLD sites are better.) I enjoy this guys company. There are a few things I have helped him out with or gave him advice on . . . . computers, health insurance, money. We have some good laughs together. However, I am hesitant to have a physical relationship with him because he is still on POF a lot and is constantly looking for someone. When I told him that I think he has women everywhere, he denies it. He says he is too busy. Yet he will tell me about a cute waitress he had or a cute girl working at McDonalds. We are both in our 50s. What do you think? Is he just looking for whatever he can get? Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 12, 2020 Share Posted January 12, 2020 (edited) Sounds like he’s still playing the field Edited January 12, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted January 12, 2020 Share Posted January 12, 2020 l'd say still just being friends then it's still being just friends that he wants. He would've shown way more interest and wanted to take it further long ago if he was interested, well l and anyone l know sure would've. Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted January 12, 2020 Share Posted January 12, 2020 I think he is meeting women and has no problem there, but they aren’t everywhere. Dating takes time more so than a relationship. He’s likely just looking for the one. He may not want to date you as he values you as a confidant. Or he may want to date you because he can talk to you and relax. i don’t think he is looking for whatever he can get, rather he is trying to get what he is looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author primer Posted January 12, 2020 Author Share Posted January 12, 2020 11 hours ago, chillii said: l'd say still just being friends then it's still being just friends that he wants. He would've shown way more interest and wanted to take it further long ago if he was interested, well l and anyone l know sure would've. Oh - he wants it to get physical but I told him not yet. I am afraid he wants to get physical with all of the other women he is checking out. I am afraid he wants to get physical with anyone that will let him. If he liked me, wouldn't he back off on playing the field? Link to post Share on other sites
Artdeco Posted January 12, 2020 Share Posted January 12, 2020 46 minutes ago, primer said: Oh - he wants it to get physical but I told him not yet. I am afraid he wants to get physical with all of the other women he is checking out. I am afraid he wants to get physical with anyone that will let him. If he liked me, wouldn't he back off on playing the field? Yes, probably. But maybe he doesn’t know where he stands with you, and therefore keeps all his doors open, just in case. Have you talked about ur relationship and what you both expect? Link to post Share on other sites
Author primer Posted January 12, 2020 Author Share Posted January 12, 2020 I told him he has too many women everywhere and he denied it. I explained I am not the type to be having sex with someone that is screwing other women too. One would think that would chase him away, but no, I still hear from him. Link to post Share on other sites
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